Colleagues in the office were discussing the topic of love and marriage, and a married male colleague said that there was no man who did not envy Xiao L's single life, and no one cared about a person, and he could do whatever he wanted.
I said, "When you envy Little L, he also envies you." ”
The colleague immediately jumped up and laughed and said, "No, no, no, he is not envious!" After all, in the mouth of this man who said that he was facing all kinds of helplessness and complaints, and even disputes and fights, there seemed to be nothing to look forward to in marriage.
I said, "You envy him for being alone and chic, you can do whatever you want, and he also envy you for having a family, family and children to accompany each other!" ”
We are always envious of other people's lives.
We seem to be accustomed to complaining about the side of ourselves that is not doing well, and consciously or unconsciously ignoring the other side.
It's like a colleague who envy Xiao L for being single and unrestrained, that's because he has family responsibilities that must be borne in marriage, and there is also the run-in and helplessness between two people, but at the same time, he is also enjoying the warmth of family companionship and the happiness of children's babbling and growth.
And this is exactly what Xiao L is very envious. In the dead of night, when everyone went home to reunite with their families for dinner and chatting, he sat alone in his empty house, how lonely and lonely it should be. Fortunately, he can decide his own itinerary at any time, and he doesn't have to worry about others.
Life is multifaceted, and it won't always be good, and it won't always be bad. Life is always accompanied by good and bad, love and hate.
We always feel dissatisfied, probably because we always envy others, see what others have, and ignore the beauty we already have.
Marriage is a besieged city, and those outside the city want to go in, and those in the city want to come out. Life is not the same.
Brother Jian, who had just returned from Southeast Asia in the first half of the year, was waiting for a visa from Spain in a blink of an eye. He plans to take advantage of his annual vacation to visit more than a dozen surrounding countries this time, and then go to the Americas after all of them have visited Europe.
It is really enviable that he went abroad for work reasons, not only made money, but also took advantage of his stay to experience the city deeply, not just for short-term travel. I've always felt that it makes sense to travel like a local and stay for a while.
My face was full of envy: "You have achieved my dream."
As a result, he said: "It's all real life that forces me to do these things, but if I'm lucky, I'm already a hot kang with my wife and children." ”
Life is an experience of the life process. We are always envious of others, and at the same time envied by others; We have what others want, and we want what others have.
If you think about it, you have a lot of life to be happy and even envied by others. Stopping to dig and seeing, cherishing what you have, and being content and happy is not a kind of happiness.
Someone made such a comment on several people in the Eight Divisions of the Heavenly Dragon:
The goal that Murong Fu pursued all his life was obtained by Duan Yu as soon as he was born, and Wang Yuyan, who Duan Yu had pursued for most of his life, was something that Murong Fu could easily have.
How many people did Ding Chunqiu kill, the martial arts cheats that he dreamed of, Xuzhu easily got it, Xuzhu just wanted to stay in Shaolin Temple to practice, but in the end he couldn't go back, and Ding Chunqiu's life of doing evil could finally stay in Buddhism for a lifetime.
Duan Yu didn't want to practice martial arts, but in the end he became a martial arts master, and Gu Mozhi wanted to pursue the highest martial arts, but in the end he lost his martial arts and became a waste.
Qiao Feng hated the Khitan with all his heart, and finally found out that he was a Khitan, and he wanted to protect the land and protect the Great Song Dynasty all his life, but in the end, the Great Song Dynasty had no place for him. ”
Some people are born in Rome, and some people never make it to Rome in their lifetime. We spend our whole lives striving for our goals, only to find out that what others dream of striving for is what we already have.
So what else can't be let go?