The child is the palm of the parent, the hard October pregnancy, the painful birth, the child who went through so many hardships to give birth, how can the parents not feel distressed, and the grandparents will also spoil the child infinitely, because it is originally the next generation, plus it is the continuation of their own offspring, so they will treat their grandchildren as much as possible to give the child good things, but this must be moderate, if it exceeds a certain degree, it is not good.
Two days ago, I saw a ** on the Internet, very impressed, ** is like this, mother Xiaohua is a strong woman, so, after giving birth to a daughter, she resumed work, daughters are brought by grandma, grandma's family is a little grandson, finally had a granddaughter, she is very happy, in the mouth for fear of melting, holding in the palm of the hand for fear of falling, usually no matter what the granddaughter does, she is very happy, so the child has grown to 4 years old, arrogant personality, but also very squeamish, usually eat a meal is to grandma chase and feed, the temper is not small, whenever there is something unsatisfactory, he will cry.
On this day, Xiaohua came back from work early, just saw her grandmother chasing her daughter to feed, her daughter didn't want to eat, so she got angry and began to slap her grandmother's face with her hand, Xiaohua was stupid to see it, the 4-year-old female treasure actually did such a thing, she went up directly and slapped her daughter, her daughter was directly fanned and cried, grandma was distressed, and hurriedly coaxed her little granddaughter, but Xiaohua directly called her grandma aside, didn't let grandma take care of this matter, and educated her daughter well, respecting the old and loving the young is our traditional virtue, not because of her young age, made such a thing, Xiaohua also realized that it was her grandmother's pampering and her own negligence that caused her daughter's current arrogance, but fortunately, her daughter is young and can be changed, if she finds it a little later, it will be bad, and the comments of netizens under this ** are: play well.
In fact, what netizens said is that parents did not educate their children well when their children were young, so when they grow up, they will naturally have others to help educate your children, so you must be strict with your children, so some parents will say, the child is still young, and it is okay to be arrogant, so do you know what harm is there to the child's arrogance?
First: children will become selfish and will not think about others.
Children who grow up arrogantly will be self-centered, will think about themselves in everything, will only think about whether it will harm their own interests, and will not consider whether it will hurt others, when they do a thing, they will not think about others, let alone what kind of consequences they will cause to others, such children are very terrible.
Second: self-centered, not knowing gratitude.
Children who grow up arrogant are very self-centered, they don't know how to be grateful, and they take it for granted that their parents raise themselves, and it's very bad to be like this all the time, so it's best not to be arrogant to your children.
Having said so much about the consequences of pampering children, how to teach children correctly?
First: Parents lead by example.
Parents are the best teachers for children, even if parents are busy with work, they must take time to get along with their children, communicate with their children, and lead by example, as the saying goes, raising a godfather's fault, in fact, the child is a blank sheet of paper at the beginning, and what the child will become in the future depends on what you will draw on this blank paper, that is, your behavior affects the child, so if you want the child to become better, parents must lead by example.
Second: Teach children to learn to be grateful, respect the old and love the young.
Even if the child can't do this, we must teach the child to be grateful, so that the child knows the kindness of parenting, as well as the love of the elders, and the kindness of friends to help, learn to respect the old and love the young, not only to focus on themselves, but also to understand the difference of the people around them.
Children need the guidance of their parents from ignorance to sensibility, so if they want their children to become a responsible and educated person, parents must set a good example and avoid arrogance, and they must make an agreement with their children's elders.