The "poisonous friendship" of middle school students is quietly emerging, which is worrying
In the process of children's growth, in addition to caring about their academics and physical health, it is also important to pay attention to their friends. As students enter adolescence, they may become more rebellious and turn a deaf ear to their parents' advice. At this stage, the friends students choose have a significant impact on their growth and academics. In addition to puppy love, parents also need to pay attention to another situation, that is, "toxic friendship". Toxic friendships are spreading among middle school students, and their severity is even greater than that of puppy love, which can have a negative impact on students' academic performance and physical and mental health. Therefore, parents should remain vigilant, recognize and pay attention to the existence of this problem, and help their children establish a correct outlook on life and making friends.
How to recognize toxic friendships.
Middle school students have a relatively high frequency of making friends, especially in the class, where they have the most opportunities to make friends. This is a normal phenomenon, because good friends get along with each other, learn from each other, and form a positive energy of "mutual promotion and synchronous improvement". However, there may be unhealthy conditions between some classmates, the so-called "toxic friendship":
The first situation is "three wrong views", poor academic performance and lack of effort. Academics are the top priority for students, and students who do not achieve satisfactory results but have a serious and hard-working attitude are positive friends. However, if a student's grades are poor and lack of effort, or even lead to a distorted outlook, it will have a negative impact on other students, and such a friend can be called a "drug friend".
The second situation is that the relationship is superficially intimate, but in fact it is gossip. Some friends seem to be close to each other on the surface, and they almost don't talk about anything. But in fact, they gossip behind their backs and improve themselves by belittling others, and this kind of "knife insertion" behavior constitutes a poisonous friendship and seriously affects the relationship between students.
The third situation is "learning from people", blindly imitating. It is normal for friends to have similarities such as similar hairstyles, same shoes, etc. However, if there are students who always imitate others mechanically, and even have no changes in hairstyles, shoes, and personal belongings, and are competitive and unscrupulous, this is the so-called scholar. Such classmates are not good for the development of friendships.
How to deal with toxic friendships.
Parents should help their children identify drug friends and avoid associating with drug friends. However, the approach to dealing with toxic friendships is equally crucial:
First of all, parents should not easily impose "good and bad" labels on students, but get to know their good friends by observing and communicating with students. If it is found that a student does have a "drug friend", parents should take action.
Second, don't forcibly prohibit students from associating with a classmate. Junior high school students may have a certain rebellious mentality, and if parents explicitly prohibit it, students may be more inclined to disobey. The key is to adopt the right way and method, through guidance and communication with students, and guide students to choose to interact with students with positive energy and good conduct, so as to balance freedom and restraint.
Finally, have an equal discussion with your child. Parents should respect their students' right to make friends, but at the same time, they should also express their observations and opinions about their students' friends. When guiding children to establish a correct concept of making friends, parents should improve their children's ability to identify drug friends and reject drug friends.
Personal summary. Friends play a very important role in a student's development. In junior high school, the friends students choose have a direct impact on their future trajectory. Toxic friendship spreads among students, and its severity even exceeds that of puppy love, which can easily lead students astray. In the process of children's growth, parents should pay attention to their children's friendship and help them establish a correct outlook on life and friends. Parents should not easily label their students as "good and bad", but should adopt the right approach to guide rather than prohibit. Under the influence of good character qualities, children can learn to distinguish standards and find their own sublimation heights.