Say filial piety: Filial piety comes first.
Text: Xu Yinqiu.
There used to be a very hot TV series "It's All Good". In the plot, although the small ones are unreliable, and the old ones are out of tune, there is a classic line that says it well: "Parents who take off their parents' identities are actually ordinary people, and we are not perfect children."
Yes, none of us are perfect.
The family understands each other, helps each other, advances and retreats together, and is connected by blood, and what is connected is the family affection that blood is thicker than water. And the depth of family affection basically comes from filial piety to parents. The son wants to raise but the parents don't wait, the parents are here, the home is still there, the parents are not there, and there is only the way back in life.
The ancients said: Parents are here, don't travel far, there must be a way to travel.
Although this sentence is placed now, many times it is out of place, and many times we have to leave our hometown, for life, for our dreams, and for our families. But my hometown has my own parents, and my heart is always worried. Children travel thousands of miles and mothers are worried, why not be children?
The words of advice, one by one, are all the parents' thoughts about their children, and the children's concern for their parents, and this kind of two-way feeling is pure and true.
Probably many people have a deep experience, the same experience, the same helplessness, the same sadness.
One day, one of my elderly parents suddenly fell ill, not in the place where we worked, separated by thousands of rivers and mountains, in a certain city, in a certain mountain village. And maybe we're in a meeting, we're on a business trip, we're busy with something else. One of our parents told us that we were anxious, but we had no choice but to do it ourselves. We can only call ** comfort and inform them how to arrange it.
There is a passage in the late Qing Dynasty literary work "Night Talk Around the Fireplace" that reads: "Filial piety comes first, no trace of the heart, and no filial piety is left in the poor family." The meaning of this sentence is that filial piety is the first of all virtues, and the evaluation of a person's filial piety or unfilial piety mainly depends on the heart, not on his behavior.
Everyone's family situation is different, personal ability is different, conditions are different, filial piety is only measured from the material, so how can filial piety talk about people who have no money?
Many times, we can't serve our parents, we are away from home, we can't be satisfied with companionship, and it seems inhumane to many people.
Many years ago, when my grandparents were still alive, my uncle went all the way to Guangdong to work because he needed to raise children, and his income was low, but every time my uncle came home for the Chinese New Year, he would buy a pair of cotton shoes or a piece of clothing for my grandparents. And that's already on their frugal pay. The things I bought back are cheap, but they are expensive and practical.
Filial piety has always been a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.
Sometimes our children and parents are not in the same place, and we can't get there in time for emergencies, so we can only tell them what to do.
Ma Weidu is in the show, and he talked about such an example, an old couple is in their 80s, and the old couple supports each other in their daily life, and one day the old man fell to the ground in the middle of the night when he went to the toilet, and his wife had no choice, so he called ** to a pair of children.
Call your son, and your son says it's a little cold, so you first cover the quilt with your father, and then call your daughter, and your daughter says, you spread a mattress under his body, so as not to get cold again, and when it's dawn, he will rush over.
In fact, this pair of children is filial, but there is no way to be at home. What Ma Weidu said is also a fact that many of us are facing. Conditionally, wealthy families can still hire caregivers and nannies, while most of our families are migrant workers with low incomes, both old and young, and they cannot make ends meet. can't be meticulous, no matter how big or small, or the desolation and helplessness of no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness.
Sometimes, our parents may not be able to understand our difficulties, and their lack of companionship and mental loneliness make them complain.
Be more patient, our parents are getting older day by day, and the days with us are getting fewer and fewer. Except for the days outside the year, there are only a handful of days in a year when I can be with my parents. Their hair grew grayer, their wrinkles deepened, their strength diminished, and their brisk steps became faltering and senile. Once a dragon, it became a worm.
Qing Dynasty writer Huang Jingren has a poem: The miserable Chaimen snowy night, it is better to have a son at this time. The poet uses deep affection, resonating with his heart, blending scenes, and sighing from the heart, which always makes people sad, I hope we don't experience this kind of sad helplessness.
The son wants to raise but does not wait, the tree wants to be quiet and the wind does not stop, and filial piety is the first, and it is cherished. We are not perfect children, and parents are not perfect parents.
Erdu River literature tells you that the Erdu River is the most beautiful river, a small tributary of Lishui, and Lishui is a small tributary of Yuanshui, which is a tributary of the Yangtze River, which eventually converges and flows eastward.
About the Author: 
About author:Xu Yinqiu, female, from Xinning, Shaoyang, Hunan Province, graduated from Xiangtan University with a major in Chinese language and literature, 1986Born in 06, currently working in Dongguan, Guangdong, like literature, Chinese studies, history, philosophy, in his spare time, like writing, reading, with his own life experience, in the form of words to confide, I write my heart by hand. Regain the fragments of time and record the life of life!