Quarrels, contradictions, misunderstandings, and estrangements seem to be inevitable.
After the quarrel, some people seem to have experienced a baptism of the soul and become more and more intimate.
After emo, the two hearts resonated more tacitly, as if they had found the best balance of feelings in the training.
However, there are still some people who get out of control at the moment of the quarrel, and it turns into fire and water in less than two minutes, and the tragedy ends.
Why are there so many differences when there are similar emotional problems?
Perhaps, the key is whether the two sides can choose to fight side by side rather than against each other in the face of the problem.
On the battlefield of feelings, we often stand on our own fronts, showing our edges, and ignoring the original intention of solving problems together.
It's like sitting on a ship that is sailing together, and suddenly you find that the cabin is leaking, and the crisis strikes.
Some may find ways to scoop out of the water and defend the ship together;
And some people choose the hostility in front of them, and even think about throwing each other off the boat in order to protect themselves.
When the problem is still a trickle, can we let go of personal stubbornness and deal with the dilemma together?
Instead of rushing to cut the boat when the problem becomes unmanageable.
Just like the moment when water seeps into the cabin, if we can work together, we may be able to save this relationship.
But when we choose to fight each other and only focus on solving our own problems, the problem will become like a flood, and eventually it will become unmanageable.
In relationships, in the face of problems, what we need is unity.
It's like two hearts tempering a more solid tacit understanding in the wind and rain again and again.
Quarrels may be a necessary form of expression, but the key is whether you can think rationally and find a way to solve problems together after emotional fluctuations.
It's like being in a pitch black ocean, with two small boats tossing in the wind and waves.
One partner may be frustrated by a quarrel, but if the other party can reach out and face the impact of the waves together, perhaps they will be able to find a stable harbor in a rough life.
Quarreling is not only the release of emotion, but also the depth of emotional examination again and again.
When we can find empathy in a quarrel, it is like finding a partner in a storm, and the relationship will be strengthened in the test.
On the contrary, if we choose to quarrel, we will only lose more in vain.
Therefore, let's no longer choose to compete against each other, but to ride out the storm together.
When a relationship is in crisis, don't shift the blame to the other person, but try to find a way to solve it.
Perhaps, in that rough sea, we can find a broader blue ocean and redefine our relationship with each other.