Homeschooling is really important for children.
I am very grateful to my friends for their attention to "Matters Concerning Children's Learning" and "Let's Talk about Children's Parenting", and raised questions about the role of family education. Today, I would like to take this opportunity to systematically answer my friends' questions and express my gratitude for their attention.
Family education undoubtedly has a far-reaching impact on children's growth. We often say, "dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and mice are born to make holes", although this sentence has the defect of only birthism, but it profoundly expresses the importance of family education and environment to the development of children's conduct. The words and deeds of the child's parents and those closest to them play a vital role in the formation of the child's character, habits, and values, and may even determine the child's life path. This kind of influence is like spring rain, imperceptibly penetrating into the bone marrow.
I have witnessed the stories of too many children growing up under the influence of home education. I have also witnessed examples of children who have gone down the wrong path for family reasons. Therefore, family education is the cornerstone of children's growth and an important link that we cannot ignore.
Friends may have doubts in their hearts: the child who went to the kiln factory to move bricks to earn tuition after receiving the admission letter from Tsinghua University, how should the two doctors who came out of a peasant family interpret it? How good is their home education environment?
Here I want to clarify the boundaries of some of my friends' concepts, and we are talking about character development here, which covers the moral character and behavior cultivation of people. Character development is related, but not equivalent, to knowledge education and subsequent path selection and development.
To make a visual analogy of the relationship between the two, friends have seen the process of building a house, you need to lay the foundation first, and then you can build a house on this basis. The cultivation of character is like this foundation, and the later learning of knowledge and the development path after entering the society is like building a house on the basis of conduct.
Peasants also possess high moral character. When I was a child, my parents, who were farmers, always told me, "Don't be lazy, be diligent", and they used to say, "If you don't study hard, you will be like me in the future, and you can only rub the butt of the cow." These simple and simple words and teachings are a solid foundation for our future learning and the choices we make after entering society.
Friends should have a deep understanding of the importance of conduct, right?
Character is so important, but where does it come from and how can it be cultivated?
Conduct, like the seed of life, is deeply rooted in the soil of observation and imitation, which is our instinct as living beings. If we want to talk about the starting point of conduct, it is no exaggeration to say that the development of character begins in the mother's womb, from the moment the fetus grows to have the senses of hearing and touch. Therefore, prenatal education has a scientific basis.
First-time mothers may have had the experience that when the child has not yet opened his eyes, as soon as you pick him up, he will instinctively arch in front of your chest, looking for **. At this time, your words, the sound of unbuttoning, are keenly captured by the child and leave a deep imprint on his brain. These voices became the basis for his expectations and judgments for the second, third, and countless times. You might as well do a little experiment: when you are ready to feed as usual, but do not give your child**, the child will cry. This does not mean that he is really hungry, but because in his memory, the most enjoyable part is missing.
Conduct sprouts quietly in life, and every action and sound we make may become the rain and dew that nourishes it.
The doubts of his friends may arise again, but he has not opened his eyes, how can he observe? Observation and ** are actually two different concepts. There is a real need to rely on the eyes; Observation, on the other hand, relies more on the various sensory organs of our body. The source of what we often call observation may be based on this principle.
Although the child has not yet opened his eyes, he can clearly perceive his mother's body temperature, breath, speech, and the sounds of various movements. These subtle feelings are recorded by the child in a special way. This is his first memory as a human being, and it is unusually profound. If these feelings are repeated, a kind of physical memory will be formed in his body, which is what we call instinctive memory.
Family, like a warm harbor, is the starting point for every child's moral development. Here, parents and others who are in close contact with children are like the initiation teachers of children's lives, silently influencing their behavior. After understanding the relationship between character development and later education and the choice and development of society after entering society, do friends still dare to question the value of family education?
Family is to children, like water source, which is not only the starting point of children's clothing, food, housing and transportation, but also the cornerstone of their life development. Children draw nutrients from the lives of their parents and loved ones. Knowing this, we understand how character is formed.
First of all, we need to start from ourselves, from our parents and relatives, and take on the important responsibility of children's character education. Our behavioral habits, ways of thinking, and attitudes towards others will become the objects of imitation by children and deeply affect them. Therefore, we need to lead by example and set a good example for our children.
Secondly, we should strive to create a harmonious family atmosphere where children can thrive in happiness and love. Family is their safe haven and the sustenance of their souls. It's a place where they can express themselves freely and explore the world bravely.
Finally, we need to choose a good living environment for our children. The story of Meng's mother's three migrations tells us that the environment is also very important for a child's growth. A good living environment can provide children with more opportunities to grow and help them better develop their potential.
To sum up, this chain relationship should be very clear: good family education can cultivate children's good behavior, and good behavior is the foundation for children's later education and life development. As parents and relatives, we need to start with ourselves, be good teachers for our children, and set a good example for our children. To create a harmonious family atmosphere; It is also necessary to choose a good living environment for the children. Only in this way can we truly take responsibility for children's character education and help them become virtuous and responsible people.