What is Relative?
There may be many explanations, but there is a lot of truth in Pushkin's quote:
The so-called relatives are people who usually don't remember each other, but still have to visit and bless each other during the holidays. ”
In everyone's mind, some relatives are very close, while some relatives are far away, although they are related by blood, but there is not much contact on weekdays, but they will think of each other at critical times.
It seems difficult to define, so many people will worry about how to interact with relatives.
To be honest, the best way for relatives to get along with each other is not to treat them and give gifts, but like this.
In this world, no matter what kind of relationship, you must maintain a proper distance in order to last for a long time.
In fact, kinship is no exception, and it is even more necessary to abide by such a mode of getting along.
The most important thing to keep a proper distance from is not to involve interests in the coming and going, otherwise the relationship will not get better and better, but will get worse and worse.
The reason behind this is also easy to understand.
If we confuse interests with human feelings, not only will our interests become more and more complicated, but we will also implicate our relationships, and in the end, we will often lose both.
Throughout the ages, too many relatives have been getting along with each other peacefully, but once interests are involved, they often fall apart in the end, and even turn against each other.
In this case, it is necessary to calculate the interests clearly at any time, say some things in advance, and don't wait until the fact to talk about it, otherwise it is easy to stiffen the relationship.
Many times, because some simple interests become human debts, it often means that it is not easy to explain, and they have different cognitions in each other's hearts.
Therefore, the best way for relatives to get along is not to owe anything about interests, and to maintain normal contacts and contacts.
Writer Liu Zhenyun said:
The darkest part of human nature is that the ones who really don't want you to live well are often the relatives around you. ”
When it comes to money issues, sometimes the ugliness of human nature will be highlighted, and they will be hurt even more.
On weekdays, you may be peaceful, but if you see that you are successful or rich, you will become jealous, and even spread rumors and make trouble.
Human nature is like this, although they are close to each other, some relatives are more jealous of your success and your wealth because of this relationship, and never really bless you.
If you don't have a relationship with them, it's okay, but you are relatives of each other, and your success will only prove their failure, so the fire of jealousy in your heart will grow stronger and stronger.
In this case, we must know how to keep a low profile, no matter how rich you are, don't show off your wealth, but hide your wealth.
At the same time, if you are not happy for the time being, the last thing you can do is cry to your relatives for being poor, after all, everyone's experience is different and they will not have the same empathy.
The more you beg them for help, the more they will not be able to really lend a helping hand, but will only be met with ridicule and disdain.
It is better to find the reason, learn the lesson, accumulate energy, and make a comeback, which is the really smart choice.
People's hearts are not ancient, especially in getting along with relatives, you must hide yourself, there is no need to show off your wealth to them, and there is no need to see your wounds to them, but to be humble and low-key, so that the relationship can be harmonious and stable.
When interacting with people, there must be boundaries, but also measure, otherwise no matter how good the relationship is, it will be short-lived.
This is especially true between relatives, who can't rely on their proximity to each other, so they can do things unscrupulously and never care about each other's feelings.
In order to satisfy his desire to snoop, he kept probing the other party's privacy, knowing that the other party was unwilling to answer, but would continue to ask.
Or the other party helped him, and then continued to look for him regardless of whether the other party was suitable, which will only make the other party annoying.
The more relatives get along with each other, the more we must understand each other's boundaries and proportions, do not cross easily, but have tension and relaxation, and it is wise to empathize at critical moments.
In this world, there has never been a debt between relatives to anyone, so there is no obligation to help each other, in this case, we must grasp the boundaries of each other, do not have no scruples, but to be appropriately restrained.
Seen a true story.
Lao Zhang knew that the son of a relative was teaching in a local school, and it happened that his son was going to be admitted to this school, so he came over and asked the other party to help recruit him.
The other party thought of some ways, plus Lao Zhang's son had good grades, and finally got his wish.
Unexpectedly, from then on, Lao Zhang said to the outside world that whoever wants to come here to go to school can help the other party get in.
Some people look for him, but he doesn't care whether this relative has difficulties or not, and he has to let the other party do it for him, otherwise he doesn't miss the affection of his relatives.
In the end, the two families broke up because of this incident.
No matter how good relatives are, they must also pay attention to the proportions and boundaries of each other, so as to maintain a harmonious relationship at the moment.
There is a saying: social networking is always a two-way thing, whether it is a treat or a gift, but it can't shield potential conflicts and troubles. ”
Especially in the group interaction of relatives, it is necessary to grasp the above principles of mutual interaction, so that the relationship will be truly stable and warm.
When you understand this, you will no longer see relatives as a synonym for trouble, but as a warm and intimate relationship in the world.
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