"Hold fireworks in your hands to make a living, and poetry in your heart to make love".
In Atlanta, USA in 1935, writer Margaret Mitchell completed her first and only film in a small messy apartment.
This ** tells the life process of the protagonist Scarlett O'Hara before and after the American Civil War. She was forced to transform from a pampered noble lady into a shrewd and capable businesswoman.
Scarlett's life has been full of twists and turns.
With her home overturned, her mother dying, and her father going insane, she had to endure a series of blows in her life. In the process, she gradually grew from a girl who relied on others to an independent and self-reliant woman.
The first time I read Gone with the Wind was when I was in high school, I didn't understand the world and was impressed by Scarlett's tenacious vitality.
When I read it later, it was at the stage when I first got involved in society in the workplace, and I felt the cruelty and impermanence of fate from the ups and downs of her life.
Now, when I open this book again, I understand why a woman should make a living first and then seek love.
01.People who don't know how to love themselves are destined to not love others
Scarlett, the girl who grew up in Tara Manor, lives a carefree life. She is deeply in love with her neighbor Ashley, but because of a war, life has changed beyond recognition.
Ashley's refusal made Scarlett embarrassed and angry, and she hurriedly married Charles in order to save face. However, this marriage was just a farce, which did not bring her happiness, but instead put her in a greater predicament.
02.Those who use marriage as a tool will eventually become a tool of marriage
Scarlett's second marriage was to cope with the pressures of life. She married a wealthy businessman, Rhett, but found out that Rhett had been taken away by **. So, she married her sister's fiancé Frank instead, in exchange for the family's financial support.
However, there is no happiness in this marriage, only endless quarrels and loneliness. Scarlett understands that without the capital to settle down, there is no right to pursue happiness; If you don't have the confidence to live independently, you will lose the freedom to choose marriage.
03.Love is not the whole of life, and marriage is not the sustenance of women
After two failed marriages, Scarlett finally realizes that she needs to be independent and needs to live for herself. She let go of her obsession with Ashley and began to work hard to save her family's fortune.
In the process, Scarlett gradually found her self-worth. She no longer relied on marriage, but through her own efforts, she earned respect and happiness. She understands that love and marriage are only part of life, not the whole story.
04.Independent women must have a fireworks atmosphere and a poetic life
In "Gone with the Wind", Scarlett grows from a carefree girl to an independent, resilient woman. She endured war, famine, and family breakdown, but she always maintained her love of life.
She understands that independent women not only have to earn a living, but also love. "Hold fireworks in your hands to make a living, and poetry in your heart to make love".Only by loving oneself first can one love others; Only with the capital to settle down can we pursue happiness.
After watching "Gone with the Wind" three times, I understand why a woman should make a living first and then seek love in this life. "Hold fireworks in your hands to make a living, and poetry in your heart to make love".Only by loving oneself first can one love others; Only with the capital to settle down can we pursue happiness.
In this process, we must be like Scarlett, bravely face the difficulties of life, persevere, be independent, and live our own wonderful life.