In the face of such a man, the original partner will be very painful and helpless, because guilt is the basis for a man to know his mistakes and change his mistakes, if there is no guilt at all, then he will not stop hurting his wife. At this time, it is especially important for his wife to know how to arouse his guilt. The Buddha said in the "Sutra of Retribution for Sins and Blessings": "Those who commit adultery with women will die in hell, men will hold bronze pillars, and women will lie on iron beds." Out of hell, born in the place where he falls, among the chickens and ducks. ”
Adultery goes to hell, and climbs to the forest of swords. The hot iron nails its mouth, and the brass is poured into the heart. The poisonous dragon crushes the bone marrow, and the King Kong rat eats yin. The copper pillar edge is up and down, and the iron bed is deep and hidden. Unconscious**, suffering without appearance. The rest of the karma gains a human body, and his wife always betrays himself. Suspicious of each other, who is willing to obey the will. A little sexual spirituality, would rather be shameless? "Nothing about love, nothing about **; This is an atypical affair of red apricots out of the wall, non-red apricots out of the wall.
Are they happy? They are also unhappy, with sad expressions written on their faces, even when they are tightly embraced by self-indulgence, they reveal a different emotion. In stark contrast to the indulgent couple in the digital camera, they are reminded of the husbands and wives who have hurt them, and what they have done.
If you are guilty of adultery, the good fortune of this life will be cut off, in the cause and effect, the act of adultery is the most diminishing blessing of heaven, you can be an official, you engage in adultery, your official will be gone, you ordinary people have not been cut, you may get seriously ill, may reduce your life expectancy, since ancient times there are too many examples of this, but now people he can't see these, he is not afraid, because the heart of the person is the strongest, his strength is strong, he will feel very happy, he will feel very liberated, There is no causal dam prevention in this regard, he is prone to extramarital affairs, extramarital affairs are already relatively common in Chinese mainland, when I originally studied ethics, there was a period of marriage and family ethics, sometimes some academic seminars, after I studied Buddhism, I saw this issue more clearly, they talked too liberating.
Gou Yu is a grateful child, the reason why he works hard at home, a large part of the reason is because of the godmother, he was raised by the godmother since he was a child, and it is also because of the existence of the godmother, he can have food in this family, otherwise according to Wang Daju's temperament, it is estimated that the dog will be driven out of the house long ago, but unfortunately, the godmother is a woman with a hard life, and she gave birth to three children in her life, one died young, one was stupid, and the other was a girl, and the key husband was not clear about hooking up with other women. But immediately, I reacted, the strong son couldn't see me, and Sister Jin's reaction was also strange. aasta has always been a free soul to see the transformation of Xuanxuan, and the shocked Youjie finally answered about the child asking "what will be the lunch tomorrow", which is also a kind of implication What should a woman do if her husband finds out about cheating? After cheating after marriage, since you don't want to say goodbye to this period of married life, then you need to treat your post-marital cheating experience with sincerity, so that the person who really loves you can figure out why you won't love him anymore and no longer finally get married. Only by letting the other party control you can you change the current predicament. Maybe if you say everything, he can't accept it and persistently divorce you. But it is much better to be afraid of concealing the truth from his objective facts.
Long-term stable cohabitation requires the formation of a chain of evidenceMy husband and I have been in a sexless marriage for 5 years, until a few days ago, he actually said that he had an affair, and it has been three years, and he can't leave the junior over there. 5 years ago, my husband's physiology was not good, and I never dared to mention it again for the sake of his face. Later, I was afraid of trying to have a second child, but I was refused. I thought he hadn't recovered yet, but I felt like I loved him and I could have a sexless marriage until I was old. So he went on a business trip on weekdays and came home on weekends, and we had a sexless marriage for 5 years...Your partner will feel that you are overreacting, and even if it is over, you will be vexatious. But they can't soothe these emotions in you, and then they don't want to lose the relationship, and they will start to be helpless, scared, and cautious. Many women who have experienced betrayal want to know how to successfully separate a third party and return their husbands to the family. Many wives will go to the door to find a third party theory after discovering that their husband has betrayed them, humiliate the third party, and some will even find someone to come to the door to beat the third party, however, these methods will undoubtedly only push the man further and further.
In fact, if you want to separate a third party, you also need to understand the development law of extramarital affairs. 1. The freshness stage of extramarital affairs In a normal relationship, the freshness between lovers will generally last for three months, and after three months, they will understand each other, and the veil of freshness and mystery shrouded in curiosity will be slowly lifted, and the two people will return to a relatively rational relationship. At this stage, the relationship between two people has just sprouted, and they will be more cautious when dating, and they are basically in a state of watching while walking. In the novelty stage of extramarital affairs, generally as long as the man is a little cautious, the wife will not easily find out, so many extramarital affairs have been going on for several months when they are discovered, almost past the freshness stage. During this period, the husband and the third party have not yet had a deeper understanding, and the relationship is also at a relatively shallow level, and their interactions may be more polite, usually creating the illusion that they are just ordinary friends, but the wife should not be careless, although you trust the husband very much, but you still have to take precautions. The wife can secretly observe her husband's behavior, confide in him, or directly remind him to understand what the consequences of betrayal will be, and perhaps guide him to cut off the love thread automatically. Second, the love stage of extramarital affairs This period of two people is in the stage of mutual attraction, because a variety of hormones secreted in the brain make two people deeply fall into the love of each other, often at this time the feelings of two people are stronger, just like a couple in love, like a magnet can't help but attract each other. The nature of an affair makes two people feel different in the relationship, and at this time, different men tend to behave differently.
