First you need to be honestSelf-isolationAdmit from the bottom of your heart that it is not the outside world that has always separated you from the outside world, but yourself! Sometimes it's true that people are xenophobic and intolerant, but when we're isolating, we do most of the work ourselves. Self-isolation is appealing because it can avoid those unpleasant feelings and anxieties for a short time. If self-isolation makes you feel empowered and helps you have the ability to control your time and energy, perhaps it's telling you that you need a way to protect yourself and not make excuses.
WhyGet outSelf-isolationStatusImportant? Pets are cute, very **, and very loyal, but pets are not enough, you need to have someone else in your life. Even if you feel like you don't have an emotional need for someone else,ButYour immune systemMental healthand good healthNeed to get along with peopleWhen you really engage with people,Can be reducedRightothersHarm orWhat they have sufferedAggrieved attentionWhen you self-isolate, you magnify the harm that others have done to you, and the more you discourage yourself from stepping out and engaging in interpersonal interactions.
Set boundaries and learn to say "no". You feel like it's too stressful to get along with people and waste a lot of time and energy on people who make demands of you, but it's because you don't know how to say "no". Another thought people have when they self-isolate is: "Alienation from people is only temporary, I just need a break, I just don't like this person and just need a little time to take care of myself." And it does feel like you're doing what's good for you, taking care of yourself. But how do you feel after you isolate yourself for days or weeks or years? If you do it enough, there will be a terrible feeling that it will be difficult to shake off. It tends to appear in the dead of night, lonely? Sad? Lonely. It's probably what we call late-night emo, feeling like life is passing by you, cranky, can't hold back tears, and can't sleep at night.
In fact, it is more stressful to feel this way than having other people in your life. When you"I only escaped briefly," came to my mind againSoon it will return to the outside worldtime,Remember to tell yourself".YouIsolate yourselfThe longer it takes, the more difficult it will be to change. ”Sometimes self-isolation can sink you deeper and deeper into a habit. The feeling can even be addictive. You almost want to feel overwhelmed or exhausted because then you can allow yourself to lie down and continue to self-isolate. You can set boundaries to keep yourself safeLearn to say "no" to things you don't likeand practice social skills repeatedlyProficiency in words and actions can help you spend a while with other people before returning home.
Learning and connecting with othersknotsIt may seem risky, but it will soon pay off. itMake your day full of little adventuresHarvestSome joyHopefully, growth,Friendship, maybe romanceGetting along with people helps to give your ideas a basis and make you feel comfortable socially. I need them so that I can flourish and become a better version of myself; I need them to support me when I'm sick or hospitalized, or when I'm going through a tough time. You hide for a while and feel uncomfortable, but when you go out and blend in with the crowd, it feels like the seal has been lifted, full of freedom and energy. With conscious practice, communication with others will become smoother and smoother.
We need to socialize, otherwise we will be social. We need to feel that we are needed"Giving" is more happier than "receiving". Our happiness is more than just a feeling, he is almost like an organism that can either be destroyed by relationships, or it can also flourish in relationships. Learn to discern who is the one who helps you grow and who is not? We want to associate with people who are good in their own right, not just people who are good to you. Discerning these requires constant practice. It also means that you have to try, and you can't do it in isolation. So, when you are shopping, you can greet the salesperson and give a sweet smile; You can also have a chat with your neighbors; It's okay to call someone who needs care and take the time to listen to them. This is not only good for them, but also good for you, as the saying goes, "give people roses, leave a lingering fragrance in your hands".
When you help others, don't expect anything in return. toPleaseotherswithRelationships based on mutual utilizationIt will soon exhaust youReal relationships are not transactional. It's like I help you pick up the courier, you play games with me, or if I tell you that I don't get along well with my family, you tell me about your relationship, etc. When you help others, don't expect anything in return. Because there is no absolute fairness in the world. Sometimes youNot given, but willGet something in returnSometimesYou give, but you don'tRequite. You may want to isolate when giving isn't rewarded or you feel hurt, but hold on and get people a little closer to you, let friendships bloom and see if something changes. You have to practice to learn to connect. When you're alone for long periods of time, it's easy to put too much stress and anticipation on a new friendship and then feel hurt because they're not what you hoped they were.
You may feel like it's impossible to get out of your comfort zone right now, but that feeling of difficulty is suggesting that it's a good time. There's a good saying, "When you want to get out of your comfort zone, you're already feeling uncomfortable". Go exploreThoseYes".Triggered"Yoursfactorsand learn how to calm these factors；If your childhood trauma has deprived you of the ability to connect, seek professional healing.
Go out there and enjoy the fun of life in every situation!