Wen Wan said in a mood
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Hello everyone, I'm Wanxing. You like a man first, and before you have time to confess, but you are preempted by another woman, you really hate it. Blame the other party for being too fast, or blame yourself for being in love?
Heck, the emotional entanglements in this world are really more exciting than any soap opera. No, you've encountered such a scene - the boy you like is taken first by someone else.
How to maintain your elegance and demeanor in this "emotional battle" without gunpowder? It's not hard to say.
First, when I fell in love at first sight, who expected that "I would bite the gold halfway".
You and him, maybe on a sunny afternoon, or in front of the bookshelves full of books in the library, look at each other at the moment, as if you hear the sound of a heart blooming.
But who knows, just when you are about to take the first step, you find that there is a woman who is already inseparable from him. It's like you're aiming for the last piece of chocolate cake in a restaurant, and you're about to fork it, but someone else is the first to do it, and it's really tearless.
But remember, there is a saying in the famous book Jane Eyre: "I am poor, lowly, not beautiful, but when our souls come to God through the grave, we are all equal." "In the emotional world, there is no first come, first come, only suitability. So, don't give up, maybe the story is just beginning.
Second, weigh the pros and cons, and do not do "pointless disputes".
In this case, many people may choose to directly "go to war" and try to snatch that one back.
But in my opinion, this is undoubtedly the most unwise choice. First of all, you can't be sure how he feels about you; Second, even if you succeed, you may come across as "aggressive."
It's like seeing a favorite piece of clothing in the mall, only to find out that someone else has bought it. Of course, you can choose to fight and grab, but in the end, you may just get a piece of clothing and lose the joy and peace of mind of shopping.
So, instead of fighting for nothing, it's better to calm down and think about whether this "dress" is really right for you.
3. Improve yourself and become an "irreplaceable" existence
Some people say that love is like a marathon, and only by constantly running can you reach the finish line. And in this marathon, the most important thing is not the starting point or the end, but the process. Therefore, even if you are temporarily "lagging behind" now, it does not mean that you have no chance to "overtake".
Use this time to enrich yourself! To read, to travel, to learn new skills......Make yourself better and more attractive.
When you become good enough, you will find that he may not be your only option; And that even if she is temporarily ahead, it doesn't mean that she will have the last laugh. Because in this world, no one can replace a truly excellent you.
Fourth, let go of the past and look for the "next forest".
If, after some effort, you still find that he has no feelings for you, or that he already has a heart for himself and is unwavering, then it's time to think about letting go.
This is not to say that you have to give up the right to pursue happiness, but that you have to learn to turn around at the right time and find your own "next forest".
After all, love is not the whole of life, nor is it the only option. When you look further, you will find that there are many things in this world that are worth pursuing and cherishing: such as friendship, family affection, career, ......These can also bring you happiness and satisfaction.
Fifth, smile at the situation and become your own "life director".
In the end, no matter what the outcome is, please keep smiling and gracious, because this is the best explanation you can give to yourself and the most basic respect for others.
In the world of emotions, there is no absolute winning or losing, only growth and transformation, and you are the biggest winner in this "emotional theft" incident - because you have learned how to deal with the uncertainties and challenges in life gracefully; Because you know how to constantly improve yourself and improve yourself in the process of pursuing happiness; Because you understand that only by becoming your own "life director" can you control your own wonderful life!
Conclusion:
Dear friends, when you encounter a boy you like being snatched away by another girl, please don't be discouraged or depressed, because this is not the end of the world, but the beginning of a new life.
Remember: in this world, no one can define your value but yourself! So keep your head high and move on with confidence, because there are countless beautiful things ahead of you, waiting for you to discover and cherish!