I almost got into a fight with Dabao last night, but luckily the remnants of my sanity stopped me, and when I calmed down and dealt with it, things didn't seem to be as bad as I thought.
Here's what happened: Dabao procrastinated on her homework after school, and in the end there were two things left that she didn't write, and she promised to write it as soon as she finished dinner. I agreed, and after dinner I went to my bedroom to get something, and she slipped downstairs.
When I returned to the living room and found that she was not there, I was furious and ready to go for her with a stick, just in time to see her come up happily. When she found me waiting for her at the door of the living room with a stick, she burst into tears.
What do you mean? I haven't even done it yet! Who are you crying so loudly to?
I was even more angry, and before I could say anything, I found that she was already a little out of breath crying. I was startled and asked her what was wrong, and she said that her grandmother had promised to take her for a walk, so that she could come up and change her shoes and go together.
I asked her if she still had homework. She said to write, but she wanted to go for a walk.
I had no choice but to comfort her and let her do her homework first, and I went downstairs to talk to my mother-in-law and asked her to wait for her.
She agreed, wiping away tears as she went back to the living room to take out her homework and write it.
I went downstairs to see that my mother-in-law was long gone.
I had no choice but to go back to the living room. The moment I opened the door, Dabao immediately looked at me with a pair of expectant eyes.
I was a little helpless and tentatively asked, "Is it okay to change someone to take you for a walk?" When you're done with your homework, mom or dad will take you there? ”
I don't want it! I'm going with my grandma! She promised me! ”
It's over, crying again, I complained in my heart, I haven't seen you so clingy grandma!
Having said that, I tried to reason with her, but she didn't look like she was going to eat anything, and eventually I got impatient and started yelling.
Dabao was so frightened by me that he felt like he was about to cry and faint.
Seeing her like this, I was even more angry, and even planned to do it directly, but the moment I got up, I hesitated again. At this time, losing my temper was just venting my anger, but it didn't solve anything at all.
The husband who was in the bedroom also heard the movement, and came out with Xiaobao in his arms to ask what was wrong. Seeing Dabao crying, he comforted him, but Dabao became more and more energetic the more he cried.
I sighed and leaned over to Dabao, and she subconsciously dodged, probably thinking I was going to hit her.
I opened my arms and hugged her to my knees, patting her on the back and whispering comfortingly, "Don't cry now, you tell your mom, are you crying so much because you can't go for a walk or because you don't want to do your homework?" ”
Can't go for a walk. Dabao sobbed.
So if you finish your homework, can you go for a walk with your grandma now? ”
Be. "Let's recall, today after school your mother picked you up and asked you to do your homework, when your father was sleeping with her sister, you went to tease your sister. Later, my sister pooped, and I said that when I helped her wash her ass and change her diapers, you would go to do your homework, but you went to eat bananas again, and after eating bananas, you said you were going to go to the toilet again......In the end, I finally finished my homework, and I had to eat again. If you had done your homework quickly, would you have been able to go for a walk with your grandma now? ”
Dabao nodded hesitantly, and finally stopped crying.
Mom, let's reminisce again. I was playing downstairs, my grandmother's friend came to her for a walk, I said I want to go too, grandma said not to take me there, I said I was going to go, grandma said then you go to change your shoes and I will take you there, and then I came up to change shoes, and I saw you standing at the door with a stick ......At this, Dabao began to cry again.
I recalled the scene and no wonder she was so happy to go upstairs, but it turned out that I asked her to do her homework. I actually wanted to laugh, but I held back, hugged her and asked, "So how did you feel when you saw your mother?" ”
I'm scared! Dabao said in a broken down.
Are you afraid that you won't be able to go for a walk anymore or are you afraid that your mom will hit you? ”
All scared! Thinking about it from another perspective, I suddenly felt that Dabao was not easy, she was so happy in the last second, but she was so scared in the next second, her mood had changed so much in a short period of time, how could she not cry?
I patted her on the back and asked, "Do you still want to go for a walk?"
Think! "That's it, you do your homework first, and when you're done, mom calls grandma and asks her to take a walk in **, and then mom sends you to find her, okay? ”
Good! "The next thing is much simpler, Dabao quickly wrote his homework, I called my mother-in-law to ask for the location, and sent Dabao over.
On the way to send Dabao to find her mother-in-law, the little girl was in a much better mood, not only bouncing up, but also smiling and saying to me: "Mother, mother, I love you!" ”
I didn't understand what she was saying at first, but then I found out that she was an English-speaking "mother", and at that moment, my heart was a little mixed.
In the future, try not to lose your temper at her again, no matter what, communicate well first, this "memory method" is quite useful.