Recently, in fact, I can't say that recently, just in the past two years, I slowly found that girls are becoming more and more difficult to "fool". 
Especially not easy to be fooled by so-called love, affection and the like.
Although occasionally seeing some things will make me have a feeling of "no, you dare to believe it", but I have to say that on the whole, contemporary girls have awakened to a new realm.
For example, I saw it two days ago, a man posted a ** of "deeply missing his ex-girlfriend", saying that he missed her too much, so he booked the hotel where the two of them used to stay, and dreamed of her. 
can almost understand what he means, maybe in his own eyes, he is nostalgic, affectionate, and the image of a persistent, gentle, and long-lived man is about to come out. Unexpectedly, female netizens didn't buy it at all, and the high praise in the comment area was all mocking him for acting.
There are also people who ruthlessly pierce the little ninety-nine in his heart.
Of course, in all fairness, maybe he really didn't think so much, and he did miss his ex-girlfriend, and chose the easiest way to impress himself to express it. It's not wrong to move yourself.
JustUsing "deep nostalgia for his ex" to emphasize that he is a man who values affection, and exaggerates his emotional value in disguise, this set of dramas is outdated. In the eyes of today's girls, you didn't cherish it when you were together, and you cried and acted here after you broke up, who is it for?
If it was a few years ago, this kind of thing might be acceptable, at that time, everyone still believed in a man's "affection", believed in a man's mouth, believed that a man showed love for you that he loved you very much, and believed that a single man who was obsessed with his ex would not be bad enough.
But slowly many girls realized that something was wrong, whether the man only said but did not do or the words and deeds were combined, it seems that the so-called love and "affection" of men are very fragile, and can be mass-produced and distributed. A man who mourns his deceased wife every day can quietly remarry and have children, a man who has a girlfriend or wife and children in his circle of friends can send messages to other girls and proudly say that "he has no feelings with the object", and some time management masters can also show equal affection for two girls at the same time. Even this kind of "affection" has a lot of utilitarianism, sometimes it is just to coax a woman to get married, and this side is still complaining to your ex, and the story of the "official announcement" and the current certificate after two days has never been uncommon.
Women are willing to believe in men's "love", how many women have not been influenced by the romantic narrative of traditional love? How many women have never dreamed of a beautiful imagination from love to marriage?
In this context, women give up their obsession with "men's love" little by little, which is the best illustrative of the problem.
In a way, the men's bowls were smashed by themselves.
I miss my ex deeply because the current one is not in place, and the love that I can say to you can also be said to others, and no matter how busy he is on the surface, he will not delay his search for the next home, and the ...... of "the first sword on the shore, first cut the person in love".Netizens saw through the man's disguise and romance at a glance that behind the countless real-life stories were the lessons learned.
There is also a "sweet story" of "he loves me so much" style that collapses.
For example, another very popular ** at the same time, a girl sent it, saying that she temporarily wanted to go home with her boyfriend late at night, and wanted to cook but neither of them could turn on the gas stove, so her boyfriend called his mother out, and his mother taught him to cook, so the girl "At this moment, I identify my boy even more".
In fact, I don't understand this logic, it's his mother who cooks and not him, it's his mother who gets up in the middle of the night to take care of this girl, obviously the girl should marry his mother......
And netizens think deeper than me.
"His mother now is the future you, who was called in the middle of the night. ”
I didn't expect this layer to be moved by this kind of story, everyone only saw that this man couldn't do anything, and he couldn't take the responsibility of feelings.
Even the scene of "quarreling in the future" was clearly predicted for the girl.
It's not that this girl can't be moved by this, after all, this is her personal choice, and it's not that netizens are deliberately stirring up trouble and are insulated from "romance".
It can only be said thatWhen men's low-cost and high-return "love" routines are gradually seen through, women's standards for love and romance are gradually rising, becoming more and more "pragmatic".
They are more interested in what men actually do and what the results are, and whether men can be held accountable for the love they show.
Compared with men's promises, pies, "I will marry you" and "be good to you", they pay more attention to the tangible benefits that feelings can bring to them, and the real character and way of doing things of this man outside of feelings.
Anyone will say that those heart-warming words and deeds during the love period can be done by anyone with a little more heart, but the details outside the relationship are often more important. There is another similar example, the girl lamented that her cousin did not marry the person she loved the most when she was 28 years old, and she could only use wine to drown her sorrows, which was very pitiful.
What netizens saw was that he was a 28-year-old adult man with the ability to stand on his own feet, and he couldn't even fight for the person he claimed to be "favorite", let alone those who had it and didn't have it.
And this is all his own words, no one is sure if he has new feelings, "drinking with a blank face" may also be a performance, after all, he knows that someone will believe it.
A person who is not capable of being responsible for his feelings obviously can't afford the name of "affectionate", which also makes this "true love outpouring" seem ridiculous. So I don't blame netizens for being so damaged, they see it very thoroughly.
It's like seeing a girl say, she doesn't think that a man can't play that kind of "still love ex-girlfriend" type of affection, she just thinks that this affection has nothing to do with herHe used to love his ex-girlfriend deeply, but he didn't necessarily love her deeply, and this "advantage" didn't mean anything to herSince it doesn't make sense, of course I don't think it's touching. Maybe this doesn't mean that they themselves can be as sober when facing such situations, but at least this has planted a seed in their concepts, at least those girls who are too gullible to trust men will see it and look at the problem from a more perspective, learning to look beyond the surface of a man and focus on "what I can get from him". In other words, women in the past did not believe so much in the cakes that men drew for them, but many times they had to believe because there was no choice. Women who have been in too much love will be belittled and humiliated, women who have not been able to go from love to marriage with a man are "failures", "they can't get married when they are older", etc., all limit women's choices, and it is better to accept all men's lies. Women can openly expose men's performative personality, which also means that women's choices have become wider, and there is no need to accompany men to perform anymore, real or fake, the left ear goes in and the right ear goes out, trying to be happy for a while, and the real value is those real things, as well as a firm self.