1. Can't stop. Deeply caught in the whirlpool of extramarital affairs. Men in this period are crazy, generally speaking, this kind of man belongs to the more romantic and amorous, unruly type, if your husband is such a type, you still don't act rashly during this period. 2. Know it. Some men have a clear idea of what they're doing. He enjoys the shock of an affair, enjoys the pleasure of being around his lover and wife, and in his emotional world, loves only himself. His mantra is usually "I'm just going to play with her, don't make a fuss, I'll cut off contact with her when I've had enough." is embarrassed to beautify himself as a sensible person who accepts it when he sees it. In this period, in the face of such a man, the wife can take a "cold" treatment against him. Don't pay too much attention to him, pay more attention to life, and love yourself well. 3. Honest fear. Some men have a thief's heart but no courage, and the betrayal is purely by mistake, but once they taste the ** and they are reluctant to refuse, for this kind of man who is more timid and cherishes his feathers, his wife is a little stricter and gives a warning, but it will be useful. 3. The end stage of an extramarital affair When two people in an extramarital affair enter the period of love from novelty, and are crazy about each other in the period of love, because of the lack of emotional self-control, it is often easier to expose the relationship between the two, and once it is discovered by the wife, the affair will gradually come to an end. The reason why two people who have an extramarital affair can successfully pass the freshness stage and usher in the period of love is also because the wife is still blinded, and once the wife discovers her husband's betrayal, the husband and the third party can no longer continue to develop smoothly. At this time, when a third party begins to make a fuss with a man, coerce and lure, and ask for material things, the man often begins to wake up. For the wife, the extramarital affair may not be terrible, but the fear is that the third party is too sensible.
If the third party is calm from beginning to end, maintains tenderness and consideration for the man, listens and worships, and tries his best to show his kindness and innocence, then it is difficult for the wife to have a chance to separate the two. Men often compare their wives with third parties, the gentleness and thoughtfulness of the third party and the hysteria of the wife, the understanding of the third party and the incomprehensible amorous feelings of the wife, and the "white skin and beauty" of the third party and the "yellow and thin face" of the wife are all in stark contrast, then the man will begin to think about divorce. The change of wife has a significant effect on the end of the affair, and when the man perceives the change in his wife, the advantage of the third party is not so obvious.
Therefore, in the process of separating a third party, it is inevitable to strengthen oneself. At the same time, the wife can also properly analyze the pros and cons behind the man, and show that she respects his choice and will live well no matter what. Seeing the beauty of you now, weigh the pros and cons, and believe that men will make the right choice. How confused does a man have to be to be willing to abandon his wife and children, and abandon the life he has worked with and managed with his wife for many years? I don't think any extramarital love is worth it for him, except that the man has nothing in the first place, or that the third party is too clever. There are few examples of extramarital affairs achieving positive results, and there are few examples of envy of others, and more of them are men who return to the family, are accepted by their wives, and live in peace with a third party, never to see each other again. Extramarital affairs often do not last long, and in addition to the intervention of the wife, there is also a common situation: even if the man and the third party develop smoothly, after the hot love period, the life of the two people will begin to jump, and the relationship will show signs of breakdown.
Because they can't adapt to each other's real appearance, coupled with the erosion of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and the inability to be honest with each other, two people often have a hard time. Many extramarital affairs end before the wife finds out, often because once the freshness is over, the relationship is only a piece of chicken feathers, and for two people who don't want to be responsible, they will be dispersed, but for those who are hurt by this affair, the pain will not end abruptly with the end of it. A lot of extramarital affairs, after a vigorous affair, you and I have a bang, in the end, it is just a repetition of the same mistakes. At the end of the day, an extramarital affair is just hurting others and hurting yourself.
Marriage mediation and healing: reconciliation of husband and wife, marriage conflict resolution, psychological counseling for husband and wife, etc. Hu: Later, when I asked Su Qing about Zhang Ailing, she said that Zhang Ailing was nowhere to be seen. When I asked her for Zhang Ailing's address, she hesitated before writing to me. The next day, I went to see Zhang Ailing, and sure enough, I didn't see her, and I only handed in a note from the door, because I didn't bring a business card. Another day, after lunch, Zhang Ailing came** and said to come to see me. As soon as I saw Zhang Ailing's person, I felt that it was completely wrong with what I thought. When she came into the drawing-room, it seemed that she was too big, and sat there, childish and pitiful, and said that she was a schoolgirl, and that she did not even have the maturity of a schoolgirl. Do you hope that he will return completely and will not cheat twice? Or do you want this matter to be completely turned over and everyone can live a good life? Suddenly, there are more messages on his mobile phone, and you ask him who he is, and he spouts and uses old classmates or old colleagues to prevaricate you. Or he always has to go out to pick up **, or if the information on his mobile phone is emptied regularly, then in this case, the probability of him cheating is very high.
Because there is enough time and space to develop an extramarital affair because it is not easy to be detected. This is actually one of the most important details in the habit change, women's strategies are often very shallow, like the Bond girl who has a strategic strategy of women you generally can't marry, so once the lover who doesn't like social activities begins to become a variety of occasions, morning runs, bar gatherings, we can't say that their wife's temperament has changed from introverted to extroverted. But intimacy is supposed to be a space where vulnerability can be shown, and when one person lowers his spikes to reveal his belly, it will also help the other party remove his armor and express warmth. Cheating