Marriage is predestined
1.Rural people often say: "If you don't grow crops well, it may be temporary, but if you can't marry a wife, it will be a lifetime." Finding a suitable partner and building a wonderful family is the greatest luck in life.
On the contrary, it is the greatest misfortune in life to meet a person who is not in harmony and makes the family noisy. The discord between husband and wife is often caused by the fate of the past life and the conflict of the present life, and it is very difficult to change it.
Only by working together can husbands and wives overcome difficulties together and achieve a better future. Some couples can hold the hand of their son and grow old together, while some couples spend their lives in noisy noise.
Marriage is a fair repayment, and only an enlightened person can cultivate karma from this life, accumulate virtue, and warm his partner.
Marriage is a kind of fate, and it is also an acquired maintenance. If one party has a bad temper, there will be more conflicts, and once the emotions get out of control, the family will lose harmony and resentment will accumulate more and more.
A harmonious husband and wife, with complementary personalities, discuss things together, and respect each other's personalities, will have a prosperous life. Although some couples have experienced life and death, their love is as deep as the sea and their fate is as thick as the earth, and they will inevitably meet and be inseparable when they come to the world.
However, all marriages have antecedents, some are only one-sided, some are deep and shallow, some are inseparable, and some are only short-lived, and they parted ways.
The longevity of a marriage is not only affected by fate, but also related to the maintenance of the day after tomorrow. Whether you can tolerate and understand each other, whether you can be sincere, whether you can change yourself for the other party, and whether you cherish your fate are the keys to a long-term marriage.
But no one can have everything, no one can have perfect love, the trivial things in life, the poor life, will affect the stability of the marriage. Even, some people will be self-indulgent, looking for flowers and willows, marriage has existed in name only, just for the sake of children, temporarily make do with life.
Marriages are challenging, and money status seems to determine the quality and happiness of love. The outside world is full of **, which makes many young people pursue a flashy lifestyle.
Love is no longer sacred, and there are more and more divorces. Families become fragmented, and people are reluctant to compromise to save them. Some divorces are faster than marriage, leaving a bunch of problems for parents to bear and be at ease with themselves.
They regard their parents as nannies, regard marriage as child's play, love is in full swing, and when they leave, they are clean and neat, irrelevant, do not owe each other, do not communicate with each other, completely cut off, and stage a human farce alive.
Love is fragile, love is like a seedling, you hurt me once, I hurt you once, and soon it will fall, this is not predestined. People with incompatible personalities are destined to not be able to tolerate each other, even if they part ways.
Fate is sometimes elusive, if you guard it once, I guard it once, can it last for a long time? You don't hesitate to fate, I am even worse, I don't leave a line, how can we meet each other well? Won't you still be enemies in the next life?
A love that is not cherished will only come to an end in the end, which makes people feel painful.
In modern society, some people tend to believe in love at first sight and momentary heartbeat, and the information on ** often misleads us, making us mistakenly believe that divorce is a good thing that requires a lot of courage, and even think that divorce is the progress of women's awakening.
However, marriage is not a game that ends with an end to things, it requires more patience, understanding, and dedication. In reality, we see more people getting divorced on the spur of the moment, but neglecting the happiness of their children and families.
The shelf life of love is indeed very short, and marriage requires a long period of operation and dedication. Some say that marriage is the grave of love, but this is only the view of pessimists.
In fact, love is a momentary impulse, and the price of impulse is borne by ourselves, including youth and damage to the heart. Love will eventually develop into family affection and friendship, and become a tacit understanding and mutual cooperation of the heart.
Marriage is not simply to live together, but to make our lives warmer. There are fewer and fewer days together, so we have to cherish every moment of companionship, because one day we will leave.
If we go head-to-head in our marriage, we will only lose both. When the relationship deteriorates, we can't go back to the past, even if we want to start over. We should sow good causes and reap good results.
Only enlightened people can know how to continue the frontier, change themselves, endure humiliation, cultivate their fate from this life, accumulate good and virtuous little by little, influence their families, and warm their partners.
In marriage, there is no right or wrong, only good and evil. We should benefit others for good and harm others for evil, instead of blaming each other. We should benefit people, not hurt others.
05 Men claim that women are unreliable and too materialistic, and women refute that men are incompetent and have poor conduct. This is not only sowing discord, but also a delusion. There is no spiritual communication, only endless comparison and greed.
Love becomes a captive of desire, a victim of material life, so love is only as ephemeral as a flower, and it withers immediately. The people we meet in our marriage are all predestined.
Fortune, fate. What is in the fate will always come, and if there is no in the hit, don't force it. Since we are destined to get together, we must work together and move towards a goal in order to reap the good fruits.
Don't covet comfort and blame the other person. No one is perfect, and no one is omnipotent. If you make a bunch of demands on others, others will also make a series of demands on you, and people are a two-way choice in marriage, never a one-sided request.
What happens to a person is predestined. You can't die without marriage, but you can't die without a happy marriage. Marriage is the sincere cooperation of both parties, the husband and wife are harmonious, and the husband and wife follow the wife, rather than one party blindly paying, and the other party only enjoys.
The scales of marriage cannot be tilted, and balance and reason cannot be lost.
06 In a patriarchal society, women are often in a weak position in marriage, because men can marry multiple times and are rarely blamed. If a woman has been married multiple times, she will undoubtedly suffer.
Reality can tolerate men marrying multiple times, but women are not allowed to marry multiple times, which is the cruelty of reality. Therefore, when considering marriage, women must be thoughtful, figure out where they stand, and do not cohabit or marry a man easily.
Chastity is more important for women, and although modern society has become more open, the importance of chastity cannot be ignored. People who neglect their chastity often become victims.
The ancients demanded that women be virtuous, in fact, to protect women, because women are more vulnerable. Of course, I think men should also be chaste so that they can achieve equality in marriage.
Marriage is equal, and no one should despise the other. If a woman marries four, five, six or seven men, do you think it is still valuable? Therefore, cherish fate and don't easily marry a person and then divorce again.
Divorce can be psychological, familial, and human to both parties. Of course, both men and women should cherish marital love, and whoever is unfaithful and wantonly destroys it will be up to him to bear the karma.
Don't complain about God's injustice, everything is your own fault, and you need to pay it back. Marriage is a fair repayment, no one owes anyone, and people cannot live up to God's arrangement.