Zi said: "Those who are young but not show have a husband, and those who show but are not real have a husband." ”
Confucius said, "Let the crops have only seedlings that do not bloom!" There are those who bloom but do not bear fruit! ”
Confucius used crops to express the truth that things must have a beginning and an end, and a good beginning and a good end.
In life, like crops, there are only seedlings that do not bloom, or bloom but do not bear fruit, and most of them are in the middle of the way, so there are very few people who can achieve something.
First of all, take learning as an example, a person's basic way to make a living is to continue to learn, Gou is new, new every day, and new every day, but we can see that there are people around us who stop improving from the moment they step out of school, and they can't keep pace with the times, so there is a generation gap with their lover and children, and even in middle age, there is a mid-life crisis, no one wants to use him, and if you stop learning, you will stop your career. Anyone who can easily cope with crises in all aspects of life is a person who keeps learning and curious about the world.
So you can also see that there are ** ten-year-olds or even hundred-year-olds on major platforms on Douyin doing live broadcasts, and these people have undoubtedly left many middle-aged people far behind. Some people don't encounter a very bad status quo in marriage, and they won't think about raising their heads until they die.
Some women have suffered too much unfair treatment in their marriage, so they vow to catch up and live as a person. But walking and walking, when he encountered some difficulties, he slowly lost his fighting spirit and original enthusiasm, so he went to find another profession, a person who can do one thing for three or five years, the test is his humanity, heart, and people who can pass this level will not be bad in other aspects. Most people have a mouth, and the cow blows out, but it is useless to blow it out, there must be action, and there must be results after action, thinking and doing, and there is a difference between saying and doing, so Confucius asked us to distinguish a person, not to look at what he said, but to see what he is doing, whether he is doing it continuously? Listen to his words and watch his deeds, not listen to his words and believe his deeds.
Then there are some people who will act when he says it, and they have achieved certain results if they do. But because he couldn't keep the bottom line of morality, or couldn't curb the greed of human nature, he ruined the achievements he created single-handedly. In the eyes of Confucius, this kind of person is a showy and untruthful person, who cannot start and finish well. Isn't there a lot of this in life? For example, many men are born in poverty, and they are quite hard-working, after some years of struggle, they can finally raise their eyebrows and glorify their ancestors, but in the end they can't stand all kinds of desires, change cars and houses for wives, and some for their own selfish interests, you will look at him again after a few years, and he will return to the pre-liberation period, or even worse.
The peasant uprising at the end of the Qin Dynasty launched by Chen Sheng and Wu Guang in history overthrew the dark rule of the Qin Dynasty, but after their successful uprising, they became very proud, easy to listen to slander, and even killed their subordinates at will, and slowly lost their original solid mass base, so in the end, the prisoners began to organize into an army to confront the rebel army, and Chen Sheng and Wu Guang were finally defeated. This is also a showy and untruthful person, who has lost his original intention, that is, he has lost the foundation of his career.
So Confucius told us to do one thing must be done from the beginning, there is a beginning and an end, when you have a certain achievement, but also to keep your original intention, in order to maintain the steady development of the foundation for a long time, a family regardless of the male and female masters, as long as there is a violation of this law, the family will not be able to last for a long time, consistent, in order to achieve fame!
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