Since the resumption of work during the Spring Festival, the topic of "divorce after the year" has been hot, and even caused heated discussions on the Internet. As Zhihu on this topic:
"What kind of love can make two people grow old together? ”
Some people say:I have quarreled, cried, and made trouble, but I never wanted to separate; Others said:I have tasted the romance and sweetness of being in love, and I enjoy the fireworks and passing years after marriage.In fact, whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, from two originally independent individuals to a community of destiny that works hand in hand for a lifetime, it will inevitably go through a process of running in with each other.
At this time, if each other can come up with these three "things", love will not only not come to an end, but will make two people rely on each other and love each other until they grow old. 
Be determinedThere is a line in "Life Big**":
"It's not that I don't want anyone but you. It's just that I don't want anyone but you. ”Truly! Falling in love with someone can be a momentary thing, but loving only one person requires inner determination.
When love comes, it is vigorous, and I can't wait to rub each other into my bones.
But after a long time, it will not be able to withstand the colorful world's **; After a long time, I am afraid that I will not be able to withstand the consumption of firewood, rice, oil and salt. How many people can run a few streets for their lover when they are in love, just to buy the snack she likes. However, if he has no determination, he will still turn around and marry someone who can make him struggle for many years. is like Gu Xin in "Home of the Heart", for the sake of his own future, he abandoned his childhood sweetheart girlfriend and chose the daughter of the director's family. No matter how his girlfriend later retained, he was unmoved. In the final analysis, I still don't have a firm heart for my ex-girlfriend, and when a new person appears, I immediately change my mind.
I remember that the tough guy Qiao Feng said an affectionate sentence:
"Azhu is Azhu. The countries of the four seas, for thousands of years, there is only one Azhu. ”No matter how the world changes, no matter what has happened, the only one in this life is you. This is a man's determination in the love of his heart. Only by being sure can we endure the long years.
ResponsibleWhat makes love last, in addition to love itself, is more responsibility. After all, in life, there are not too many winds and snows to enjoy, and some are souls who have to crawl and roll in reality. Therefore, romantic love alone is not enough to support the weight of life. Perhaps, this is also one of the reasons why Lin Huiyin chose the more responsible Liang Sicheng instead of Xu Zhimo. During the Anti-Japanese War, Lin Huiyin, who had just arrived in Lizhuang, had a high fever for several weeks due to tuberculosis**. At that time, Li Zhuang had almost no medical conditions, and Liang Sicheng, who was anxious, took on the responsibility of taking care of Lin Huiyin. He learned to inject intravenously and injected Lin Huiyin alone; I learned how to steam steamed buns, cook rice, cook, and make jam with orange peel. The five years in Li Zhuang were also the five years that Lin Hui was bedridden, and although the days were difficult, he never thought of giving up. It was his meticulous care that allowed Lin Huiyin to live 5 years longer than predicted. 
Sanmao once said:
"Love, if not implemented into the real life of dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping, is not easy to last forever. ”A real life requires responsibility to carry, to persevere, and to continue. Because the years are ruthless, people's hearts will change, and only responsibility can make the two hearts closely connected and never abandon in the ordinary years.
ThanksgivingYang Lan once said:
"In addition to love, there is also a righteous spirit of heart-to-heart, a tacit understanding that will never be abandoned, and unforgettable kindness. ”After getting along for a long time, it is inevitable that husband and wife will take each other's efforts for granted. In fact, there is no one to pay for, let alone sacrifice for whom. Only by being grateful to your lover and making each other feel considerate and cared for can you make your relationship last longer. In the early 80s of the last century, the writer Liang Xiaosheng met his wife Jiao Dan under the introduction of a friend. At that time, he was still a poor boy with a little-known name, and his eldest brother, who was sick all the year round, also needed him to take care of him. After Jiao Dan found out, not only did he not dislike him, but also took the initiative to take on the trivial chores at home for decades after marriage. Without worries, Liang Xiaosheng began to concentrate on creation, and his works have won many awards. Last year, the TV series "The World" created and adapted by him was broadcast, and then it became popular all over the Internet, he said in an interview:
"In my decades of writing, it is my wife's selfless dedication that has always moved me infinitely, so much so that it has deeply influenced my writing, my life and everything. ”
In fact, husband and wife do not ask for anything in return, but just hope that their efforts can be seen and recognized by the other party. Even a look, a smile, or a word will make the other person feel extremely warm. Many times, even if the days are difficult, because of each other's gratitude and cherishment, the hard years have a trickle of poetry. 
In the vast sea of people, thousands of red dust, it is not easy to love each other, and it is even more difficult to stay together. If you meet your loved other, please learn to cherish it. After all, what accompanies you the longest is not the scenery in the distance, but the lover around you. Take out a firm heart, so that each other does not have to be suspicious; Take out a sense of responsibility and let each other cherish each other; Take out a sense of gratitude and let each other rely on each other for a long time. 
Love is a momentary attraction, and it is a lifelong business.