Recently, I found out that girls from poor families have really taken a lot of detours.
When I was in high school, there were several girls in my class. Due to their average family background, the girls study hard and are always among the best in their grades.
However, when it comes to applying to universities and choosing majors, they all choose regular universities. This is because I have heard that regular universities have subsidies that can reduce the burden on families.
Girls from wealthy families think more about their interests and hobbies when choosing a major.
You can choose your preferred major according to your feelings, and your parents will fully support you even if the tuition fees are expensive.
During the four years of college, girls from poor families use their free time to do various part-time jobs, such as distributing leaflets, tutoring, and delivering meals to restaurants, to reduce the burden on their families. As a result, they lose the best opportunity to expand their horizons and improve themselves.
Girls from wealthy families are able to focus on self-development and participate in clubs, competitions and activities to enrich themselves and exercise their bodies.
When girls from wealthy families graduate, some go on to work in Fortune 500 companies, some work in high-paying banks, and still others work in jobs they enjoy. However, girls from poor families are forced to attend school for the following reasons: they major in teacher training and invariably enter schools to become teachers.
Due to their poor family background, they have to make choices that go against their hearts at critical moments in their lives. It could take 10 years to close this gap.
I watched "Ode to Joy" a few days ago, and there was a line in it that particularly impressed me: "Birth determines your fate, birth determines your starting line, you can't change it, but .......""Life is a marathon. Often it's not the first person to win, it's the last person to win. The people who run the fastest are the ones who persevere to the end. ”
Although the starting lines may be different, life is the same. If you run a marathon, you have a good chance of winning in the end. But in reality, many girls from poor families have given up on long-distance marathons.
Fan Shenmei in "Ode to Joy" came from a poor background, worked for many years, and still struggled to make a living. She didn't have the courage to give up easily. Because she has no backer, she can only live alone.
Wang Baichuan's appearance gave her a life-saving straw, and she couldn't wait to grab it, hoping to use it to change her fate. It's a pity that Wang Baichuan didn't have to do this, and when he bought the house and wrote his name, he refused.
It's not that he doesn't love her, it's just that his ability is limited and he can't protect Fan Shengmei's life. He was not looking for a burden, but for a companion who fought alongside him.
Eventually, the relationship ended without any ill effects.
In fact, Fan Shengmei's ability and realistic spirit made her choose to stay in the big city to continue her studies and progress, which will completely change her destiny. But she wants to change her fate by marrying a rich man.
But all marriages are equal. The story of Cinderella marrying a prince exists only in fairy tales.
The main character of Ode to Joy is another girl named Guan Zhu. Despite her good family background and comfortable life, she did not stop trying. She lives a step-by-step life, works hard, everything is fine, nothing goes wrong.
However, she was not satisfied with that. She knows what she wants and is willing to work hard for it. She likes rock and roll, ** Xie Tong. When these preferences collide with her life, she decides to follow her heart.
After she retired, she moved to the United States with Xie Tong to pursue her ** dream.
Although she no longer has the privileged life she used to have, she has found the happiness to follow her heart.
Guan Juer and Fan Shengmei, due to different cognitions, Guan Juer lived the life he wanted. Because she knows that the most terrible thing in life is not a bad background, but resignation.
You have given up on yourself before you accept your fate.
I once read a report that found that more than half of the more than 7,000 college students surveyed said that "a successful marriage is not as good as a successful school" and that "a successful marriage is not as good as a successful job" "Among them, girls are more likely than boys to believe that marriage will go well.
When many girls are studying, they are not thinking about changing anything through their own efforts, but thinking that they can find a good husband in the future and change their destiny.
But in fact, the flowers bloom and fall, and the butterflies come naturally. If you are great, God will correct you.
Only by constantly improving yourself and perfecting yourself enough can you attract equally excellent partners.
I once watched a movie called Becoming Jane Austen, and there was a sentence in it that made a big impression on me.
Jane Austen never married and rejected many suitors, many of whom were wealthy businessmen on favorable terms. It's not that I don't want to get married, it's that I don't want to get married because I'm married.
She said: "Marriage should only happen if a man and a woman love each other and want each other to be life partners. It is very stupid to marry someone who has no feelings. ”
In the end, she chose not to marry before her death, devoted herself to literary creation, and eventually became a world-famous female **.
If Jane Austen had chosen her marriage partner to earn a living, there would be one more ordinary housewife and one less great female writer in the world.
Girls who come from poor backgrounds always face more difficulties and challenges in life. These difficulties may stem from material deprivation or external prejudices and misunderstandings. But no matter what, you shouldn't let this difficulty stop you from giving up on your dreams and pursuits.
Instead, we should rise to these challenges and strive to improve our capabilities and values. Only in this way can we gain a foothold in a highly competitive society and realize the value of our lives.
Of course, this does not mean that the influence of the family should be completely ignored. In fact, family has a big influence on our growth and development. But it is important that we strive to create our own future, unbound by, and even beyond our family background.
In this process, we need to keep learning and growing. We need to expand our horizons and improve our cognitive abilities. We need to learn to think and judge for ourselves, rather than blindly following in the footsteps of others.
At the same time, you also need to maintain a positive mindset. Don't be discouraged or give up because of temporary difficulties. You have to believe in your potential and abilities, and believe that you can overcome difficulties and achieve your dreams.
Finally, I would like to say to girls from poor families: don't be bound by difficulties, don't be swayed by other people's eyes.
If you believe in yourself and keep pursuing your dreams and pursuits, you can create your own brilliant life.
Remember that your life is not determined by your family circumstances, but by your own efforts and choices. Be brave to go out of your own way and live your own wonderful life!