Writer Su Ling said:
Alive, he lost the ability to dig out his heart and lungs, and what was once unreserved slowly became a fortification everywhere. Friends are still friends, but they have learned to keep three points; Sincerity is also sincerity, but it will never give everything again; We learn to live, we also build retreats, and gradually we treat many people equally. ”
Maybe that's growth.
After all, we are living in an era of maximizing profits.
In the end, any relationship will never be so simple.
Human nature cannot withstand temptation and testing.
When I was young, I didn't guess each other, and I don't know when I started to become tentative and defensive.
When I was young, I felt that I was surrounded by people and that other people's business was my own business, and only after middle age did I find that there was nothing in the world except my family.
After half a lifetime, we understand that any relationship has an expiration date.
We are only awake at dusk, and home is our last place in this world.
After stepping through the waves of time and experiencing hypocrisy, we can understand it.
It's not that if you dig out your heart and lungs, the other party will be grateful, and if you don't have any reservations, you can get the same sincerity.
In this world, everyone has their own ideas, their own positions, and their own preferences.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "To anyone, you can't love too much, too extreme, if you are too good to a person, infinitely tolerate him, spoil him, obey him, then this person will become the person who does not cherish you the most in the world." ”
Any relationship, caught too deep, can be a disaster.
In my life, there are some roads, I am unwilling to go, and I am injured when I go.
It's all about the end, but it's just an acquaintance, and everyone is just a phased companion.
If you care too much and are too persistent, you will always be hurt in the end.
Adults, who is not in the quagmire of years, carrying a body of pain, swallowing all grievances, and having to start learning to face life?
Those most difficult days were all gritted and persevered.
So to live and live, you lose the ability to dig out your heart and lungs.
Maybe it's because my heart and lungs have been drained for a long time, and I have been hollowed out;
Maybe it's because people will always be stupid for a lifetime.
In this stormy life, walking and walking, people live like a hedgehog, guarding everywhere;
Or they have learned to be light and light, and it is difficult to have much interest in anything.
It's not that I don't have sincerity, but I just understand that I won't give everything I have; It's not that I don't have the ability to make friends, but I have learned to keep three points.
Because keeping your mouth and not causing trouble, and keeping your heart and not making mistakes.
The best relationship between people is not intimacy, not talking about everything, but leaving an appropriate distance.
Don't rely too much on each other, don't over-penetrate each other, be close to each other, see through and don't say anything, in order to live in harmony and be comfortable with each other.
When people reach a certain age, they will eventually learn to let go of the entanglements of the past, let go of the past giving, and let go of all illusions.
Don't chase what you can't catch up, put down what you can't move, ignore what you can't get used to, let go of everything that is light, be practical, be pragmatic, and focus on yourself.
Life is a process from simple to complex, and from complex to simple.
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