Author: Wen Qiusheng.
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"Love in the Time of Cholera" says: "The duty of marriage is not to love each other for a long time, but to overcome mutual boredom." ”Women are like flowers, they need sunshine and rain to nourish them.
After getting married, a woman hopes that her husband can give her preference and a sense of security.
If you are discouraged about your marriage, your emotions will become very unstable. She longs for more tenderness and sweetness, becomes "flowery", and pays less and less attention to this home.
Some women have their hearts out of the house. The heart is not at home, it can be seen.
If a woman's heart is no longer at home, it will leave the following traces.
A reader, sending a message, said:
His wife has changed a lot lately, making him wonder if she doesn't want to live with him anymore.
She bought herself a lot of beautiful clothes, put on makeup, dressed up, put on high heels again, and bought a lot of jewelry.
I ran out every day, either out to eat or sing, and came home more and more often after 12 o'clock in the evening.
The money on the bank card at home disappeared a lot "inexplicably", and when I asked her, she couldn't tell what she bought, and she couldn't account for it.
The man was anxious and thought that his wife might have changed her mind.
Whenever I ask her, why do you spend money and ignore the lives of your family? She always runs away from home in a fit of anger.
Actually, love or not, money will tell you the answer.
Whether it is a woman or a man, in fact, the performance of love depends on how much time and money he spends on **.
After a woman changes her mind, she no longer loves her, and her consumption will also change.
For example, spending money becomes unrestrained, no matter how much financial pressure the husband is under, and he only cares about his own vanity and needs.
The woman's love is getting weaker and weaker, and her investment and dedication to this family are getting less and less.
The more you love your woman, the more planned she is to spend her money, and the more she will take care of her family.
Chen Ting in "In the Name of Family" locked her two young children at home and went out to play mahjong, causing her sister to choke on walnuts to death.
Instead of reflecting on her own problems, she blamed her son for everything.
also complained that her husband was incompetent, couldn't make a lot of money, and didn't have time to take care of his wife and children.
After that, she lost her temper at every turn at home, often starving her children, and making her husband and son miserable.
Even, in order to escape responsibility, she chose to divorce.
When I got divorced, I didn't have a son, and it didn't take long for me to marry a rich man and go abroad and live a happier life.
If a woman's heart is not at home, she will not care for her children.
The child is born by a woman's hard work in October, and it is the crystallization of love.
When a woman's heart is not at home, marriage becomes a cage that will make her want to escape as soon as possible.
Ignoring the child, often no one is seen at home, and I don't know where she is.
Her heart will become particularly "ruthless", selfish, no longer loving and caring for her children, and just wants to leave home quickly alone.
The more a woman loves her family and her husband, the more she wants to run a good family and educate her children. I hope that my family can become happier and better.
If a woman doesn't love her, from the bottom of her heart, she will feel that her husband can't give her the life she wants.
In the family, I can't feel the favor of men, and my life is dull and numb, and I can't see hope.
It's like a fire burning in my heart, but my husband is like a cold stone, he can't warm him, and he has no soul resonance.
On ordinary days, there is no sense of ritual and no temperature in life. Two people are used to complaining about each other and have long forgotten how to show love and respect.
Once a woman changes her mind, it will make the relationship more complicated, and it will be even more difficult to get back on the right track.
She became more and more indifferent to her husband, impatient, and mentioned divorce at every turn, not afraid of the complete breakup of the family.
Mo Yan said: "The most cruel way to treat a lover is not to love and hate, not to deceive and betray, but to gradually indifferent love after extreme love." ”From then on, I no longer cared about him, nor did I love him anymore.
It seems that all his affairs have nothing to do with her.
When a woman no longer loves, her heart gradually separates from her husband and gradually begins to live her own life.
Rousseau said: "I have described marriage not only as the sweetest union of all unions, but also as the most sacred and inviolable of all contracts." ”After a man gets married, don't let his feelings drain faster and faster. To be diligent and thrifty, we should also pay attention to the sense of ritual in life.
A family needs to be run by two husband and wife. When two people are together, they should express more love, say some words of praise and approval, and make the woman happy and happy.
Men, take care of your wife's feelings so that she doesn't get disappointed in her marriage.
Women, if you feel that there is a problem in your marriage, you need to solve the root cause from within. Betrayal of marriage creates new problems and hurts each other even more.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, who makes a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.