Although the New Year is a holiday, sometimes it can make people feel tired, such as going to chat with all kinds of primary and secondary school classmates who only remember his generation but can't remember their names.
Chatting is not just talking, it is the same as interstellar, it is about crossing many eras, urban and rural differences, gender differences to explore with strange souls. 
At the same time, it is also necessary to beware of topics involving sensitive questions such as "how much money do you earn in a year" and "when to get married". If you want to maintain the atmosphere of family reunion, then come and catch this science chat guide. How to open the situation? - Say something wrong that doesn't matterThe first trick of chatting is not to appear too smart. Sometimes, taking the initiative to make some good mistakes is the first trick to quickly gain the trust of strangers and semi-strangers.
When dealing with semi-strangers, we tend to be cautious in what we say and do. This is certainly a good attitude, but excessive caution can make the atmosphere feel serious. The people who really make people feel relaxed and trusting are often some inconsequential nonsense, or even inconsequential wrong words. In 2000, when Bush Jr. and Gore ran for election, most of them thought that Gore had the chance to win because he was tall and handsome, and his IQ was much higher than that of Bush Jr., and he also cared about environmental protection and was a caring person. But in the end, Gore was defeated. The reason for this is that Bush Jr. always makes mistakes and makes mistakes, and Gore is just too lofty. There was a psychological agency that conducted a survey on the public, if your backyard was on fire, who would you call ** to in the first place, Bush Jr. or Gore? More than half of the people chose George W. Bush because most people subconsciously believe that a person who will say the wrong thing to his face during a chat is someone who has no scheming and can be trusted. 
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How to get a virtuous cycle of chatting? - SilenceSilence is a very effective means of communication. In fact, 93% of the communication in chat is not verbal. This data is based on Dr. Albert MerabinAlbert Mehrabian). He found that only 7% of the information in communication was delivered through words, and the rest was achieved through intonation, volume, facial expressions, gestures, body language, and similar non-verbal factors. So, don't be in a hurry to speak and silence yourself in order to really hear the other person and really effectively deliver the message to the other person.
In many scenes, talking is often not a communication, but a self-performance. The more you talk, the more the other person feels neglected, and the relationship becomes more rigid rather than more harmonious. Many couples who go to marriage counseling are busy talking and talking, but this is actually a "communication barrier" in itself. How to avoid embarrassing questions? - Border managementIn Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, out of basic politeness, salary, family and even age are issues that people around you will not touch, but when you return to your hometown, whether you have bought a house, whether you have a girlfriend, or even when you have a child, are random arrows that may be shot at any time.
At this time, if the other party is your junior, you can manage the boundaries of the chat. To protect your own boundaries, you need to make the other party aware of your own boundaries. You can directly repeat the logic of the other person's question and bring the other person back within your own boundaries. For example, if the other party asks you why you are not married, you can ask the other party "When will you get divorced?" You can't see how happy your marriage is." Of course, if the other party is an elder, you can deal with these problems casually. 
How to avoid running out of things to talk about – be wary of violent communicationWhen "hehe", "oh", "haha" appears, it's a red flag. The person who gives the signal is obviously not interested in the topic, and the deeper reason is that his own interests and topics are ignored by you. Ignoring the other person's reaction is the beginning of violent communication. The reason for the change of mood of the other party is often not the content of the conversation, but the tone and attitude of the speech.
In psychological experiments, the emotional and mental trauma caused by verbal abuse, such as denial, ridicule, preaching, casual interruption, arbitrary evaluation, and ignoring and not responding, is often more painful than physical injury. Therefore, taking into account the needs and feelings of the other person in the conversation, rather than just following the topic itself, can make the conversation more meaningful and effective. Of course, if you encounter an opponent whose three views do not match at all, there is only one way, close the dialog box. Otherwise, you'll make one of the biggest mistakes in chatting: communicating with the wrong person. Suppressing one's basic feelings and thoughts in order to maintain dialogue is a kind of pseudo-communication, which is the greatest poisoning of communication. All in all, the New Year's is precious.