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Everyone has times when they are angry and angry, but anger is also divided into realms, and the content of this issue is Zi Mojun to talk to you together.
The three-tier realm of emotional management is not only the progression of emotional control, but also the embodiment of personal cultivation and emotional intelligence.
The first level of the realm, emotions are out of control
This is the most common emotional state and the stage when it is most easily influenced by emotions. It was as if there was a volcano in my heart that was about to erupt, and I couldn't control my emotions, so that anger and dissatisfaction poured out in an instant. At this moment, reason is thrown out of the clouds, words become sharp and mean, and actions become impulsive and intense.
In 2019, during an international tennis match, a well-known tennis player lost control of his emotions after a series of controversial decisions. At a critical moment in the game, he angrily threw his racket on the spot because he thought the referee had made a wrong decision, yelled at the referee, and even hit the referee's chair with the ball.
The athlete's actions not only caused shock in the crowd, but also led to him being directly sentenced to defeat and facing penalties such as fines and bans. After the game, he apologized for his out-of-control behavior and admitted that he had misbehaved.
In high-pressure and competitive situations, even professional athletes can get out of control. Emotional management is equally important for athletes, not only because of their personal image and career, but also because of the fairness and spectacle of the game.
In the second realm, joy and anger are invisible
This is an advanced stage of emotion management. At this stage, we are able to control our emotions and not let them show themselves, but the heart will still be affected by emotions.
Microsoft founder Bill Gates has a reputation in business and technology, and he is also a person with extremely strong emotional management skills. At a tech conference, a member of the audience asked Gates a very pointed question, criticizing Microsoft's product quality and business strategy. The question clearly upset Gates as his contributions to the industry and the company's efforts were questioned.
Gates, however, showed no signs of being angry. On the contrary, he maintained a calm and polite attitude, responding to the audience's criticism with facts and figures. He explained in detail Microsoft's investment and innovation in product quality and how the company strives to meet the needs of its customers. Gates' answer demonstrates both his professionalism and his ability to control his emotions.
The third level of the realm is not angry at all
This is the highest level of emotion management. At this stage, we have been able to take full control of our emotions and not get angry or frustrated by anything. For example, in the face of attacks and accusations from others, we are able to maintain peace of mind and composure, and not be swayed by the emotions of others.
Have a deep awareness of your own emotions, be able to be aware of your anger in a timely manner, and understand the reasons for its triggers. Being able to empathize with other people's positions and emotions helps them see the conflict from a broader perspective and reduce anger. Good at using positive communication styles to express one's feelings and needs rather than through angry or aggressive words. Tend to look for solutions to problems rather than dwell on angry emotions. Ease tensions and avoid escalating anger.
Emotion management is a long-term process that requires continuous learning and practice. It is only through continuous efforts that we can reach the highest level of emotional management and keep our hearts calm and calm.
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