Introduction:
Choosing a lifestyle that suits you is a right that everyone cannot give up. You don't have to follow in the footsteps of others and be brave enough to pursue your own happiness. Each path is unique in its own way, and the key is to get out of your own way.
93 Girl: I'm not against marriage, I just prefer freedom, and I want to stay single.
I am 30 years old and am an ordinary office worker with a monthly salary of 150 thousand. My parents are both retired cadres of state-owned enterprises, and the family has a house and a car.
To outsiders, I should be very welcome on such a condition, but until now, I have not been married.
In fact, I have been in love a few times, but they all ended in a breakup. Because every time I fall in love, the man asks to get married, but I don't want to get married.
So even if you love each other, you can only choose to separate in the end. Of course, before breaking up, I will make it clear to the man and respect their choice.
Most people don't understand what I'm thinking, but I think it's a sign of being responsible to each other. If two people are together without common goals and values, then there is no point in being together even reluctantly.
To be honest, I didn't really like being tied down since I was a kid. When I was a child, I hated the school environment and felt very depressed. So every time I came home from vacation, I would argue with my parents that I didn't want to go to school.
However, my parents are more traditional people, and they think that reading can change their fate. So every time I was dragged to school.
It wasn't until the summer of my high school graduation that I told my parents the bad news: I was admitted to college!
When I heard the news, my parents were very happy, and they thought that I was attracted by the learning atmosphere of the university. But that's not the case.
In fact, I started teaching myself to code when I was in high school. At that time, I felt that only by mastering a technology could I truly get rid of the shackles.
So although I wasn't interested in college life, I still took the plunge and went to study computer science. After all, at that time, it was difficult to find a good job without a college diploma.
During my four years of college, I lived my life to the fullest. In addition to studying professional knowledge, I also participated in many club activities and made many like-minded friends.
What made me happiest was that in my sophomore year, I came to an Internet company for an internship through school recruitment. After graduating, I stayed with the company straight away.
Now my monthly salary is 150,000 is not too high, but it is enough to sustain a person's life. In addition, I have more free working hours, and I have a lot of time to do what I like after work every day.
Speaking of which, I also thought about getting married and having children. After all, in the eyes of our generation, getting married and having children seems to be the only way to go in life.
But when I fell in love with my man, I found that I didn't want to get married so much. Because after getting married, it will bring a certain degree of restraint to both parties anyway.
And I prefer freedom and don't want to change my lifestyle for the sake of others. So in the end, I chose to break up.
Now I'm 30 years old and a single woman. Although everyone around me is urging me to get married, I don't want to get married passively.
Because I know that if you get married just to cope with the pressure of society, it is each other who will be hurt in the end. After all, after getting married, the lives of two people will change a lot.
So if you don't really want to get married, then don't force yourself. Of course, that doesn't mean I'm against marriage. It's just that for now, I prefer to stay single.
Some people may feel that I am being too selfish to do this. After all, it is not easy for parents to raise us so much, and they also want to see their grandchildren or granddaughters as soon as possible.
But I believe that everyone has the right to pursue the lifestyle they want. Whether you choose to get married or stay single, it should be based on your own real needs, not the expectations of society.
In fact, I have always had a plan for the rest of my life: after retirement, I will go to ** or a beautiful place like Yunnan to spend my old age.
Because in my ideal, the most perfect life is: work during the day to make money, and go home at night to write**, read books, and listen**; Travels with friends and fun activities ...... the holidays
In short, it is to live a free and colorful life. And after getting married, this life may not be so easy to achieve.
Finally, I would like to say to all the women who have had similar experiences to me: don't be afraid to be different and be brave enough to pursue the lifestyle you want!
Whether you choose to get married or stay single, there is no right or wrong. What matters is whether you are truly willing to embrace this lifestyle and put in the effort to it.
Only after firmly following your own path can you live a happy life that truly belongs to you.