"It's not that simple. ”
It's the lie I've heard the most.
No matter what we do, when we talk to others about what we want to do or what we think, they will always tell you, or even persuade you, and use the experience of those who have come before us to tell you.
It's not that simple, and I advise you to think about it before you do it. ”
It's like saying, I think this method and thing you said is too difficult, and you definitely can't do it, you can't do it.
In fact, the other party has never done it, but in his life, everything is difficult, there is no simple thing, he thinks that everything in his life is difficult.
Nowadays, people's lives are too stressful and full of all kinds of negative emotions, which is regrettable.
One of the strange things I've noticed recently is that people seem to be addressing their negative emotions rather than solving the problem itself.
This is a palliative rather than a cure, just like a short-term lack of money and need to repay the mortgage, but after it is resolved, it will fall into a relaxed state, without a sense of crisis, but continue to eat, drink and have fun, and when the mortgage date is approaching, it will continue to fall into a negative mood of high pressure, unable to sleep, uncomfortable, and depressed.
It seems that everyone only wants to solve the negative emotions themselves, and just want to make their lives easier, even if it is to pay for the discomfort in the future.
In this case, look at the "most" lies.
"It's not that simple. ”
This sentence is like the experience of a middle-aged uncle who thinks he has seen through life, experienced a lot, and was defeated by reality.
There is no vitality, and there is no hope anymore.
They have experienced a lot of failures, but most of the essence is the reason why they can't persevere, do things for a week, two weeks, and give up casually when they can't see the results, of course, failure.
Then failure does not know self-reflection, is defeated by the negative emotions generated by failure, and then solves the negative emotions with the mentality of eating, drinking and having fun, rather than the failure itself.
This is the key issue of mentality, the strong put negative emotions on the back and prioritize solving the problem itself, which is failure.
And the weak are always sad and emotional, only care about their emotions, no matter how they fail, they are always in a cycle, like a circle that can't turn out.
How to change, it's not that difficult.
It is completely meaningless to solve the sadness and pain in the shortest possible time, and act immediately, and if you don't act, you will procrastinate, and if you procrastinate, you will repeat it, which is completely meaningless.
Act now, how to fail, reflect on your own problems, what to do next, start acting immediately, and don't delay.
There will be countless failures in life, but don't care about the negative emotions that arise when you fail, but solve the failure itself.
Cuban said: you can fail 10 times, 100 times, but you can succeed once.
The premise is to be able to withstand the negative emotions brought about by failure, and to solve the failure itself, and act immediately.