I was born in 1954 and grew up in a rural family in northern Jiangsu. In order to change my fate, I resolutely chose to enlist in the army in 1972, and the competition was extremely fierce, and only 17 people in the whole commune were selected, and I was fortunate to be one of them. This made my father kill the only old hen in the family and invite the neighbors to dinner, and the ancestral grave seemed to be smoking, while my mother was full of expectations for my future.
Most of the soldiers of the same year who joined the army with me had already found a girlfriend before enlisting in the army, laying the foundation for future marriage. However, I was different, although my family was good and my father was the secretary of the brigade, he thought that I was still young and had an undecided career, and advocated that I should consider starting a family after I started a business. Therefore, I did not have an object like other comrades-in-arms.
On the way to the army, my comrades-in-arms often made fun of me, calling me a "single dog", perhaps because I had never been in a relationship and focused on training. I threw myself into the life of the barracks, became a deputy squad leader, served as a clerk and ordnance officer, and later was promoted to ** platoon commander, and finally officially became a platoon commander.
Soon after I was promoted, the political commissar of the regiment learned that I was still single and took the initiative to arrange a blind date for me. This arrangement came from the political commissar, and I naturally did not dare to slack off.
Wash and tidy up in advance, improve your image, and come to the door of the political commissar's house on time. The political commissar introduced him to a doctor, the daughter of the division chief, and although we didn't meet much for the first time, we both felt willing to continue to get along.
Born in an ordinary rural area, his family background is average. Compared to the blind date introduced by the political commissar, it feels as if you are from a different world. I didn't expect to be able to have the opportunity to have a relationship with the daughter of the division chief, which really surprised and luckily me.
After establishing my relationship with the daughter of the division commander, I made a request to the company to return home to visit my family. I haven't been home for more than four years, and I miss my family very much. The company leaders expressed their understanding of my wishes and quickly went through the procedures for visiting my relatives, which made me feel emotional.
To surprise my parents, I chose not to inform them in advance. When I returned to the village in the evening, when the peasants returned home from work, they greeted me one after another, which made me feel warm.
When I got home, I found my parents busy sorting out farm tools. When they saw me suddenly appear, they were surprised and delighted, and quickly pulled me into the house. My mother scolded me for not being sensible and not telling them in advance.
After dinner, a high school classmate and her mother came to visit. She is the daughter of the leader of the commune, and she is outstandingly good-looking, and has been pursued by many cadres' children.
She was the secretary of the Youth League in my high school class and the introducer when I joined the Youth League organization. After graduating, she became an elementary school teacher.
I always had a good impression of her, but unfortunately I didn't think I was in a good enough condition at that time, and I didn't want to develop with her.
I heard that she hadn't found a suitable match, and she began to get anxious as she got older. It was only after knowing that I was promoted that they began to consider dating me.
One day she came to my house to propose, but I told her that I already had a partner. I even found out the ** of the blind date that the former political commissar gave me to show her, hoping that she would understand.
Unexpectedly, not only did she not accept the reality, but she also lost control of her emotions and made a very unpleasant scene. Even if my family and I tried to persuade her, she couldn't calm down.
In the end, I had to find her relatives to persuade her to go home. Worried that she would come to me again, I returned to the army early.
Shortly after returning to the army, I was appointed administrative administrator of the divisional organs. Two months later, he was arranged to study at the Beijing Air Force Academy.
Before studying in Beijing, I had already been to the home of my blind date several times. Their parents were very fond of me, hospitable every time, and cared if I was in trouble.
My communication with the blind date has always been very cold, and she rarely takes the initiative to contact me, and even if there is contact, it is only careful and not warm. During my study in Beijing, almost all of my classmates had lovers, and they communicated closely and frequently. However, I had very little contact with my blind date, and I wrote to her, but I wrote back. Each reply is incomprehensibly short, and it doesn't feel like a romantic relationship, or even a regular pen pal.
Once, a senior ** came to the college to find me, and he was instructed to find out about my situation with my blind date. I reported it to him truthfully, and he sighed and told me an astonishing fact: the blind date had been in a relationship for many years, but because of my parents' opposition, she was so cold to me. The parents wanted me to be their son-in-law, but they didn't communicate with the blind date, which led to her being suspicious of me.
I am not a fool and understand that forced feelings do not end well. So the next day, I resolutely wrote to my blind date and her parents, expressing my decision to end my relationship with her. In the letter, I encouraged her to stick to her original intention and not to give up on her original relationship easily. Soon, the parents of the blind date wrote back to express their understanding and agree with my decision. The blind date also agreed to end our relationship, but our friendship grew stronger because of it.
After finishing my studies in Beijing, I returned to the army and was assigned to the Division Commander's Investigation Section. Since then, more people have introduced me to people. One morning, a comrade-in-arms introduced me to the daughter of a soldier and praised her for her tall figure, outstanding appearance, and first-class moral character. So, we agreed to meet that evening.
In the afternoon, I was approached by the head of the division's political department, who was going to introduce me to a girl who was a teacher at the army's elementary school.
The girl's parents were both high-ranking officers in the army, but when I heard that she was not tall, I politely declined the offer.
The director curiously asked me if I already had a subject, and I told him the truth that I had someone introduced by a comrade-in-arms.
After hearing this, the director told me that this girl was very good-looking, but she had suffered from asthma since she was a child, so it was not suitable for us to meet.
I trusted the director and knew that he wouldn't deliberately stir up trouble, so I had to cancel my plan to meet the girl.
On the way back to the dormitory after dinner, I met the political commissar of the flying regiment in the courtyard, who was also a native of northern Jiangsu.
He asked me if I had a partner, and I honestly replied no. February** Dynamic Incentive Program
So, he offered to introduce me to a partner named Wang Lina, who was from the same county as me, worked in the grain department, and was three years younger than me.
Under the arrangement of the administrative committee of Lao Xiangfei, Wang Lina and I met soon, we were very satisfied with each other, and we got married after more than a year of dating.
Today, we have been living together through thick and thin for more than forty years. Looking back on my experience of finding a partner and marriage, I am convinced that the arrangement of life is predestined.