A female graduate student took her mother to school and hanged herself, who forced her to die
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In September 2009, at the age of 30, Yang Yuanyuan successfully obtained the admission letter of Shanghai Maritime University for a postgraduate degree in international law, and became a member of the university.
Everyone is happy for her and looks forward to a bright future for her. However, two months later, Yang Yuanyuan chose to end his life in the dormitory, leaving only a suicide note lamenting that "knowledge is difficult to change fate".
Her suicide is shocking and terrifying about the uncertainty of the future.
Yang Yuanyuan's story begins with her childhood experience. Her father died young, leaving her to live with her mother and younger brother. Born in November 1979 in a small village in Yichang, Hubei Province, she was considered a treasure by her parents.
Although she is a girl, her parents love her very much, and her father also named her Yang Yuanyuan, placing good expectations on her, hoping that she can live a prosperous life in the future.
Two years later, Yang Pingping's birth brought more joy to the family.
Yang Yuanyuan's family, despite its poverty, is full of love and happiness. Her father was a college student, and her mother, although not highly educated, was a hard-working factory worker.
When he was six years old, his father died of hepatitis, which was a severe blow to the family. However, Wang Ruiling knew that she still had two children to raise, and she did not fall, but supported the whole family with a meager salary and tenacious spirit.
Yang Yuanyuan has also gradually grown into a responsible older sister, taking care of her younger brother, doing housework, and doing her part to share the burden for her mother. Although this difficult time sharpened their will, it also deepened their family bond.
Despite the pressure of his studies and family, Yang Yuanyuan offered to drop out of school to work so that his younger brother could continue his studies. However, her mother, Wang Ruiling, firmly believes that as good university students, her children should also receive higher education.
Fortunately, Yang Yuanyuan did not disappoint her mother, her academic performance has always been at the top, and her younger brother Yang Pingping's grades are equally good. However, fate seems to have been predetermined.
After being able to continue her studies, in order to repay her mother's hard work, Yang Yuanyuan became more sensible, and no matter what her mother said, she would meekly obey. However, this excessive obedience eventually became a foreshadowing of the tragedy.
In 1998, Yang Yuanyuan ended high school with excellent grades, but it was also the beginning of a decade full of compromises and abandonments. When faced with the choice of volunteering for the college entrance examination, she has always dreamed of becoming a lawyer who promotes good and retreats from evil, and hopes to choose the law department of Dalian Maritime University.
However, her mother, Wang Ruiling, was adamantly opposed, arguing that she would not make a lot of money as a lawyer, and that Dalian was too far from home for them to afford the high fees. So, on the first important decision in his life, Yang Yuanyuan made a compromise and finally chose the economics major of Wuhan University, which his mother liked.
Although this was not her original dream, her choice reflects the love and understanding of her family and her mother.
Despite the hardships of life, Yang Yuanyuan always has expectations for the future. She firmly believes that knowledge is the key to changing her life, so she is like a sponge constantly absorbing all kinds of knowledge, hoping to get out of poverty as soon as possible and let her mother live a good life.
Two years later, his younger brother Yang Pingping also fulfilled his mother's wish and was admitted to Wuhan University. At this time, Wang Ruiling began to ask Yang Yuanyuan to bear the tuition and living expenses of himself and his younger brother.
Therefore, during college, as long as Yang Yuanyuan has free time, he will find various part-time jobs to solve his and his younger brother's tuition and living expenses.
Yang Yuanyuan thought that life would be as usual, but the arrival of her mother disrupted her peace. It turned out that the mother's factory dormitory was relocated, and she needed to pay 35,000 yuan to move into the new house, which was a huge amount of money for Wang Ruiling.
So she decided to quit her job to find her daughter. At first, Yang Yuanyuan was very happy about her mother's arrival, but when she planned to rent a room for her mother, her mother offered to live in her dormitory.
Although Yang Yuanyuan had doubts, she still obeyed her mother's wishes, thinking that her mother would leave after only a few days, and there should be no problem.
Yang Yuanyuan didn't expect that Wang Ruiling had no intention of leaving at all. Originally, her roommate's mother was going to stay for a day or two, and her classmates in the same dormitory had no opinion, but she decided to stay for a long time.
The young people lived together, and suddenly an aunt came, and after a long time, the roommates began to be a little dissatisfied. Yang Yuanyuan also persuaded his mother many times, hoping that she could move out, but her mother was resolutely unmoved.
In the end, the school learned about it, and although it was surprised by the mother's stubbornness, it still applied for a separate dormitory for the two out of love for the students. In this way, Yang Yuanyuan and his mother successfully lived.
After Yang Yuanyuan lived with his mother, he found that his classmates gradually distanced themselves from him, and his part-time time was reduced accordingly. When graduation was approaching, the school refused to issue graduation certificates and degree certificates because there were still 4,000 yuan of student loans that had not been paid off.
Although Yang Yuanyuan was distressed, he had no choice but to leave the school, and the four years of college did not achieve any results. Life goes on, but she has to face and work through these difficulties.
