The independent women of the ** period are tenacious and persistent, they are not afraid of difficulties, perseverance, just to pursue that true love. They may be silently waiting for the arrival of love because of a red rainbow, even if the years go by, they will not easily change the pursuit in their hearts.
They are tenacious and waiting, just for the moment of flowering, just to marry true love.
Zhang Maoyuan was one of the first women in China"Simultaneous interpretation", relying on his talent to live a petty bourgeois life. Zhang Ailing once described her aunt like this: Everyone has their own life and will not live to be someone else, Zhang Maoyuan is not only Zhang Ailing's aunt, but also Zhang Maoyuan himself.
She has been single for 72 years, married to her best friend's husband, her first love. Although he may be confused in the eyes of others, and even make up some negative stories, this is exactly Zhang Maoyuan's performance as himself.
In this era full of uncertainties and miracles, Zhang Maoyuan has experienced freedom and happiness, but he has also suffered bitterness and pain. With her lifelong dedication and independence, she has created a unique life story.
However, although she was born in a famous family, her father was Zhang Peilun, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, and her maternal grandfather was Li Hongzhang, her fate could not be decided by herself. Living in the Qing Dynasty at the beginning of the eighteenth century, even in a famous family, her life was like walking on thin ice, full of uncertainty and danger.
Zhang Maoyuan's life is a symbol of her insistence on self and independence, and it is also a powerful counterattack to the injustice of fate.
She was born into a controversial family. Her maternal grandfather, Li Hongzhang, was an important minister in the late Qing Dynasty, but he was also denounced as a "thief". When she was young, her grandfather died, and two years later, her father Zhang Peilun also died, leaving her, a son and a daughter to rely on her mother Li Jurong.
Her mother was very strict with the education of her siblings, especially her brother. In order for him to become a talent, his mother strictly controlled his life and study in all aspects, and this boring and monotonous life made him form an introverted and shy character, and he always chose to retreat.
However, despite the challenges of her family environment, she remained strong and knew that only through her own efforts could she change her destiny.
The discipline was too harsh, so that Zhang Tingzhong lost his enterprising spirit, indulged in tobacco and alcohol, and wasted his time. Mother Li Jurong doted on her son too much, which led to Zhang Maoyuan's freedom as a daughter.
She played like a boy, and the status of the family allowed her to "grow wildly" and live as she idealized, forming her independent character. Zhang Maoyuan couldn't get used to his brother's inaction, and he was powerless to change, so he decided to find the direction of his life.
In 1925, Zhang Maoyuan cherished his dream, embarked on an ocean cruise, and went to the Royal ** Academy in the United Kingdom to study piano with his mother Huang Yifan. During the journey, she met Li Kaidi, who made her fall in love, and this love has gone through 52 years of watch.
Their encounter, though simple, is full of warmth, such as a towel, a cup of tea, a few gentle conversations, and a fresh and elegant Byron poem, which makes their love deeper and more beautiful.
Zhang Maoyuan was only 23 years old at the time, and her study abroad trip also added more color to her life.
Zhang Maoyuan had never experienced such a long sea voyage before. The violent rocking and waves caused her to suffer from seasickness and had to vomit on deck.
Suddenly, a polite young man appeared in her sight, and he not only handed her a hot towel, but also thoughtfully draped her in a red paxia.
At this time, the sun was shining on the sparkling sea, Zhang Maoyuan stood on the deck, watching this attentive young man read Byron's poems, his heart was full of gratitude and warmth.
All comedy begins with love, and all tragedies end with parting. A conversation that went deep into the heart, Li Kaidi completely touched Zhang Maoyuan's girlish heart. It was the most beautiful encounter of my life, and the two young people were silently moved in the breeze.
It is worth mentioning that Li Kaidi is one year younger than Zhang Maoyuan, similar in age, and they are both from Shanghai, and they are all from Shanghai, and they are in the right family. ”
After Li Kaidi learned that Zhang Maoyuan's maternal grandfather was a thief, his attitude towards her immediately became cold. In those days, intellectual youths who had a bad impression of Li Hongzhang abounded.
Li Kaidi believes that Li Hongzhang's family did not use power to seek benefits for the society and the people, but let Zhang Maoyuan's elder brother indulge in drug abuse and **, and pursue a life of drunkenness.
Although he knew that Zhang Maoyuan was deeply in love with him, he still said resolutely: "You don't have to wait for me. However, Zhang Maoyuan replied firmly: "If I can't wait for you in this life, I will continue to wait in the next life." ”
Although she loved Li Kaidi deeply, Zhang Maoyuan still attended the wedding as a bridesmaid on the day she married Li Kaidi in 1932. She behaved generously and blessed Li Kaidi and his bride decently; When she saw Li Kaidi walking towards his bride, her eyes were full of blessings, as if their relationship was just friends, not lovers.
Zhang Maoyuan did not fight, did not **, she calmly accepted the reality, and silently paid for the people she loved, this sincere dedication deeply touched us.
In the past 33 years, Zhang Maoyuan has accompanied Li Kaidi and his wife as a friend, and has always adhered to the boundaries. However, women's emotional intuition is often beyond people's imagination.
In 1965, Xia Yuzhi was seriously ill and bedridden, and before she died, she told Zhang Maoyuan: "I have always known your intentions, but you have hidden too deeply, so it took me a long time to understand."
You are very good to our family, and I am relieved that I will entrust my brother and children to you when I die. I would be very happy if you would marry him. ”
When Zhang Maoyuan was at the lowest point in Li Kaidi's life, he chose to accompany him silently and go through difficult times together. She knows that at this moment, the first thing to solve is the immediate difficulties, not the pursuit of personal happiness.
In those turbulent years, Li Kaidi was criticized for his background, his family property was confiscated, and he could only go to sweep the streets every day. However, Zhang Maoyuan always stuck to Li Kaidi's side and gave him endless encouragement and support.
Finally, in 1979, after this difficult period had passed, the two of them came together. This story teaches us that true love is about giving support and companionship to the other person during difficult times, rather than just pursuing personal happiness.
Zhang Maoyuan waited patiently for 52 years, in exchange for 12 years of time with his lover. Although she passed away peacefully in 1991 at the age of 91 in the company of her loved one, she spent 52 years waiting to prove to the world that being herself is the most important thing.
Although her marriage only took place in 1991, which caused a lot of criticism at the time, Zhang Maoyuan's patience and tenacity made her love bloom perfectly, and also conveyed the power of being herself to the world.
Following your inner voice and living your true self is what makes this life worthwhile. Although Zhang Maoyuan has a superior background, her life path is all worked hard by herself. With her high education and overseas experience, she found a job with a monthly salary of tens of thousands in occupied Shanghai, and worked as a broadcaster in German radio, only working for half an hour a day to realize her self-worth.
Only women who think independently can find their purpose in life, focus on what they are best at, and become the person they aspire to the most. They are courageous, fearless, and determined to take every step of the way to lay a solid foundation for the journey of a lifetime.
Self-reliant women can always maintain their dignity, like that unique rose, standing proudly in the world.