Life is a jogging and everyone is a potential guide, but there are others who are leading you to destruction. However, there are those who hurt us with words that we don't really realize. These hurters who hide around us often put these four words on their lips.
First, I told you a long time ago.
If you do something that you regret, they will say to you in a tone of regret, "Hey, I told you a long time ago." On the surface, this sentence sounds like a pity for you, but in fact it implies a kind of sarcasm and mockery. Such a person will not be able to understand your situation and difficulties, but will take advantage of the situation to show off his superiority. Essentially, they don't really care about your well-being, but are waiting to see your difficulties and setbacks to validate their foresight. When dealing with such people, you must pay more attention, do not be affected by their words, and firmly believe in your own ability and determination, and believe that you will get out of the predicament.
Second, I will never say it.
This may sound like a sense of security, but it's actually a trap. Some people will use your secrets and privacy to threaten you and make you feel a kind of dependence and fear of them. They imply that only they know your secrets, and that you must follow their orders or they will leak out. We need to understand that the people who are truly trustworthy are the ones who protect your secrets and give you trust and support.
Three, I have a lot to say to you alone.
The more you swear by it, the easier it is to leak. When we hear this sentence, we tend to think that we are special, trusted and valued. Some people deliberately reveal some other people's privacy and secrets to you, telling you to keep your mouth shut, but they will also tell others when they turn around behind their backs. Their purpose is to destroy your relationship with others and to gain their advantage by creating strife. We need to learn to look at the motivations of others and not blindly trust their words.
Fourth, someone is saying bad things about you behind your back.
People don't like to gossip behind people's backs. But a person who is always passing on all kinds of information to you is often the one who gossips behind people's backs. Actually, each of us should know that everyone is busy, and if there is some kind of special purpose, why would they spend so much time with you? Such people are actually deliberately causing you anger, distracting your energy, and making you feel aggrieved and discouraged, so as to achieve their own goals. We need to know that these people who speak ill of you don't actually know your true situation, and they are making up stories based on personal bias or ulterior motives to discredit you. Faced with this situation, we first need to remain calm and confident. Believe in your own worth and not be swayed by the malicious words of others. Focus on your own improvement and growth, and prove with your actions that their rumors are baseless and false.
In real life, the key to avoiding verbal harm is to have your own independent thinking ability and a mindset that is not influenced by others. Only by sticking to the truth and integrity of our hearts can we stay away from those who hurt us and move towards our own happiness and success.