Although Yang Yuanyuan has faced many choices in the past ten years, she has always given up. She was admitted to Peking University Law School as a graduate student, but she gave up because of the high tuition fee; With the recommendation of her high school teacher, she got the opportunity to work as a civil servant in her hometown, but she returned to her hometown due to her mother's opposition and gave up again.
She also had the opportunity to teach at Northwest University, but because her mother objected that Xi'an was too far away, she compromised again and chose to give up. During this decade, she was adrift, constantly torn between giving up and compromising.
However, no matter how many difficulties and challenges she faced, she always stood up to her beliefs and principles.
Yang Yuanyuan's story is regrettable, she thought about giving up during the 10 years of confusion and hardship, but her brother's success inspired her dream of studying. After seeking her mother's opinion, she chose to study at Shanghai Maritime University for graduate school and was successfully admitted.
However, faced with her mother's request to live with her, she was once again faced with a choice.
His younger brother Yang Pingping once proposed to take his mother to him, but Wang Ruiling refused on the grounds that he was a son. Yang Yuanyuan had no choice but to take his mother to study again, but the Maritime University directly rejected his request.
Yang Yuanyuan later applied for a single dormitory, but was rejected by the university on the grounds that it was unfair to other poor students. In the end, the school found a house with a monthly rent of 500 yuan for Wang Ruiling, so that Yang Yuanyuan could study with peace of mind.
The house was rudimentary, and there wasn't even decent furniture. However, surprisingly, Wang Ruiling happily accepted the situation, quickly packed her bags, and set up a bunk.
Looking at his mother's aging figure, Yang Yuanyuan recalled his past ten years, his heart was miserable, and he left the rental house under the pretext of leaving. Yang Yuanyuan's heart was filled with guilt due to her mother's living environment, and she even began to wonder if it was a sin to live in a dormitory but leave her mother in a cold and desolate rental house.
In this way, her mother's situation became the last straw that crushed Yang Yuanyuan's heart, and she fell into a circle of death from which she could not escape. She was puzzled as to why she was so good at studying, while her mother was still living a hard life, and she still achieved nothing.
On November 26, 2009, Yang Yuanyuan ended his life with two towels in his dormitory. She tied two towels together and hung them on the faucet, then put her neck in half-kneeling, ending her young life.
In the process of suicide, as long as Yang Yuanyuan had the slightest idea of survival, she had a chance to save herself, but she chose to give up. In her suicide note, she wrote her doubts and puzzles: Everyone told me to study hard, knowledge can change fate, but why did I put in the effort and my fate still did not change?
The story behind Yang Yuanyuan's death is thought-provoking. Although the school insisted that it had nothing to do with Yang Yuanyuan's death, her mother believed that the school was responsible and insisted on 350,000 yuan in compensation.
Although the school eventually gave 160,000 yuan in humanitarian compensation, this did not change the fact that Yang Yuanyuan had passed away, and the money became her mother's only consolation.
This story teaches us that we need to pay more attention to the mental health of our students and how to give them support and help when they are struggling.
Behind Yang Yuanyuan's tragedy is her own personality traits and the pressure of family responsibilities. She suffered too much helplessness and frustration in her heart, which made her vulnerable, which eventually led to her death.
At the same time, the pressure of reality is also one of the causes of tragedy. Yang Yuanyuan and her mother experienced ten years of difficult life together, and the ups and downs of job hunting, the difficulty of studying and the misery of her mother all hit her hard, and finally made her despair and hanged herself.
In addition, the excessive interference of her mother, Wang Ruiling, was also one of the main reasons for the tragedy. Looking back on Yang Yuanyuan's short life, her three major decisions - giving up law, giving up the postgraduate entrance examination and giving up the civil service examination are all expected to be Ruiling's intervention.
However, if she could choose to let go and follow her daughter's wishes at that time, maybe Yang Yuanyuan would have been able to take a different path. After all, every time she was in front of her, it was a road to heaven.
Although three key factors played an important role in this, what really made Yang Yuanyuan decide to commit suicide was the collapse of her faith. She believed that reading could change her fate, but in the process of pursuing this goal, she suffered repeated setbacks, and even let her mother live in a cold rental house in order to study.
She longs to change her fate and let her mother live a good life, but the reality is that "the more she reads, the more bitter it becomes", and the collapse of this faith makes her unacceptable, and finally comes to the end of her life.
Yang Yuanyuan's tragedy is not a single cause and effect, but reflects the common dilemma of many traditional Chinese families: strong mothers"Foolishness"daughter. If either of them had been able to make a change, the outcome could have been very different.
In any case, children should be filial, but not foolish; Parents should care about their children, but they also need to let go moderately and not be overly controlling.
Wang Ruiling's love for her daughter Yang Yuanyuan is undoubtedly deep and passionate, however, this overprotective love is like a double-edged sword, making her interfere with her daughter's decisions again and again, which eventually leads to irreparable tragedy.
We pray that the world will reduce the tragedy caused by over-love, so that every life can bloom freely.