always says that children watch dramas, mobile phones, and games, have you reflected on whether you are also like children?
I often hear parents complaining that their children are disobedient and ignorant, and our parents work hard to make money outside, and when they go home, they also see their children brushing Douyin** not doing their jobs properly and studying hard. Then the parents turned around, picked up their mobile phones to reply to customer work, completed work things, the mobile phone still did not put down, began to watch the news, brush Tik Tok**....
Is the above scene very classic, we are all mortals, there is a saying "children are the mirror of parents" If everyone in the library is reading books with books, and you are the only one who is using your mobile phone to brush Tik Tok**, what would you think?
When we blame our children, please first reflect on whether we have the same problem in ourselves.
Some parents reflected, "I work during the day, shouldn't I want to have fun at night?" ”
Rhetorical question: "Shouldn't children study during the day and have fun at night?" ”
In the same way, children are human beings, so why can you have fun and children can't?
I believe that many parents immediately retort that "children are students, the first task is to study, if you don't learn well, start entertaining, how can you?" ”
"What is it to be able to learn well?" How well do you learn? ”
Here, Mr. Candy hopes to share with you, in fact, when we are troubled by the pressure of work and life, we will hope that the brain can be relaxed, at this time, we try to empathize, the same is true for children, children are tired of studying, in fact, they also need entertainment to relieve stress. Therefore,When we plan our day's study with our children, it is best to calculate with them how much time they will spend to complete all the learning tasks, and whether there will be no leisure time or overload of tasks to complete?
Learning is a gradual process, not overnight. Therefore, when parents make learning plans with their children, it is best to make a series of learning plan arrangements, and then break them down into units, and finally every day, when the task is completed, agree with the child what the reward prize is, so that the child has hope, of course, the prize reward is not necessarily in kind.
In addition to the actual reward, in fact, verbal praise is also very crucial "Wow, you are awesome, I didn't expect you to complete the task so quickly today, and so fast and good!" Excellent! Mom and Dad have to learn from you, too! ”
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