The secret of success is not to never fail, but to never give up when you fail. Winston Churchill.
On the road to success, we are often told to persevere and have the courage to try. However, on this path, some people always seem to be at the starting point, not because they lack talent or opportunities, but because of certain characteristics in them that become obstacles to progress. These traits are not just a lack of skills, but more of certain flaws in character.
First of all, we need to be clear about what "ability" is. Ability is not only a skill or expertise in a specific field, but also a person's ability to solve problems, the courage to face challenges, and the determination to achieve goals. It is often said that whether a person is capable or not is often undoubtedly evident when he is facing difficulties. Therefore, to distinguish whether a person is capable or not, we can not only judge it by its achievements, but also by observing his behavior patterns, ways of thinking, and daily habits.
The first characteristic is a lack of self-drive. Capable people often have a strong internal drive, they work tirelessly to achieve their goals, and they do not give up easily even in the face of challenges and difficulties. On the contrary, people who are not capable often wait for external stimuli, and they need the encouragement and push of others to take action. This dependency leads to a tendency for them to retreat when faced with challenges and a lack of willingness to proactively seek solutions.
The second characteristic is the fear of failure. Failure is the mother of success, which is a well-known truth. However, people who are incapable often have a great fear of failure, and they are afraid of the negative evaluation and reduced self-worth that comes with failure. This fear makes them retreat from a challenge or a new opportunity, preferring to stay the status quo rather than take a chance. They ignore that failure is a valuable opportunity to grow and learn, and a surefire path to success.
The third characteristic is a lack of responsibility. Capable people often take responsibility for their actions and decisions, and even in the face of failure, they learn from them instead of making excuses or passing the blame on others. On the contrary, when people who do not have the ability to encounter problems, their first reaction is often to avoid responsibility, and they are more inclined to blame external factors for their failures rather than reflecting on their own shortcomings and mistakes. This attitude hinders their growth and progress.