During the Spring Festival, in addition to celebrating the New Year happily, it is also a day of great joy for some wedding couples and their families. In recent years, personalized, small and refined, self-designed "minimalist weddings" or "three-no weddings" have become popular. There is no convoy to pick up relatives, no groomsmen and bridesmaids, no sensational tear-jerking links, and even no elders are invited to ......According to a research report, more than 9 percent of young people prefer small and beautiful weddings, and more than 60% of young people can accept wedding expenses of 50,000 yuan and below.
At the end of the dinner, the couple and their friends danced on the lawn. According to Jiupai News.
However, in reality, many people's weddings may not be as they wish. If nothing else, take the cost as an example, it is reported that the average cost of a wedding for young people today is 1740,000 yuan. That's a lot higher than the budget of "under 50,000". Judging from the ** report, the reason why those "three-no weddings" can be achieved is precisely because of the continuous struggle of some young people.
Some netizens said very well that a wedding in the modern sense is no longer a traditional marriage between a man and a woman, and it is no longer a combination of two families, but two people who walk out of the original family and recombine with a new family. In this process, the individual wishes of young people must be fully respected. Married, in the final analysis, are two newlyweds, and they should have autonomy, and marital autonomy certainly includes wedding autonomy.
In many cases, the reason why parents insist on their own opinions is not that they have many opinions, but that they are more concerned about the views around them, and their thinking may be like this: others do so according to the rules, and if you don't do it, what do relatives and friends think? Where to put your parents' face? That's why, many young people will say that weddings are for their parents. And parents will also feel that they are busy spending money to do it for the sake of their children.
These two views, or purposes, do not actually conflict. Different family roles start from different personal concepts, and of course there will be different means to achieve the same goal: to make the couple happy and happy. Since the purpose is the same, the conflict can be resolved.
According to reports, a girl in Zhengzhou told that she wanted to hold a "three-no wedding", and her parents were firmly opposed at first, arguing about it and often crying. But after the wedding, the father called**, recognized the wedding ceremony advocated by his daughter, felt very good, and admitted that he "used to be too traditional, but now I understand and accept such a wedding".
Looking at the macro era, in recent years, in addition to the visible living environment, some customs and concepts have also quietly changed in the vast rural areas. Advocating a "minimalist wedding" that costs less and enjoys oneself, isn't this a spontaneous change of customs by young people?
Frankly speaking, in traditional weddings, especially in some rural areas, there are places that do not conform to the concept of modern civilization, such as large-scale operations, sky-high bride prices, such as some wedding scenes are very unfriendly to the newlyweds or groomsmen and bridesmaids, and some red tape will make the newlyweds feel embarrassed and ashamed, and then produce fear of marriage. Do these have to be kept?
The former newcomers may not be able to resist the powerful traditional forces and are forced to endure them, but they should no longer inflict these unpleasant things on their children as "people who have come over". A truly beautiful wedding should be to please the couple, not to make yourself miserable and please others. The current "three-no wedding" can be seen as the beginning of young people taking charge of their own lives.
It's good to spend your money on it, or to have a party where you are the main character, family and friends, or to go on a trip to a distant land, or to do nothing at all, and save that money as a start-up fund for a new family. When more and more young people are brave enough to speak their minds and realize the wedding they want, a new social trend will gradually form.
The original title was "Insisting on the "Three-No Wedding", which is the beginning of young people leading their own lives" by Zhai Li **Red Star News).