Ding Jiali, who has had four abortions and cheated in marriage, said in a speech in 2009 that she had no moral bottom line and began to learn to seduce men when she was in school.
Although she was at the peak of her debut, her synonymous with "lover, abortion and pornography" was considered "lover", abortion and pornography.
Her story reminds us that the lack of moral boundaries can have a great negative impact on our lives, and we should always be morally vigilant and restrained.
Ding Jiali won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Supporting Actress and the Plum Blossom Award for her first film, but behind this glorious honor is her disrespect for herself and self-indulgent private life, but she dares to face her mistakes.
However, when Sun Honglei came into her life, everything began to change ......
In front of many young people, Ding Jiali shared her personal experience, and every unexpected thing made people feel its impact deeply, but when she told it, it was as if she was telling someone else's story.
She firmly stated that she would not act in movies that may have a bad impact on the physical and mental health of teenagers in the future, because she has personally experienced "one mistake becomes a thousand hatreds".
Ding Jiali candidly said that she lacked male love in her life, and her early experience caused her to suffer unmarried pregnancies, multiple miscarriages, marital betrayal, and finally abandoned by Sun Honglei.
The detours she once took made her lose her way on the road of life. But after all these ups and downs, she finally found the true meaning of life and embarked on a new path.
Ding Jiali was born into a patriarchal family, and this prejudice has deeply affected her life. From the moment she was born, everyone in the family discriminated against and resented her.
Even her father threw her directly into the trash because he was afraid of his family and no one dared to hug her.
Although Ding Jiali's mother has some regrets about giving birth to a daughter, she still loves her child deeply.
In order for Ding Jiali to have a better living environment, she decided to send her to a couple in Shandong for adoption.
Although Ding Jiali was still very young at that time, she already showed that different and eclectic spirit in her heart. ”
Ding Jiali has been different from ordinary girls since she was a child, as if she came from two different eras. As an adult, the flower of her inner emotions began to bloom, and she was full of curiosity about the relationship between men and women.
Influenced by bad film and television works, she yearns for **.
When she was in college, she met her first love Hu Guangchuan, and because of his influence, she took the initiative to try the forbidden fruit with Hu Guangchuan.
However, this attempt led to an unwanted pregnancy that resulted in ......
In those days, getting pregnant out of wedlock would make people bear the stigma of a lifetime. Ding Jiali chose to go to the hospital to have the child killed, but the doctor's contemptuous tone and eyes broke her heart.
However, this did not stop Ding Jiali's experience, and after a second pregnancy, they decided to get married. After marriage, Ding Jiali raised her daughter at home, while Hu Guangchuan went out filming to support her family.
However, Ding Jiali felt lonely and began to yearn for change.
After Ding Jiali cheated, she still brought the man home in the name of a friend.
Although the adoptive father and adoptive mother knew about the situation, they could only reprimand her privately and ask her to cut off contact. However, Ding Jiali is stubborn and insists that it is only a friendship.
As an elder, although Hu Guangchuan was not her biological son, her adoptive father and adoptive mother could not sit idly by and watch him be kept in the dark, and finally told Hu Guangchuan about it, and the marriage ended.
A year later, Ding Jiali entered her second marriage.
In 1990, Ding Jiali fell in love with a university lecturer, got married and had a son, Guoguo.
However, the love between the two is like fine wine, drunk quickly, and waking up quickly. When the divorce occurred, Ding Jiali suffered betrayal, and her daughter divorced after the full moon and raised the children alone.
And her ex-husband made the same mistake, and eventually the two ended their marriage when their son was full moon.
Ding Jiali, who had failed in two marriages, decided to face life alone, and at this time, Sun Honglei came into her life.
Ding Jiali was once a popular actress, won numerous awards, and had a great career. But Sun Honglei was just a trickster at that time, and almost no one paid attention to it.
Despite this, Sun Honglei has always pursued Ding Jiali passionately, not afraid of the age gap and external pressure.
Ding Jiali initially had doubts about Sun Honglei's pursuit, and even told him his past directly, hoping to stop him.
But Sun Honglei didn't care, but strengthened his mind.
