In the process of children's growth, it is inevitable that various bad habits or behavioral problems will appear, which we call "bad problems". In the face of this challenge, the role of parents is not just to wait passively, but to actively guide their children to correct bad habits and work closely with teachers. Here are some tips to help parents deal with their children's problems effectively.
First, understand and accept your child's current situation. The American psychologist Carl Rogers once said, "True education consists in assisting individuals in self-realization." This means that we must respect and accept the child's true state, and understand the psychological appeal or developmental confusion that may be behind their behavior. For example, if a child's love of lying may stem from the fear of being punished for making a mistake, parents should guide them to recognize the value of honesty and create a home environment that encourages them to make mistakes and learn from them.
Second, use positive reinforcement to develop good behaviors. The operant conditioning theory proposed by the famous behaviorist scholar Skinner emphasizes that good habits can be shaped by rewarding the right behavior. When children show progress, parents should give them timely affirmation, praise and material and spiritual encouragement, so as to stimulate their motivation to make positive changes. For example, for children who are inattentive, parents can set small goals and reward the child appropriately for focusing on a task.
Furthermore, establish clear norms of conduct and family rules. The English philosopher Francis Bacon once said, "Order is the foundation of all good things." Parents should work with their children to set clear family rules and ensure that they are implemented fairly and consistently. This helps your child understand which behaviors are acceptable and which need to be corrected. At the same time, parents should also lead by example and be a good role model for their children to follow.
Finally, take the initiative to communicate and cooperate with teachers. Mr. Tao Xingzhi, an educator, advocated: "Education cannot create anything, but it can inspire children's creativity to engage in creative work." "Parents should keep in close contact with teachers to jointly ** their children's behavioral problems and the underlying reasons behind them, and find individualized solutions to different bad problems. If a child is bullying a classmate at school, parents should work with teachers to analyze the root cause and use role-play and other ways to let children experience the feeling of being bullied, so as to arouse their empathy and promote behavioural change.
In short, in the face of children's bad habits, parents need to abandon the attitude of passive waiting, and adopt the methods of understanding and acceptance, positive reinforcement, establishing rules and in-depth cooperation with teachers, and guide children to gradually change their bad habits and form good character and behavior patterns from multiple perspectives. In this process, parents and teachers, as the guides of children, should not only pay attention to the results, but also pay attention to the process, accompany the children to explore and grow together, so that they can learn self-discipline in practice and achieve a better self.