In relationships, sometimes we feel that although certain relationships seem normal on the surface, we always feel uncomfortable in them, which can actually be a state of "mutual consumption".
Not only can this state of affairs leave people feeling tired and helpless, but it can also have a negative impact on the physical and mental health of both parties.
So, how can you tell if two people are consuming each other? We can observe it from the following aspects:
1.Communication:If the communication between the two sides is always full of accusations and attacks, lacks understanding and tolerance, or always chooses to avoid deep communication and fall into a cold war, the relationship between the two sides will gradually deteriorate and fall into mutual attrition.
2.Emotional Experience:If both parties are no longer willing to invest in feelings or maintain relationships in the relationship, and no longer care about each other's inner world, lack of support and encouragement, each other's daily interactions and exchanges can not bring positive emotional experiences, but make both parties feel lost and helpless, which is also a manifestation of mutual consumption.
3.Common Goals:If the lack of shared values and goals in life leads to a lack of empathy and understanding, a lack of deep communication and interaction, and a sense of confusion, helplessness and anxiety about the relationship and the future, then the relationship is likely to have fallen into the predicament of mutual attrition.
4.Personal Feelings:An individual's inner feelings are the most direct indicator of the state of a relationship. If both partners feel exhausted, depressed, and miserable in the relationship, resulting in a loss of motivation and energy to maintain the relationship, and a loss of confidence in life, these can mean that both parties are losing track of each other.
In short,If two people are not nourishing each other, they can't support each other and grow together, but they continue to consume each other's energy and emotions, then this is a relationship of mutual loss
If you find yourself in such a relationship, it's time to reflect and take action to address it, or consider whether it's time to leave the relationship.
In any case, we should cherish our lives and time, stay away from those people and things that consume us, and look for the source that can truly make us happy and happy.