It wasn't until the performance of "Marie Curie" that Ding Jiali really opened her heart and accepted Sun Honglei.
Ding Jiali was troubled by her past, and in the face of Sun Honglei's persistent pursuit, she chose to ignore and expect him to give up on his own.
However, when Sun Honglei was informed that he did not have to act in "Marie Curie", he felt extremely helpless, and his enthusiasm for Ding Jiali also vanished.
He can only play a supporting role and can't do anything about it. Ding Jiali was moved by his predicament and encouraged him not to think too much about it, so that he could perform on stage the next day. However, the next day, Sun Honglei was really notified to perform on stage, which surprised Ding Jiali.
Ding Jiali's influence should not be underestimated, and her presence has undoubtedly laid a solid foundation for Sun Honglei's success.
After this time, Ding Jiali seemed to have a special affection for Sun Honglei, she selflessly dedicated her resources and efforts, and even knelt down to the director for him, just so that he could get more opportunities.
Sun Honglei also had a better development because of this, but Ding Jiali was accused of wrong payment because of this payment.
In 2002, Sun Honglei cooperated with Gong Li during the filming of "Zhou Yu's Train", and the two had many intimate scenes in the play, and they also teased each other in the theater, so there were many scandals about the relationship between the two.
Despite this, Ding Jiali didn't care too much about it, because filming always produces scandals.
However, as the news of Gong Li and Sun Honglei shopping together was **, Ding Jiali began to be suspicious of Sun Honglei.
As more news came out that the two went in and out of different occasions together, Ding Jiali decided to ask in person, because Sun Honglei's career could be so successful without Ding Jiali's support.
However, before Ding Jiali could speak, she received the news of Sun Honglei's breakup.
After Sun Honglei proposed to Ding Jiali to break up, Ding Jiali realized that their relationship was irretrievable.
She began to question her place in his heart, and even wondered if he had ever truly loved her.
Despite this, Ding Jiali still wanted to know the reason for the breakup, but Sun Honglei just asked her indifferently: "Do you think we are a good match?" ”
In fact, Ding Jiali is 11 years older than Sun Honglei, and if she doesn't wear makeup, she may even be mistaken for his elder.
Faced with this fact, Ding Jiali was so desperate that she could only choose to give up. Jin Xing once complained about an actor on the show, and his various experiences are very similar to Sun Honglei, which also makes netizens speculate that he is Sun Honglei.
Jin Xing once said that some actors were considered little fresh meat when they were young, and then they met a big sister in the entertainment industry, with an age difference of more than ten years, and they actually became popular a few years later, but as soon as they became popular, they turned their faces and dumped the eldest sister.
Jin Xing's words seem to be talking about the past between Sun Honglei and Ding Jiali, so netizens labeled Sun Honglei as ungrateful and borrowed a woman to take the position, although there is no direct evidence, but most people think it is true.
However, Ding Jiali chose to let go after being abandoned by Sun Honglei.
In Ding Jiali's life, in addition to regretting her wrong behavior, most of her energy is devoted to caring for her children.
She realized that the uninhibited youth also made children often feel inferior and unconfident, and even couldn't hold their heads up in front of others.
She has publicly stated that if given the chance, she would never choose to divorce. In order to make up for her past mistakes, she chooses to be alone and no longer looks for a new relationship.
Thankfully, her children have always been something she is proud of. Until 2009, Ding Jiali was determined to say goodbye to her past self completely and reconcile with her past self.
In front of everyone, she candidly shared the absurdity and unbearability of her past, as a message to all girls: only by learning self-respect and self-love can you win the respect and love of others.
In order to seek inner salvation, Ding Jiali began her journey of believing in Buddhism. Ding believes that if her story can touch some women, then she is halfway on the road to atonement.
Ding Jiali may not have been loved in her life, but this is all because of her original family and past behavior. Fortunately, Ding Jiali finally came to her senses, otherwise she would not have opened up her past in front of everyone.
Ding Jiali has never claimed to be a good person, but she is by no means a villain, and although her life is full of unbearable memories, at least she has always maintained her honesty.