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How to deal with bullying? The solution of teenager Musk is worth thinking about for Chinese parents
Bullying is a fact of the education community in both China and abroad. There are different opinions on how Chinese parents and students should respond to bullying in schools. Business wizard Musk couldn't avoid being bullied when he was a child, but Musk's solution is worth thinking about for Chinese parents.
Musk is a magician, and a very scary magician. One evening, Musk went out with his partners, and suddenly one of his friends was afraid of the dark. It stands to reason that partners should be comforting, but Musk said:"Darkness is the absence of light. "As soon as the words fell, the little partner's fear of the dark did not tremble, because he felt that Musk's words made more people feel cold.
In"Gregarious"with"Unsociable"There doesn't seem to be much difference between Eastern and Western parents. People are social creatures, and it is normal for parents to worry that their children will not be accepted into the group, but from the child's point of view, this is tantamount to exposing their own shortcomings to the public.
Musk's mom, Meyer, knew that her son was unsociable and thought he had to learn to make friends, so whenever Kimbal and Tosca came home with a group of friends with different personalities, Meyer would ask them to take Musk to play, and Musk happily received it"Five-star negative review"--Everyone thinks he's boring, and no one wants to play with him.
If not having friends is just the initial stage of being unsociable, then your advanced stage is full of enemies.
Musk's high school years were spent almost constantly in school transfers, which left him with no time to make friends or get to know him, causing him to be increasingly treated as a freak, and in the adolescent world, freaks are the public enemy of humanity"Punishment"They are righteous deeds. Another reason is that Musk is thin and short, and since white South Africans at that time generally had a soft spot for men, the soft and thin Musk became the best object to show off.
One afternoon, Musk and Kimbar were eating at the top of the staircase when a boy attacked them from behind. Musk has already been provoked by the boy more than once, and each time he chooses to swallow his anger, but this time, another boy came over and kicked Musk hard in the head and pushed him down the stairs. Musk rolled to the top of the stairs, and a group of boys ran over and punched and kicked him, and the leading boy grabbed his head and threw him to the ground. When Kimbal arrives at Musk's side, he finds his brother's face swollen like a winter melon. Musk was then taken to the hospital** and only returned to school a week later.
The injury didn't stop the bullying, and Musk was harassed by these school bullies for three or four years. Not only did they bully Musk, but they also forced everyone to isolate him. At one point, a good friend of Musk's was beaten up by the gang and was not released until he promised not to associate with Musk again. Whenever he recalls these past events, Musk can't help but feel sad. After all, the lack of family love is already a great misfortune for him, and he is also bullied by his peers, and there is no hope for life for a while.
The trauma of bullying is enormous, especially for someone like Musk who likes to be alone, because he has no other outlet to vent, and his only friend is Kimbal. However, this bloody gray experience changed Musk's mentality, and he began to understand how"Gather strength"γHe doesn't want to live in fear all day, and the only thing he can do in the face of the people who bully him is to fight back.
Sounds like chicken soup, but Musk really did it.
At the age of 15, Musk finally got his books and began to try to fight back, so he frantically learned fighting skills such as karate, judo, wrestling, etc., while actively participating in various sports. Perhaps it was this intense training that opened up both of his chakras, and at the age of 16, Musk had gone from a weak nerd to a strong boy over 6 feet tall, which gave him a lot of confidence.
I'm going to start fighting back, I'm going to hit them as hard as they hit me! "
After Musk shouted this sentence in his heart, he didn't do anything, and directly faced the strongest bully in the school and singled out, and as a result, he knocked the other party to the ground with one punch, but he was not retaliated against, because all the bullies did not dare to go to him to settle accounts. For this, Musk came to a conclusion:"This taught me a lesson β if we don't fight back, school bullies will get an inch. If you punch them in the face, they'll look for other targets that won't fight back. If you fight back, they may hit you, but they won't trouble you again in the future"γ
Being bullied was a purgatory event in Musk's adolescence, but it was also a turning point in his nirvana. Instead of being destroyed by violence, he believes that he can change his fate. From that moment on, the genes flowing in Musk's blood were awakened, and the unruly and wild character traits of his maternal grandfather Joshua manifested themselves in him.
It is indeed ridiculous to think of life's difficulties as a gift of growth. But for Musk, without the intimidation of these bullies, he might have stayed in his comfort zone for a long time, reading books and playing with the computer every day; He may continue to learn and go on adventures, but the adventurous spirit in his bones will always be dormant. But with the action of external forces, the family genes were awakened, and a fire ignited in his heart, which not only allowed him to protect himself, but also made him burst out of his wolf nature.
The courage to fight bullying as a child laid the foundation for Musk's bold, risk-taking, and unyielding success in technological ventures and business competition.