Writer Bi Shumin once said: "Rejection is a kind of power, just like survival is a right." ”
Especially as a woman, if you want to be successful in your career and love, you must continue to cultivate yourself. When you can control your own rights, you can live a more certain self.
A woman is getting better and better in 2 states, and she can be favored by men for the rest of her life, and she can fully accept herself.
01: Low expectations for humanity and strong heart
Girls who are fragile at heart are always kind to others, and they also hope that the people around them can also take care of themselves.
However, there are so many selfish people, whether they are lovers or colleagues, what they can do is very limited.
Even if you are already gentle and considerate of others, you will still be hurt.
This is real human nature, and if you expect too much, you will feel very frightened and painful.
A woman's getting better and better starts with a change in human nature.
You no longer expect to meet good people, and even understand that selfishness, arrogance, and disrespect are the norm, and you will feel a lot freer.
When you have a reasonable view of human nature and no longer have false expectations, you will not feel hurt. No matter how strange people you meet, you can treat them calmly.
We all live in an era of impatience and love, and you can choose to be sincere and kind people, but you must not expect that all you meet will be good people.
There must be more bad people, and in this life, you are lucky to meet one or two people who are loving and understand you.
Kazuo Inamori once said, "Life is not a material feast, but a spiritual cultivation." ”
As long as you can reduce your expectations for humanity, life will definitely get better and better, you won't always get hurt, and you can actively meet any challenges in the future.
You can't anticipate how complex and ** the human heart is, and you are not sure what kind of people you will meet.
What you can do is to keep a transparent and normal heart and face the ups and downs of life.
I like what Yang Jiang said: "The best state of a woman should be, her eyes are full of stories, but her face is not frosty, she paints light makeup every day, does not laugh at anyone, does not rely on anyone, works hard quietly, and lives as she wants." ”
Women with this ability are most likely to have an unusual pattern, and their love and career will go smoothly.
02: Dare to express yourself strongly and trust yourself very much
Believing in oneself is an ability that not everyone can have.
Girls who have been unconditionally loved by their parents since childhood, they will care about their feelings very much and dare to express themselves strongly.
Therefore, whether it is work or relationship, the luck of such a girl is often not bad.
Their strength lies in their trust in their own abilities and judgments. He is very decisive in doing things, and he doesn't care about other people's opinions, but he is also not overly selfish.
A woman's really good state is that she can express what she thinks in an appropriate way.
Even if you are very introverted, you must still train yourself to speak up.
The more confident a girl is, the more she values her own needs. In love, men are not allowed to perfunctory themselves at will, and they will keep the bottom line.
When you start to speak up and learn to trust yourself, then life will definitely go uphill.
The more you remain silent, the more others will ignore your emotions, not consider your situation, and not respect your needs.
Those women who are constantly forbearance in their relationships and marriages are too lacking inside and can only ask for it from the outside world.
Accustomed to pleasing and fulfilling, you don't dare to express what you want, and you can only endure when you are bullied, such a state will only make you fall into a more collapsed state.
No matter how hard you try, you can't live well.
There is a saying: "The process of transformation is very painful, but every transformation will have the surprise of growth." ”
For women who have passed the age of 30, it is a process of self-renewal, and it is necessary to constantly sublimate the inner strength.
Only in this way can you get the respect and emotional preference you want.