People have very different personalities, and their perceptions and positions are also very different, so different people may have different understandings and ideas about the same thing. However, this does not constitute a condition sufficient to prevent consensus or partial consensus.
Because, while human beings have a wide variety of personalities, they also have the same rationality - compromise. Choosing to allow one's temperament, position, and perception to be ignored to a limited extent in order to maximize the good, or to avoid greater damage.
So, essentially, from a certain age, or even from birth, people have a common instinct - acting. Although the degree is different and the technique is different, the motivation of the performance is the same. The purpose is to live (survive) in this world with a better quality, or to live this meaningless life in the way you like.
Since it is a performance, it is impossible not to leave traces of the performance. Therefore, it is not so difficult to see the essence from the phenomenon.
Personally, I have always considered myself to be a very sensitive and thoughtful person. Often through a small amount of contact, or even through appearance, you can see a person's true face, and judge how much effort (sacrifice) you are willing to put into a thing that does not do yourself.
It's the same feeling for my brother.
Soon after I got to know him, I had a general understanding of his temperament, especially the "careful thoughts" that might cause most people to be unhappy. First of all, of course, understanding. Although I beg to agree (and in fact I am not sure that I can do the same thing better). The second is acceptance, knowing that it is best not to touch those things that may be his boundary.
Of course, not touching it is only in the usual state, and when you have to do it, you can't manage it so much.
In the matter of his efforts, the elder brother is very willing to help others. Especially for those who he finds useful or interesting, he is willing to make friends and help. Of course, this is only within the scope of what he can "do with his hands". Beyond that, maybe he won't be so willing.
I actually thought of him working in the tax industry at the first time when we encountered the tax audit, but it was also the first time I gave up this idea and chose not to speak. It's not embarrassing to say that I didn't speak, but with the harmony I get along with him and the frequent contact, it's not embarrassing to speak. I simply thought it was beyond his "hands". It's hard for him to help us settle this matter personally, because he just doesn't want to embarrass him.
However, when the situation forced and there was really no other way, I couldn't take care of the previous reserve.
What if he just had a solution? I thought, "Everyone, even those who don't want to see most people, will have a few close friends, maybe there is one unit who happens to be handling our affairs?" ”
So, I got through my brother**. This is a rational compromise, a compromise ...... one's own perception of oneself
Good morning, February 15.