As the saying goes: "The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see the hearts of the people over time." ”The writer Mo Yan also once said: "When approaching a person, you should be slow so as not to see clearly." ”That's true. It is difficult to see a person clearly when you first meet, and even if you get along for a long time, it is difficult to know people's hearts. If you dig out your heart and lungs before you see a person clearly, it is easy to hurt yourself, after all, it is people who are the most difficult thing in the world to understand. People get along with each other, only by experiencing some things, can we understand that interpersonal relationships are not so simple, if it is too simple, only you will suffer. If you want to really see a person clearly, you need to slowly understand these 3 points. 
See humanity in front of interestsThere is a saying: "In front of interests, a person's quality can be tested the most." ”Walking in the world, human nature is seen in front of interests. In the recently released film "Solid as a Rock", the truth of human nature is revealed. In the face of money and interests, some people can do things that violate morality with a clear conscience. After Li Zhitian killed someone, he thought of using money to buy off some gangsters in society, making them disguise themselves as drunk and fighting, and take the blame for themselves. And these gangsters, under the ** of high money, left behind their conscience and morality, chose benefits and agreed to him. In the face of interests, the ugliness of human nature is exposed. Three million dollars can make the gangsters have no conscience; Driven by interests, Li Zhitian acted recklessly and unscrupulously. The ancients said: "Where the benefits are, everything is tending." Perhaps it is human nature to pursue profits, but "a gentleman loves money and takes it in a good way." The attitude and way of pursuing interests can see the brilliance or ugliness of human nature. In the face of interests, only those who can keep their conscience and bottom line can keep long-term interests and development; In the face of interests, if you encounter the kind of people who are desperate for the sake of maximizing interests, you must stay away in time. See character in front of right and wrongIt is written in "Aphorisms and Walls": "Sit quietly and often think about your own mistakes, and don't talk about others." There are many people who have heard this sentence, but there are very few people who have been able to do it. Walking in the world, we often meet some people who like to chew the root of their tongue behind people's backs, making irresponsible remarks and pointing fingers. But in those endless gossip, you can see a person's true character the most. People who like to talk about the rights and wrongs of others behind their backs also have certain problems with their own character. In fact, it is not difficult to find that from a person's words, you can see a person clearly. As the poet Ben Jonson said, "Language is the most revealing of a person, and if you speak, I can understand you." ”When you meet people in life who always like to discuss other people's rights and wrongs with you, you must stay sober, keep your distance as much as you can, and never get too close. After all, people who complain about others in front of you today may turn around and discuss your rights and wrongs with others tomorrow. People who like to talk about the rights and wrongs of others are usually the ones who make up right and wrong and tell the truth. As the saying goes, "He who is right and wrong must be right and wrong." This kind of person who loves to gossip and sow discord must have an extremely poor character. In a sober life, you will not become friends with such people, let alone become the same person as them. For the rest of your life, don't listen to right and wrong, stay away from right and wrong, and right and wrong can also leave you. 
When you are down, you can see people's heartsActor Huang Bo once sighed: "When you were not famous, there were everyone around you, those who were cautious, those who mocked you, those who made you bad, everything, but after becoming famous, I suddenly found that there were good people around me." ”This is the way it is in this world, when you are successful, you are surrounded by good people, and when you are down, almost no one cares. Before Huang Bo became famous, his acting career also experienced a cold winter, he had no advantage in appearance and no connections, and he was initially struggling in the entertainment industry. When he was down, he faced more doubts and ridicule from the outside world, and even pieces of negation. Some people think that he is not talented, and some people think that he is not handsome and unworthy of being an actor......But Huang Bo still relied on his own efforts to finally make a name for himself in the entertainment industry, he became a generation of actors, and won many honors and awards. And at this time, those who once looked down on him and ridiculed him also became good people. Everyone greeted him with a smile, and the people around him became good people who cared about him. But when it comes to success, it's hardest to see through people's hearts. After all, most of the people who approach you at this time are flatterers, trying to get certain benefits, not sincerely. Only when you are down, you can best understand people's hearts. Because most people in this world like icing on the cake, there are very few people who can really send charcoal in the snow, and more people are people who fall into the ground. Bai Juyi Youyun: "The road is difficult, not in the water, not in the mountains, only in the repetition of human feelings." "Good people in the scenery are not really good people; The person who sincerely helps you when you are down is the noble person in life. When you are in full bloom, butterflies come by themselves, which is the normal state of human nature; When you are down, the person who still chooses to be by your side is the one who treats you sincerely. When you are down, you can see people's hearts, and I hope you cherish those friends who share weal and pain, and stay away from "friends" who are hypocritical. 
The world is so big, we will meet many people. But people's hearts are separated from their bellies, and they don't see it clearly. Don't until you see a person clearlyTrust and give without reservation. If there are people around you who do whatever it takes for the sake of profit, always like to talk about the rights and wrongs of others and tend to be inflammatory, you must see what kind of person the other party is, stay away as soon as possible, and stop losses in time. The rest of your life is very expensive, I hope you can see the true face of some people, and live up to your sincerity in every period of encounter. Encourage you.
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