I, who am in my 40s this year and have been married for more than 20 years, have become more and more ordinary in our life as husband and wife.
Now, we are each busy, and when we go home, apart from a simple exchange, we fall into silence, and we go back to our respective rooms, and we are still busy with our own things.
It is said that they are destined to meet thousands of miles and sleep together for a hundred years, but this silence makes me think: Is this the norm for middle-aged couples?
At work, we all say that the client is God, and isn't husband and wife each other's God?
Faced with this question, I fell into a long thought, and then I started withKnots, pain points, attempts, solutionsFrom the perspective of dismantling this pain point that plagues us middle-aged people, I hope it will help us who are silent.
1. Heart knot:The reason for the silence of middle-aged couples
1. Exhaustion caused by life pressure: Middle-aged couples often face the dual pressure of work and family, which makes us just want to rest quietly when we come home after a busy day, and ignore each other's communication.
2. Family affection replaces passion: With the passage of time, our feelings have changed from the years of burning passion to bland family affection. This shift has made us less enthusiastic in our daily lives than we were when we were younger.
3. Communication barriers and misunderstandings: Middle-aged couples may quarrel with one action or one sentence in their lives, which will lead to deeper misunderstandings and contradictions. In order to avoid quarrels, it is sometimes preferred to choose silence.
IIPain points:The crisis of silence
1. Emotional estrangement and indifference to family affection: The lack of communication for a long time leads to a long period of silence with each other, which leads to the gradual estrangement of the relationship between husband and wife, and the family relationship becomes more and more indifferent.
2. Lack of common topics in life: Silence makes it impossible for us to find common topics in our lives, further exacerbating our sense of alienation.
3. Leads to the intervention of the outside world: When there is a rift in the relationship between the husband and wife, the outside world will take advantage of it, thus threatening the marriage.
3. Try:A turning point in silence
1. Gain insight into each other's needs: Silence is not necessarily a bad thing, silence gives us time to reflect on our own needs in marriage so that we can better understand each other.
2. Precipitate feelings and transform them into family affection: In silence, we can transform the passion into deeper family affection.
3. Re-cultivate common interests and improve communication: We can try to find common hobbies and enhance communication with each other through common activities.
3. Solution:How to deal with the silence of a middle-aged couple
1. Actively communicate and express our inner feelings: We must learn to take the initiative to communicate and express our inner feelings bravely.
2. Increase the interest of life and create a romantic atmosphere: Don't think that old husbands and wives don't need romance, romantic life can add interest, create a romantic atmosphere, and let each other regain their passion.
3. Cherish the people in front of us: We must cherish the partner in front of us, spend the rest of our lives together to face all kinds of challenges in life together, and understand that if you lose, you may not be able to find a more suitable one for you.
Fourth, summary
The silence of middle-aged couples is a crisis, but it can also be a turning point. The key is how we perceive and deal with this silence. Cherish the feelings, work together, and find the peace that belongs to us. After all, true love is not about hustle and bustle, but about calm.
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