Respecting the old and loving the young is the tradition of the Chinese nation, so many people are accustomed to believing that no matter how big a mistake an old man makes, his children should respect him and honor him. Therefore, there are many old people in the countryside who are disrespectful to the old, they do mischief, oppress their juniors, and ask them to support their old age when they are old.
My colleague is in her fifties, and her eyes are still full of tears when she talks about her grandmother, of course, this is not a tear of excitement and nostalgia, but a bitter tear of helplessness, and I will talk about his grandmother in his tone.
My grandmother was famous in our county, not because she was too capable or pretty, but because she was tough and too messy. My grandmother had four sons and two daughters, but she didn't seem to care about the children by nature, as long as any child offended her, she would be beaten to death, because she was so messing around, the whole family would never be at peace, so when my grandfather knew that he was sick, he did not cure it at all, but was bent on death, so he died early when he was in his fifties.
My grandmother, four sons, four daughters-in-law. Needless to say, my sons grew up under the beating of my grandmother, and their personalities are quite weak, as long as my grandma has a good life! My dad and three uncles were trembling with fear. My grandmother's four daughters-in-law were beaten by my grandmother as soon as they entered the door, in fact, according to my grandmother, why did she beat them? Mainly because I wanted to try the strength of each daughter-in-law, after beating the four daughters-in-law, I came to the conclusion that only the eldest daughter-in-law of the four daughters-in-law was easy to bully! (It's my mom.) The other three were still hard stubble, so in the rest of his life, my grandmother made bullying my mother his main life.
Once my mother went to work in the field, and when she came home, she found that my grandmother was beating my sister-in-law, obviously, my sister-in-law had been beaten very badly by my grandmother, her face was covered with blood, and her clothes were torn and did not look like it, my mother didn't know what was going on, so she hurriedly stepped forward to pull the fight, and my grandmother sprinkled all her anger on my mother, and punched and kicked my mother again. Later, my mother found out that the reason why my grandmother beat my sister-in-law was: when my sister-in-law was cooking, she was still nervous to embroider flowers for my grandmother, which was a good thing, because my sister-in-law hurried to work, but my grandmother didn't think so, he wanted to beat people for no reason, and after the beating, he also told people: "I wanted to suppress that little slut, but I didn't expect him to be quite fierce", and the actual situation is that two or three months later, my sister-in-law was beaten by my grandmother and her calves were suppurated.
Later, my sister-in-law got married, and my aunts also lived alone, my grandmother was like this, my aunts didn't want her at all, there was no way, she lived with us again. She lives with us, and she unfolds all the patterns of her bullying.
She doesn't do anything at home every day, but the tricks of the whole person are endless. At that time, my mother had just given birth to my younger brother, and during the confinement, my grandmother not only did not serve my mother, but directed my mother to do this and that for her. During the confinement, she wanted to eat artificially raw soybean vegetables, and my mother gave birth to a large pot for her, and during my mother's confinement, she asked my mother to put her hand in the cold water and pick up bean sprouts for her, so that later my mother's fingers and joints were out of shape. What is especially hateful is that according to her, in order to save resources and reduce waste, she did not let my mother burn the kang when my mother was confined. My mother sat on the cold kang, and the child couldn't dry the urine patch, so she had to press on her body to warm up. She wanted to eat popped beans, so my mother fried them for her, but she bullied people and spilled them on the street. I remember the year I was in junior high school, and I don't know how my mother offended my grandmother, who actually asked my father to divorce my mother. My dad and my mom naturally didn't agree to the divorce, so my grandmother went to the township every day to make trouble, and the people in the township ran away when they saw my grandmother. And my mother, who was weak, never dared to resist my grandmother's bullying, and when she really felt uncomfortable, she hid in a place where no one was and cried secretly.
When I saw my mother crying, I always said to her, "Leave my grandmother alone", but my mother replied with a smile with tears in her eyesEveryone has to be old and idleSuch an unreasonable old lady was still alive and died at the age of 87.
I remember one of our former neighbors who met my mother and asked, "Where is that old lady of yours taking care of?" When my mom said that she was at my house, the neighbor was very surprised and said, ".It's too hard to figure out how to retire in your home. It seems that whoever people bully all their lives will rely on to support them when they are old
In fact, I can understand the choice of the old ladyBecause she can bully her daughter-in-law, at home, she will always be the boss, she can do whatever she wants, and life is naturally smooth. As for the others, at home, it is estimated that she has become the target of bullying.
Although the old lady has always bullied her daughter-in-law all her life, when she is old, her daughter-in-law has to serve herBecause she is an old man, an elder. If the daughter-in-law holds a grudge and does not serve the elderly, no matter how much fault the old man is, people may think that it is the daughter-in-law's fault. This is also what people have been accustomed to thinking about filial piety for thousands of years. But this situation has changed now, if any daughter-in-law meets such a messy mother-in-law again, it is estimated that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become enemies, and the mother-in-law still wants her daughter-in-law to support her for the elderly, it will really become a pipe dream.