In the ocean of life, between husband and wife, it is like driving a small boat to float on the sea of life. Sometimes, when it's windy and rainy, the boat will wobble and feel like it's about to capsize. These storms are actually quarrels and contradictions between husband and wife. So how do you get the boat to steady down and keep going?
Some people say that the big husband doesn't need the concession of the little woman, and he can solve the problem himself.
But true love is not to see who is stronger, but to see who is more willing to bow down to this feeling.
Therefore, when a husband and wife quarrel, no matter who it is, giving each other a step down is actually giving this love a buffer and giving it a chance to start again.
Of course, giving steps is not a bottomless concession.
The most important thing between husband and wife is communication and understanding. When there is a quarrel, both parties should calm down and listen to what the other person thinks. It's not just the ears listening, it's the heart listening. Try to see the problem from the other person's point of view so that you can find the real cause of the problem.
Silent hugs: Sometimes, a hug is worth a thousand words. After a quarrel, give each other an affectionate hug, let the love pass silently, and let the conflict resolve in warmth.
In the process of communication, how you speak is also important.
Using vivid language, it is easier for the other person to accept their point of view.
For example, you can say, "I know you're hot right now, but we can sit down, have a cup of tea, and talk slowly." In this way, it not only shows his sincerity, but also gives the other party a buffer space.
And, in addition to speaking, body language is also important. A hug, a kiss, or just a look can convey deep love and apology. These expressions of non-speech are sometimes more powerful than speaking.
When communicating, both sides should also be clear about one goal: to solve problems, not to create more problems. Therefore, when expressing your opinions, try to avoid offensive language and use calm and rational language to express your thoughts.
Sometimes, giving the other person a step down is not that you have lost.
On the contrary, it is a smart thing to do. Because, in the world of love, there is no winning or losing, only win-win or lose-lose. Giving the other person a step down is actually giving yourself a chance to give love a chance to move on.
So how, exactly? There is no set answer to this, as every couple's situation is different. But in general, you can start from the following aspects:
Admit mistakes: Regardless of who caused the quarrel, both parties should reflect on their actions. If there is a mistake in the first place, then admit the mistake and apologize.
Express gratitude: In a quarrel, it's easy to ignore the good of the other person. So, after calming down, remember to thank the other person. This can make the other person feel respected and valued.
Solve problems together: The purpose of a quarrel is not to divide the winner, but to solve the problem. So, both parties need to sit down together and figure out the best way to solve the problem.
The relationship between husband and wife is a voyage of a lifetime, and quarrels and awkwardness are only short-lived storms. Through effective communication and understanding, both parties can better solve problems and strengthen trust and intimacy with each other. In the world of love, there is no winner or loser, only a way forward together.