In the world of love, there is no fixed formula, but there are some self-evident truths. It is often said that "communication is the bridge of relationships", but in the relationship between men and women, this bridge often needs to be built by men. In the whirlpool of emotions, each of us is a drifting ship, and sometimes, we just need to know how to make that ship that is willing to dock willing to come to our harbor again.
The story begins on a springy afternoon, Chen Ze just walked out of the library, and the sentence from an emotional guide book he had just read echoed in his mind: "True communication is not in words, but in resonance." This sentence made him fall into deep thought. He remembered the girl who always brought him a smile but always passed by - Li Wanqing. Their communication was always between a superficial taste, and he wanted to go further, but he didn't know how to act.
Here are five key aspects he learned later in his experience that I want to share with you:
1.Listen sincerely.
In interactions with women, listening is often more important than speaking. As Oprah Winfrey once said, "I've interviewed a lot of people, but it's never my questions that move people the most, it's the listening I show." Chen Ze learned to not only listen patiently to her when chatting with Li Wanqing, but also to try to understand the emotions and thoughts behind her words.
2.Shared interests and experiences.
Relationships between people are often deepened through shared experiences. Chen Ze and Li Wanqing's first in-depth exchange was in a volunteer activity, and they worked side by side, and this shared experience gave them a special connection.
3.Sense of humor.
Humor is a great way to break the iceberg and add fun to everyday communication. Chen Ze learned to use just the right amount of humor to liven up the atmosphere and make Li Wanqing feel a relaxed and happy communication environment.
4.Respect and praise.
Everyone craves respect and recognition, and women are no exception. Chen Ze gave Li Wanqing sincere praise at the right time, expressing his appreciation for her personality and talent.
5.Confidence, not conceit.
Self-confidence can be a charm, but conceit can be daunting. Chen Ze showed his confident side, but also remained humble, allowing Li Wanqing to see a mature and steady him.
Eventually, these actions prompted Li Wanqing to take the initiative to contact Chen Ze, and their relationship gradually developed as a result. On the journey of feelings, Chen Ze understood that if you want a woman to take the initiative to come to your world, you need to first open your heart and feel and experience with your heart, and the sincerity and warmth from the inside out is the key to emotional connection.
In this process, we are both dancers and stage weavers, and we weave each other's dreams and futures in dance. As Mark Twain once said, "The most important day is the day we fall in love." "Maybe one day in the future, when Chen Ze and Li Wanqing hold hands and walk on the road of life, they will be grateful for all the preparations and efforts they have made for love today.