There will be many people in life, and each and every one of them will affect you to a greater or lesser extent.
From falling to the ground, to entering the school, then entering the workplace, then getting married and having children, and entering the year of establishment, until you are not confused and know the destiny of heaven.
In this life, we will meet many people who will have contact with all kinds of people, or meet in Pingshui, or make friends with gentlemen;
Or intimate, or solidar.
Every person we meet will affect us to a greater or lesser extent.
These influences shape our temperament, character, preferences, and even our lives.
The people around us can be divided into two kinds, one is the person who makes us feel consumed, full of negative emotions, and tired to get along with;
One is someone who makes us feel comfortable, nourished by him, and positive in any situation.
The former constantly tears us apart, and the latter constantly nourishes us.
Energy is a precious resource, and friends will attach themselves to people's bodies like leeches, slowly sucking away your energy.
For the rest of your life, you must be close to people who can nourish you
A person with too many negative emotions will not only hurt himself, but also make the people and atmosphere around him worse.
A distant relative inevitably gets together once a year for the Chinese New Year.
In recent years, he has become more and more angry.
Whatever the topic at the dinner table, his remarks were almost always negative.
If it weren't for me, so-and-so would still have to farm in the village now";
You can't educate your children, you're too spoiled, and all the problems have been solved";
Isn't it stupid to spend so much money to buy a house in Zhengzhou, it's big and cost-effective to go home and build a house";
Your generation has not suffered much, but you know how to enjoy it";
The daughter-in-law couldn't listen to it, so she took the bowl to the child's table, and when she got home, she told me that she would stay away from this relative in the future, and she would be nothing but complain.
When a person's anger is too heavy, even the most insipid words will inevitably carry negative feelings, and the people around him will inevitably be affected.
How can such a person bring us nourishment, and there is no need to invite everyone into life and stay in life.
When I was young, I liked to make friends, and I thought that the more friends I had, the better, and the more friends I had, the easier it would be.
But as we grow older, the circle of life becomes smaller and smaller, and there are fewer and fewer friends, because we learn to stay away and give up.
We will gradually move away from those who have negative energy, and slowly let go of those who consume our energy.
People with negative energy are like black holes
If you get too close to them, your emotions will be inexplicably led by them, and you will often be in a state of complaining, negativity, and self-denial, and the whole person will feel physically and mentally exhausted.
Positive and optimistic people are like the sun, and when we are close to them, we are easily infected by their cheerful and upward attitude, and the mood and state are involuntarily brightened, such people will nourish our body and mind, and illuminate our lives.
Things are gathered by like, and people are grouped.
There are wonderful and interesting connections between people;
The kind of person you are, the more people you will meet who are very similar to you.
Everyone you have met in your life has influenced you to some degree.
From the fights with your childhood friends, the intimacy between classmates, the mutual help between friends, and the companionship between lovers, they all inadvertently affect you and change you.
There is a saying in the Book of Changes: "Corresponding with the same voice, seeking from each other with the same breath." ”
When people reach middle age, they have seen all kinds of people and experienced ups and downs, and they have learned to protect their own energy and know what is the most comfortable way of life.
The wrong people wear each other down;
The right people, nourish each other and make each other a better version of themselves.
How far a man can go depends on who he has with him;
How good a person is depends on who he has to guide him;
How successful a person is depends on who he is with. ”
If we want to become a better version of ourselves, we need to find those people around us who are full of positive energy, and get along with them, so that they can influence us and change us, and at the same time let go of our own negative emotions, and over time, we will attract more people who are also full of positive energy.
People also have phototaxis, and who wouldn't want to be close to such an optimistic, positive person?
Who wouldn't want to let such a person nourish themselves?
An old classmate of mine is such a person.
When I was in school, when I walked into the classroom every day, I was always smiling and walking lightly;
Of course, he is a scholar, ask him questions, he does not refuse, the teacher once asked us to disturb his study less, and ask the teacher if there are questions;
He said: "Teacher, it doesn't matter, giving a lecture to the students is equivalent to rethinking yourself, and it will also help you a lot." ”
He likes to play chess, and a shout between classes, Guan Gong fights Qin Qiong, who will fight me to the death", can attract "strong men" to meet the battle.
Although his chess skills are average and he has been defeated repeatedly, he is happy to do it and insists on losing and fighting repeatedly.
He can single-handedly set the whole class afloat.
Such a person will definitely be able to nourish many people around him and add bright sunshine and warm rain and dew to many people's lives.
Therefore, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black".
If you are close to cinnabar, it will easily turn red, and if you are close to the ink, it will turn black.
The kind of people we get close to will be the kind of people we will become.
I am middle-aged, you may be young, maybe you are standing up, or you are entering the sixtieth birthday, and for the rest of your life, you must be close to the people who can nourish you, so that the rest of your life will be full of sunshine and rain.
May everyone we meet in the rest of our lives nourish our lives.