There is a cloud in the Tao Te Ching: "The important weapon of the country can not be easily revealed." ”
This is true, from the state to the individual. Remain mysterious and keep your hole cards in order to protect your own interests and safety.
As the saying goes, people's hearts are unpredictable, and the world is unpredictable.
You have no way of knowing when people's hearts will change;
You don't know when the arrow will strike.
In the face of anyone and anything, we must not take it lightly, we must not lose our defense, and we must not get carried away.
Don't show your weaknesses. Weaknesses are like Achilles' heels, and once exposed, they can become the target of attack. This weakness may be exploited by others to threaten them for personal gain. Therefore, we should hide our weaknesses and strengthen ourselves so that we do not become controlled by others.
Don't leak the secrets in your heart. Secrets are like treasures, and if they are revealed, they are worthless. Or because of the leakage of secrets, it is used by others, causing a lot of trouble. Therefore, guarding secrets is an important measure to protect yourself.
Don't give your hands on it. Strategy is like the art of war, it is a guide to action. If you show your strategy, it is tantamount to self-destructing the Great Wall and putting yourself in a passive position. Only by holding on to the strategy and being flexible can we have an advantage in the competition.
Life is like a battlefield, and it is important to protect yourself. Showing your hole cards is tantamount to exposing your shortcomings.
We should be cautious and guard these three hole cards to ensure that everything is safe and that danger is averted.
Be true to yourself.
Tao Te Ching, Chapter 36 says: "If you want to do it, you will fix it; He who wants to be weak will be strong; If you want to abolish it, you will fix it; If you take what you want, you will fix it; It's a twilight. Weakness is better than strength. ”
This passage actually tells us that things must be opposed, and people should be weak in the world in order to return to the road, ensure their own safety, and achieve everything.
If you show yourself too truly, you will be able to grasp on your weaknesses and use them to deal you a fatal blow that you will regret for the rest of your life.
The more you reveal your true self, the more crises, difficulties, ups and downs, and failures will increase.
Showing the true state of the economy can lead to jealousy, misfortune, and hostility, and nothing else.
As the saying goes, wealth is not exposed, people's hearts are sinister, and human nature is only between good and evil.
You expose the truth as if you were on the edge of a cliff, ready to be pushed off the abyss.
In the long run, you will have nothing to gain by showing these hole cards but danger and predicament.
When interacting with others, you must learn to endure the word, so that you can keep the hole cards, which is difficult to see through and you are safer.
Hold back: don't express, don't trust, don't be frivolous, don't show off, don't show off, don't just say it.
Only by suppressing that restless heart can we calm down, control our words and deeds, do not expose our hole cards, be in a safe situation, and achieve something.
It is necessary to know that forbearance is a kind of wisdom and a kind of realm.
Holding back your true self is not hypocrisy, but a form of self-preservation.
In complex relationships, maintaining a sense of mystery will help you avoid unnecessary trouble.
To endure is to move forward better, in order to go more steadily and further on the road of life.
However, holding back is not just about withdrawing or running away. At the right time, we also need to show the real side, but in moderation and with strategy. This is a way to protect yourself and build genuine relationships with others.
Life is like chess, and every step needs to be cautious.
Showing your hole cards may make you passive;
Only by holding the hole cards can you take the initiative.
The past is not ostentatious.
Tao Te Ching, Chapter 46 says: "There is a way in the world, but it is dung; There is no way in the world, and Rong Ma is born in effect. There is no greater blame than desire, and no misfortune is greater than discontentment. Therefore, contentment is always sufficient. ”
Only by following the "Tao" can we be calm and tranquil; If you deviate from the "Word," you will surely have no peace.
There is no greater mistake in life than insatiable greed;
There is no greater disaster in life than not being satisfied.
Those who are content are always happy.
Talking about the past and showing off the glory of the past is actually an expression of dissatisfaction with the status quo and a hint of dissatisfaction with existing happiness.
This kind of behavior reveals that you are eager to change, but you are unwilling to take action, and you can only satisfy your vanity by talking to others about the past, and get temporary satisfaction and solace.
As everyone knows, these illusory satisfactions, instead of changing the status quo, may bring more trouble and make you a prey in the eyes of others.
A moment of vanity, a moment of ostentation, will give others insight into your current predicament and greed.
And once this hole card is exposed, all you can get is the calculation and contempt of others, and more calamities.
When interacting with people, you must learn to think calmly. The past has become a thing of the past. Let the past pass, and it is useless to rehash it.
If there is a mismatch between ability and ambition, accept the present moment and accept everything you have.
Only by knowing how to be content can we always be happy, not be confused, keep the hole cards, turn over, and re-climb to the top.
The chores at home are unspeakable.
Tao Te Ching, Chapter 51 has a cloud: "The Tao is born, the virtue is the animal, the form of the object, and the potential is formed." It is to respect all things and be virtuous. The respect of the Tao, the nobility of virtue, the life of Fu Mo and the nature of the usual. ”
Tao gives birth to all things, and virtue nourishes all things. All things have different forms, different circumstances, and different paths to growth. However, all things revere the Tao and cherish virtue.
Tao and virtue are revered and respected for the following reasons:
The Word created all things, but did not interfere with them;
Virtue nourishes all things, but does not control their fate;
The Tao obeys the natural laws of all things and allows them to grow freely.
Although Tao gives birth to all things, and virtue nourishes all things, it only cares for their growth, does not possess or control them, but allows them to ripen naturally and bear fruit.
The most subtle virtue lies in giving birth to it, but not taking it for yourself; nurture it, but do not rely on merit; Guide it, but don't control it.
Talking about trivial things at home is actually immoral, untrustworthy, and disrespectful. Your whining will only make people see you clearly as a person and gradually alienate you.
Your indignation only shows your narrow-mindedness, vanity, and reality.
When you talk about your family's difficulties and expect help, you will only get a helpless response, even cynicism.
Talking about trivial things at home will make you unconsciously say secrets that you shouldn't have said.
Even if you regret it afterwards, asking the other party to keep it a secret is just futile and pointless.
After all, how can you expect others to keep a secret that you can't keep yourself?
Showing this hole card, in addition to making you happy for a while, will also bring more uneasiness to your family, make you add a few strands of gray hair, and in addition, you will not get any benefits.
When you know how to treat others with virtue and convince others with virtue, you will be able to let go of possessiveness, no longer try to control, and no longer interfere.
You will allow everything to happen naturally, respect all growth, allow others to be who they are, and allow yourself to be who you really are.
Only in this way will your heart be full of strength, and you will be able to live a relaxed life, stop complaining, stop complaining.
Only by guarding the mouth can we keep morality, happiness, cards, dignity and dignity.
I hope that for the rest of our lives, we can all restrain our hearts, know how to be content, and stick to morality, so that we can keep our hole cards, keep stability, keep happiness, and live a smooth life.