Why middle-aged men like to be in the car***
Dear friends, After reading your letter, I deeply empathize. The relationship you describe with a man outside of marriage seems to be in stark contrast to the experiences of others.
You are there for him, but you don't feel the care and love you deserve. The lack of attention and coldness of your husband to you as described makes me feel distressed. Your decision to cheat may stem from your heart's desire for love and attention.
Your husband seems to have forgotten your birthday in his marriage and is not giving you the comfort he deserves in the quarrel. He seems to only care about the needs of the family and his daughter, and ignores your feelings and needs.
This can make you feel lonely and neglected. Your feelings are completely understandable. Everyone has the right to receive the love and attention they need, which is essential in marriage.
Your decision to derail is a reaction in your quest for love and attention. I hope you will think carefully about your feelings, understand your needs, and try to communicate with your husband.
Allowing your husband to understand your feelings and needs and work together to find solutions to problems is key to rebuilding trust and a happy marriage. Bless you and hope you can find your own happiness and fulfillment.
I was once attracted to an extramarital man who used his packaged self to win my sympathy. However, as the relationship deepened, I realized that he was not what I imagined.
I had a stable job and a nice family, but he kept pestering me and making me fall into it. Perhaps because I haven't been praised and loved by a man for too long, I was touched by his sweet words.
He used to tell me that his marriage was unhappy, and I began to fantasize that he loved me. However, I found out that it was just a script that I directed and acted in, and he never really got involved.
Our relationship became more and more complicated, and I began to question his sincerity. He said we were good friends, but we didn't. I started to feel angry and disappointed, and I didn't want to be his preceptor.
I began to understand that what I needed was someone who really cared about me, who was there for me, who was willing to go through life with me.
It turned out that I had been playing on myself, and the perfect image he had created in my heart collapsed in an instant. I put myself in lovers, extramarital affairs, but in his mind, I might just be a long-term, free sexual partner.
He had a regular sex life, and I wasn't his sexless marriage, nor was I the lover he thought I was. I don't ask for companionship, room for advancement, spiritual communication, and material expression, as long as we need each other.
However, when confronted with my question, he went so far as to say that he didn't know. I was disappointed and couldn't get angry in front of him, and he always chose to be cold and didn't reply to me.
I'm also trying to change myself and accept imperfect people and things, but I can't accept his answer to my relationship. I thought, he probably just wanted a long-term, free sex partner, and I was nothing in his eyes.
Why, then, should I be so humble? He doesn't feel his presence or care except when he needs to come to me. Once, he asked me to remember taking my medicine afterwards, and I replied that I knew and wouldn't bother him.
But he replied that it was mainly for me to get myself in trouble. I was cold, it turned out that he wanted to get rid of even an unexpected pregnancy.
In relationships, I always don't understand why he always flashes his words and doesn't answer positively. I deleted his ***, but I felt reluctant in my heart. All I crave is an honest and honest approach, and all I expect is a direct and courageous attitude.
However, he repeatedly avoided this seemingly ordinary problem, which left me confused and painful. What is he afraid of? How should I deal with this?
Should I stick to my decision and remove him completely and never have any more contact in the future? Even if we get in touch again, will we be in the same predicament again? I need your advice and help, I hope you can show me the way.
Thank you very much for allowing it to be made public.
4 Crying Lotus replied: Hello, thank you for your trust. In fact, whether he is sincere to you or not, you already have the answer in your heart. Adults are not children, and many of the rules in communication need not be so thorough, you should understand them.
For example, sometimes, silence is rejection. Sometimes, silence is unwillingness. Sometimes, not replying is not because you don't have time to reply, but because you are afraid that the words of the reply will be too ugly and embarrassing for you.
Sometimes, if you don't coax, it's not that you won't coax, but you just feel that you don't deserve his time. Sometimes, not connecting is ...... breakupWhy do you have to keep asking? The answer is actually that you already know, but you are too deep into the drama and don't want to wake yourself up.
He certainly doesn't have much affection for you, and free, safe sex is the only thing he wants from you. Why doesn't he accompany you, spend money, chat with you, and take care of your spiritual feelings?
Because he doesn't need to spend this to get what he wants, why should he pay more? Even children know the truth, but unfortunately you don't understand.
You ask me, to delete him or not? I can't give you an answer to this, if you want to delete it, you don't have to ask me, it's been deleted a long time ago, and I won't add it again. If you don't want to delete it, then you listen to me for the time being, delete him, and he will still be added back in a few days.
So, delete it or not, decide for yourself. Best wishes.