Hello everyone and welcome to the half-way acceleration time.
Communicate with people in daily life, talk and listen, move and stillness, and face both sides. If you don't take the initiative to control and let the conversation take your toes, it's like flooding the farmland when it is watered, which is time-consuming and inefficient. Guiguzi requires us to take the initiative to control each other, so that the water is diverted into the canal, which is efficient and controllable.
Guiguzi taught us four principles to follow. Controversy ProjectPrinciple 1 is logical
Everything in the world must be logical, cause and effect arise from each other, and the same is true for speaking and behaving. When two people speak, both parties should follow this principle, speak logically by themselves, and do not think that the other party can deceive well. When the other party is talking, he listens quietly, and if he feels that it is not logical, he should ask the question in time and judge whether there is a problem from the answer.
Principle two, conscious control
People have an instinct that language will produce associations in the brain, that is, a sense of pictures, and then they will compare them with their own experiences. So, we have to have conscious control. Prepare what you want to say in advance, guide the other party with examples that are close to the other party's experience or the situation around you, so that he can have expected associations, and involuntarily compare with himself, so that the other party can produce the expected conclusions we expect.
Principle 3: Be calm
In the process of communication, according to the other party's reaction, change the words to call the other party, resonate with the other party, and say what is in your heart. In order to better resonate, you need to be calm and give up distracting thoughts in order to resonate with the other party. Only when you agree will you make communication smooth and efficient.
Principle 4: Self-analysis
If you want to understand each other, you must first understand yourself. In fact, people's instinctive reactions are the same, and to fully understand oneself is to fully understand the characteristics of human nature. Before you open your mouth to speak, think about how you will react to what you hear, so that you can get a rough idea of what the other person is thinking. In this way, you can guide the other party to start according to your own expectations at the beginning stage of things, and guide you to end with your desired results at the end of the closing stage.
Appreciation of the original text:
The great transformer of the ancients is born with the invisible. On the contrary, we look at the past and experience it; On the contrary, we know the past and the present; On the contrary, to know the other, to know the self. The principle of movement and stillness is not in line with the present and the present, and it is sought by the past. If there is a thing that is overturned, the will of the saint must not be ignored.
Those who speak are also moving; Those who are silent are also quiet. Because of its words, listen to its words. If there is a disagreement, but ask for it, it will come out. Words have images, and things have comparisons. It has an image ratio, followed by a view. The elephant is like his thing, and the comparison is better than his words. Seeking sound with intangible, its fishing language is in harmony, and it is true. If you set up a net and take the beast, more than one will do it. The way is in line with the matter, he comes out of it, and this fishing net is also. Always hold its net to drive it, its words are incomparable, but it is to change for it, to move it with images, to repay its heart, to see its feelings, and then shepherd it. has reversed, the other has come, and there is a comparison between words, so the foundation is set. Heavy attack, on the contrary, everything is not lost, the saint seduces the foolish, and everything is not doubted.
Those who are good at listening to the ancients turn into ghosts and gods to get their affection. Its change is also, and the pastoral judgment is also. The shepherd does not judge, and the situation is unknown; The circumstances are unknown, and the basis is not tried. There will be counter-arguments in the comparison of the transfiguration, and the basis will be listened to. I want to hear its voice and oppose it, I want to be open, I want to be high and down, and I want to take it. Those who want to be in love, like and compare, with their words, call each other with the same voice, and return to the same place. or because of this, or because of the other, or in the matter, or in the pastoral, this hears the truth and falsehood, knows the similarities and differences, and obtains its feelings and deceits. The action is silent, and it is different from this, and the joy and anger are seen in this way, and they are all predetermined by the law. Seek revenge with the opposite, and look at what it supports. Therefore, those who use this want to be calm, to listen to their words, to observe their affairs, to talk about all things, and not to be male or female. Although it is not a thing, see the micro-knowledge. If you explore people and live in them, you can shoot their intentions. The charm should not be lost, as pointed by the snake, if the arrow of Yi.
Therefore, the beginning of knowing oneself, knowing oneself and then knowing others. It also knows each other, if it is a fish of the flounder. Its service is also, if the sound is loud; See its form, like light and shadow; Its observation is also like a magnet to take a needle, and a tongue to take a burnt bone. He is also very little with people, and his feelings are also sick. such as yin and yang, such as yang and yin; Such as a circle and a square, such as a square and a circle. If you don't see the shape of the circle, you can see the shape of the way. Advance and retreat left and right, so as to be the division. It has not been decided in advance, the shepherd is not right, and the use of things is not coincidental, which is called "forgetting love and losing the way"; It has been judged and decided to enter the pastor, and the strategy is not described, and it is called "God".
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