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People, if they can jump out of the circle they belong to at the moment, can really see a lot of things clearly.
It's a pity that people can't jump out of the circle they belong to if they don't reach a certain stage of life and don't experience some ups and downs.
People are always prone to collide in the circle they belong to at the moment, accompanied by various emotions, only time can make people downplay all this, and looking back after many years, they don't know why they cared so much at that time.
My hometown is in Langfang, Hebei Province, after my daughter has a holiday, I take my daughter to leave Nanjing and go back to my parents' house for a vacation.
When she knew that I was doing well, she took root in Nanjing and had her own life, and for a moment there was a little disappointment in her eyes, not that she hoped that I was not doing well, but that I was doing well, and that I was doing well, breaking her expectations.
When I was in junior high school, I was the top two in the class, belonging to the top students, she was the middle and lower class in the class, and she was a typical scumbag.
But at that time, I had a good relationship with them, including a few other girls with poor grades, and I never judged them by their grades.
What's the use of studying well? Except for you, who are not bad, are the other people doing with us now? ”
Half an hour after meeting, she said that she did everything in the class, just to try her best to prove one thing: when we were in middle school, we studied poorly, but we are all married well now, we have a good life, there are a few houses in the county, not to mention how happy the life is, and most of the classmates who are often praised by the teacher are now gray and unhappy.
Objectively speaking, I agree with her words, for many rural girls or county girls, whether they study well or not is not the most important, it is relatively better than studying, as if personal image is more important.
It's a really bad sound, but it's a fact to a certain extent.
In the eyes of my classmates, I said that the girls in a class in middle school did not study well as the wave of their poor studies.
Her criteria are simple, who is married well.
If you look at it from this single criterion, if they haven't seen the bigger world, although these girls do not do well in middle school, they can indeed find a good partner in the local area with a good image and live a happy life.
In small cities, food and clothing are rich, life is more than enough every year, and the sense of happiness is bursting.
Some girls who study well may still be adrift in the big city, not finding a suitable partner and not starting a family.
It's not that these girls with good grades don't have a chance to be happy, it's just because they have seen the bigger world, they don't want to settle, they don't want to return to the small county, if they are willing to return to the small county after graduating from college, as long as the image is not too bad, I believe they will have a better chance of finding a better in-law.
But people, after breaking through some kind of cage, the heart does not belong here, and they are unwilling to return to the original point, and the other point of view is updated, and they will feel that ** is wrong.
But from the perspective of "happiness", I believe that my classmates' behavior is real, and they do have a sufficient sense of happiness, although their grades in middle school are not satisfactory.
There are too many rural children who have graduated for ten years, but have not been able to stabilize in the big cities, and are still in a state of adrift.
It's the same for both boys and girls, but today I just want to talk about girls.
I still have a lot of say and feel about this issue.
I am from the northern countryside, grew up in a small county, and now live in Nanjing, I can say that I have two circles, in Nanjing, my parents have long started to plan for their daughter, a house is a must.
Girls in small counties are better at studying to go out of the county, enter the big city, and work hard from scratch.
Children who study well and walk into the big city alone, compared with those urban children whose parents and families support them, there is no comparison at all.
Comparatively speaking, girls who do not study well have a more comfortable life, and girls who study well need to work hard, need more open thinking, a higher vision and pattern, and a more inclusive mentality, otherwise they will definitely fall into a predicament.
A person's point of view and the change of point of view must be related to personal experience.
In fact, in this best era, life in the countryside is quite happy, and in relatively wealthy areas, the life of rural people is also exquisite and comfortable.
Children are a piece of reading material, just continue to read, children have no talent in reading, and there is no turnaround, parents really don't need to be anxious, because ten years later, it's not like that at all.
The most important thing is that children have a good personality, good social skills, and a sense of fulfillment and happiness.