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A few days ago, I saw a hot post that resonated with many people.
I hate it when people are always showing off their colleges, and I have a friend who is like that, and every time we talk about my academic qualifications, I have something to say. I have to let others know that he is studying 985 in college, which is really annoying, and I have put up with him for a long time, since I was in the same class as him in college. ”
The author's comments are also full of complaints about this:
I also hate vanity people. My friend likes to deliberately show the Porsche logo when taking pictures, and I can't stand it anymore, so I won't let her sit in my car. ”
The most annoying thing about the New Year is to show off, and when you look at the circle of friends, you are all showing air tickets, vacations, and food, and you have to let the world know about it. ”
Leon Festinger once pointed out in his book "Social Comparison and Happiness":Through social comparison, people adjust their self-evaluation. They may feel content and pride when they find themselves better than the reference group in some way, which can improve their self-esteem
I think those who love to show off are to reveal that they are better than us, and to make themselves satisfied and proud.
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I saw such a hot post on a certain thing before, which made people sigh.
Yesterday when I went home for dinner, I was scolded by my mother".
She said that where the children of a certain relative are working now, with a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan. Her parents have a lot of face, and then crackle and output."
I'm really speechless, I've been like this since I was a child, comparing me with other people's children, I didn't expect to be like this when I grew up! ”
After the post, many netizens felt suffocated across the screen.
Because since childhood, the blogger's mother has always been like this.
Bloggers have never been able to become the capital for parents to show off. When they find themselves inferior to their reference group, they may feel anxious and restless, lowering their self-esteem.
When love is flaunted and love is used to support one's own face, even the closest family members around you will be hurt.
Writer Lin Yutang once said:
The word face cannot be translated or defined.
It seems to be an honor, but it is not an honor; It cannot be bought with money, but it gives a substantial brilliance.
It is empty and unrealistic, but men fight for it and women die for itIt is this empty thing, on which the Chinese live.
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A passage that I like very much. Surprisingly, many people don't know what life really wants:
Even if you didn't get into college, didn't get a good job, and now your life is in a difficult situation, or you started doing something when you're older, your life won't end easily because of these thingsHowever, once you start comparing it to the lives of other people on the Internet, the mentality is bound to be destroyed and then collapsed
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