**: China Youth Daily (2024-02-23 08 edition), China Youth Daily and China Youth Network reporter Yin JinxiuGreen Observation
You have a cousin who just graduated from college last year, stayed in the big city and looked for a job, from Chinese New Year's Eve to Lantern Festival, every group of relatives who visited had to care about her. In previous years, my cousin, who frowned and was silent in the face of this situation, interrupted everyone this year and began to talk eloquently: "You have such a high-speed machine to enter the Chinese ......."”She stopped talking for a few minutes, you didn't understand, turned your head to see that the relatives didn't seem to understand, but they stopped asking, and some even nodded and praised: "It's worthy of a college student who came back from a big city, and he is more and more able to speak, and there is something to do when he works!" Then they turned to a barrage of questions from their cousin. At this time, you find that your sister, who has always been unenthusiastic about her relatives, moves towards her cousin, and the two whisper a few words and smile at each other. Hey, did she get it? Is this a "code" that they only understand? After the relatives left, you learned from them that this is a new technique developed by young people to face relatives recently - "read and recall".That is to say, a lot of words that seem to make sense, but in fact have no logical relevance, the paragraph that my cousin said is a copy of the most popular text on the Internet. Relatives "torture": the examination room for people with interpersonal sensitivity.
It should be pleasant to visit relatives and greet each other, but there are always people who feel like they are being "tortured" when they hear their relatives' questions, feel stressed and anxious, worried about leaving a bad impression on their relatives, being looked down upon by their relatives, and even sometimes when relatives make unreasonable comments, they will also wronged themselves and do not refute them. This is actually a relatively common phenomenon. This tendency to constantly worry about negative social evaluations and to adopt defensive behaviors to avoid them is known as interpersonal sensitivity. When we are children and students, it is often beneficial for us to be sensitive to the evaluations of parents and teachers. But studies of the adult population have found thatInterpersonal sensitivities are predisposing factors for emotional problems such as depression and anxiety, and may also increase the risk of developing the disease. Therefore, for people who are sensitive to interpersonal relationships, they can no longer regard their relatives as their examiners in order to make themselves physically and mentally healthy. Young people have a new knack for avoiding "embarrassing preaching".
In fact, it is not to blame that young people are sensitive, and the annual chat with relatives inevitably involves some "embarrassing episodes". In the past, it was common for the elders to stand in the perspective of a "person who has come over", inquired and preached to the younger generations with their life experience, and "instilled" their "thinking" and "perception" of dealing with people and things to the younger ......generations
However, in recent years, due to the rapid development of technology and the Internet, it is easier for young people to grasp new technologies and use them to see the bigger world. While the mystery and unreachability of the elders gradually dissipated, when young people were chatting about topics such as the Spring Festival Gala live broadcast red envelopes and Internet hot stalks, young people seemed more "mysterious" and "powerful". Read-scrambled: A balanced choice.
There are actually many ways to get rid of interpersonal sensitivities during the Chinese New Year. Some people choose not to go with relatives; Some people choose to remain silent and create a "introverted social fear" character ......The so-called "read scrambled" may be a more balanced option among these methods. "Chaos" is like writing "expressing the author's homesickness" on the proof question of a math paper, and drawing a picture on the Chinese composition question. This kind of response not only deconstructs the seriousness of the relative's question, but also can confuse the question and deal with the past. Find the code of the coteryIn addition to fooling relatives, "reading and replying" is also a social tool for young people. It's like a cousin who lets her sister know that they are "surfing" in the same sea area through a mess. In a room packed with relatives, the two of them formed a small circleThere is a sense of intimacy and belonging between them, which can make them feel safe in the face of unfamiliar relatives. Of course, even if many good friends will "read and reply" to each other, not everyone still likes to do this, and some netizens said that if their colleagues and friends have "responded to everything for a long time, and everything has not been settled", it will also be troublesome. We need to "read and go" to achieve a more equal relationship, and we also need sincere communication to maintain a more intimate relationship. 
Editor丨Ruan Jiangshao proofreader丨Qiao Hanwei proofreader丨Sun Xiaoqian on duty editorial board丨Liu Fei.