Speak softly, do things ruthlessly, and be a steady person.
Confucius said: "Listen to his words and watch his deeds." "A person's virtue can be seen only by listening to his words and observing his actions. People who are really powerful, usually speak mildly, leaving room for others; Actions are often swift and decisive without hesitation.
As the saying goes, "Destiny is made by oneself." "What happens to a person is usually intimately linked to his own words and actions.
Why are some people's good intentions always misunderstood? It may be because they have not mastered the correct speaking skills. In the face of others' inadequacies, they often bluntly accuse rather than exhort in a tactful way.
Doing so tends to be embarrassing and off-putting. We all like to hear praise, so when we exhort others, we should be human and make it easier to accept them.
No one is perfect, mistakes are inevitable, and if our words are too harsh, it may cause the other party to insist more on their mistakes. Only by taking into account the feelings of the other person and stopping in moderation can it be easier for the other person to reflect and correct their mistakes.
Stern words do not show a person's strength, and gentle language is a symbol of calmness and wisdom. "
Some people say, "Being able to carry things is a person's greatest talent." "I couldn't agree more. The so-called "being able to carry things" actually contains two elements: one is ability, and the other is a sense of responsibility.
People who are incapable, even if they have the idea of "carrying things", it is difficult to achieve their goals. Only by improving one's internal strength and making oneself stronger can one gain the trust of others.
Some people have the ability but find it difficult to gain the trust of others because they lack a sense of responsibility. Instead of solving problems, they are accustomed to evading and shirking responsibility.
Even if they were able, no one would pin their hopes on them. People who can withstand heavy pressure are often able to stay calm in times of crisis, just like the collapse of Mount Tai will not change their face, and the appearance of an elk will not affect their eyes.
They have a strong psychological quality and can deal with unexpected things with a calm mind at any time. Only such people can make people feel at ease. Some people think that "those who can say are more important than those who can do", but this is not true.
People who can speak may just confuse others for a while, but only by doing things in a down-to-earth manner can they really achieve practical results and go further.
Only by stabilizing oneself and maintaining humility in good times can we avoid the ending of "overflowing when the water is full"; Only by stabilizing our mentality in the face of adversity and not giving up can we survive the temporary darkness and usher in the dawn of victory.
The real high emotional intelligence is to be able to stabilize oneself in good times and adversity, not arrogant, not impatient, and not desperate. Life is a practice, cultivate the mind and cultivate virtue, speak softly, do things hard, and be a stable person, in order to take every step of life.
May you and I be able to repair our hearts and move towards success.