In the past two years, Chinese women's dramas have become more and more popular.
Many 40+ actresses have also taken this opportunity to rejuvenate their careers.
The shrewd and carefree restaurateur in "Flowers" is 47-year-old Ma Yili.
The domineering star anchor in "News Queen" is 48-year-old Charmaine Sheh.
The resolute senior lawyer in "Imperfect Victim" is 49-year-old Zhou Xun.
But in the final analysis, these domestic dramas still present a small number of elite middle-aged women.
Of course, they can be a certain inspiration to women.
Always so refined and elegant, mature and confident, it is the perfect example in the hearts of many people.
However, after all, they do not fully represent the life and spiritual difficulties faced by most middle-aged women.
Recently, a new film was launched.
is also a middle-aged heroine, but it is a completely different appearance.
Not a professional elite, nor a dazzling star.
Life is a mess, and the demeanor is hardly exemplary.
But it still presents us with a big heroine story in real life.
Today, let's take a look at her
"Middle-Aged Woman".
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HeroineRamona, is a ruthless character.
When he was over forty years old, his husband was nowhere to be found.
She pulled her daughter to grow up alone.
Similar characters are not uncommon in domestic film and television.
Most of them will sacrifice themselves for their families and give everything they have.
In "Saving the Suspect", which was released last year, Zhang Xiaofei played a professional lawyer.
However, her light is completely attached to the identity of mother.
As long as it is for the sake of the child, let alone swallow her anger, even if she gives up her life, she has nothing to fear.
However, Ramona has completely subverted the image of a middle-aged woman in her perception.
Not to mention a good mother, she is also very different from the traditional sense of a good woman.
She doesn't care about her family.
In order to make money, I can't wait to work ten jobs a day.
Either cleaning at the canneries or helping people fish at the docks.
In a word, from morning to night, I will never go home until it gets dark.
With such a busy work, she has no intention of caring about her daughter's growth.
Adolescent daughters also don't like to study.
On the grounds of part-time work, he wandered into a bar and was completely homeless.
The emotional life is even more colorful, and the boyfriend I dated never lasted more than a week.
As long as the mother and daughter meet, they will inevitably quarrel to the extreme.
At work, Ramona is not a quiet master.
As we all know, one of the rules of survival in the workplace for migrant workers is to learn to shut up.
As long as the ninjutsu rank is high, it is not a dream to get promoted.
But for Ramona, it was simply impossible.
A little mistake from a colleague can't be tolerated in her eyes at all.
Don't talk about teaching you to do your work by hand, but also accept it afterwards.
Typical of doing the work of a worker, the boss's heart.
Ramona is also undaunted when faced with her boss.
One day, the boss proposed that the company needed to cut employees' salaries due to project cooperation problems.
Regardless of being in public, she immediately exposed the company's evil behavior of not paying social security and not paying night shifts.
One sentence pierces the pie drawn by the capitalists, and does not give the boss face at all.
But when facing the disadvantaged, Ramona can turn into a reckless hero in an instant.
Lu roared when he saw injustice, and he shot when it was time to shoot.
One of her many jobs is taking care of the elderly.
The employer wants to cancel the mobile phone number because of the death of his wife.
Unexpectedly, the salesman made it difficult for him in every way, resulting in the delay in handling the business.
Seeing this, Ramona hurriedly opened her employer and spoke to the salesman.
Unable to stand her aggressiveness, the other party had to compromise and help the old man solve the problem.
Such an image of a middle-aged woman who is rampaging everywhere is too rare in domestic entertainment.
Ramona's tough personality was forced out by life.
Her level of education is not very high.
As a single mother, it is not easy to maintain a family life and raise a daughter well.
I can only wear many hats, and they are all hard and tiring manual work.
Beneath the surface of full firepower, she has endured more suffering than she can imagine.
In order to save on rent, Ramona lives with a widower boyfriend.
In addition to taking care of daily life, he also has to deal with the chaos caused by the other party's drunkenness.
This man is still a scoundrel with a lustful head.
Regardless of Ramona's emotional and physical condition, she will be asked for anytime and anywhere.
The most outrageous, what happened when the two were dating.
Originally, her boyfriend said that she would accompany Ramona to relax and come to the bar to play.
But when she went to the bathroom, she hooked up with other women on the dance floor.
After being debunked on the spot, he also spoke violently to her.
The boyfriend is unreliable, and the daughter also gives Ramona a headache.
When she returned home one day, she unexpectedly found that her hard-earned private money was gone.
For her, it was a bolt from the blue.
I thought it was discovered by a widower and took it to buy wine and drink it.
Unexpectedly, the real thief turned out to be his own daughter.
When she was caught, her daughter said confidently
You can't control your own life, and you want to control other people's lives.
This straightforward and explicit sentence pierced Ramona's deepest pain.
Indeed, she has no control over her life at all.
He was tired, but there was no one to speak.
The open-mouthed personality leads to repeated obstruction of work.
In addition, he is over forty years old and has a mediocre education.
Even though she has rich experience in working at the bottom, there are few jobs that can be offered to her in society.
To add insult to injury, it was her physical condition.
The habit of smoking all year round makes the lungs not healthy.
Working day after day in factories with poor air quality exacerbates lung damage.
Looking back on life, all the efforts are nothing but vain.
Instead of getting better, life has plummeted.
What can Ramona do?
I could only take advantage of the rainy night to hide in the car and cry loudly.
When the day dawns, wipe away your tears and move on with your life.
This feeling of powerlessness is really suffocating.
Middle-aged women, just listening to them are quite heavy words.
As women get older, so do the pressures on their lives.
A series of problems such as work, family, and personal development are constantly superimposed on them.
Not long ago, a hot search suddenly came out of the circle-
WeChat's private circle of friends was complained of bugs.
And the identity of the complainer is a middle-aged woman.
She said to **The intimate circle of friends is the comfort zone of middle-aged women
The appearance of the bug made her have to worry about her social security.
Some people may think that they have already posted on Moments, why should they consider privacy?
This is precisely a reflection of the ambivalence of many middle-aged women.
On the one hand, they have a desire to share, but they are afraid of revealing their privacy.
On the other hand, after sending out the news, they often want to be recognized, but they are also afraid of being criticized.
Under the interweaving of the two emotions, the private circle of friends who will not be seen by others has become the best emotional outlet.
is like Ramona, the heroine in the film, who can only take advantage of the rainy night to vent her emotions in the car.
She is reluctant to show her vulnerability to others, which makes her already despised soul even more unbearable.
Although the external manifestations are different, the internal reasons are all derived fromLack of self-identity
And this, I have to mentionA midlife crisis in women
This is where the crisis begins.
On the one hand, there is a family identity crisis.
In the traditional social perception, motherhood is the natural duty of women.
As a direct result, middle-aged women become vassals of the family.
They need to care for their husbands and parents as well as their children.
Given expectations by society, it has become the ** of women's self-worth subtly.
Once you can't meet the requirements, it will invisibly become a huge mental pressure, which will destroy self-confidence.
On the other hand, there is a workplace crisis.
With the development of society, women have indeed made progress in the workplace.
However, once you enter middle age, you will inevitably be treated unfairly because of factors such as age.
In addition to the basic question of how to balance family and career, there is more doubt about whether the energy can withstand the high intensity of work.
These realities will inevitably lead middle-aged women to question their self-worth.
It is inevitable to fall into the predicament of self-denial.
The social structure is under heavy pressure, and this sentiment is further strengthened in domestic film and television dramas.
In "Good Things Come in Pairs", which was ridiculed last year, Zhang Xiaofei played a stay-at-home mother.
In the face of her husband's cheating, her mother-in-law calculated.
She still insists on leaving the house, as long as she can keep custody of the child in her hands.
In "The Twenty-Eight Law of Love", Qin Shi played by Yang Mi goes to work every day, which is comparable to walking on the red carpet.
Even when it comes to the impact of age on women's careers, it is only a few words of downplay.
In the end, it is still a routine of double harvest in love and career.
They are often labeled and talked about as middle women.
filmed, but all of them were Mary Su Shuangwen.
Of course, more and more film and television dramas use middle-aged women as the theme of the story, which is indeed worth advocating.
But the problem is that most of the current works of internal entertainment only stay on the surface of the problem.
For many so-called big heroines, the dilemma of the middle girl is just a sensitive word on the lips.
Not only did it not provide spiritual comfort to middle-aged women in front of the screen.
Their ease in the play makes the cruelty of reality more heart-wrenching.
In contrast, the audience is more likely to be psychologically unbalanced.
Although "Middle-aged Women" is not a masterpiece, it provides another possibility for the telling of middle-aged women's stories.
The unbearable reality and the powerlessness in the face of a bleak life are spread out to show us.
At the end of the film, after a seemingly never-ending period of depression and pain, Ramona leaves her widower's home and reconciles with her daughter.
With a small deposit, I got on a train heading for the unknown.
We all know that her future may still not be clear.
But perhaps, this is the best way to enrich yourself.
Put aside social discipline and stay away from value judgment.
The rest is your truest self.